hey bro hey doing today okay okay a little bit anxious lately I've got a lot
of pressure coming up at work and as we talked about before work is kind of a
struggle for me because of all the pressure I'm under so so you feel a bit
anxious and it's work-related yeah so what's going on there well I'm a member
HR and I'm part like we have hiring fairs and other things where we need to
hire people and there's only like like two or three of us to do the job and
next week we have something event where we need to hire some people and I'm just
really worried about hiring the right people and and when making these tough
decisions about like the future of our company all right so you're worried that
show select people that aren't ideal for the positions right like that's happened
before where someone's done that and hired some wrong people and like some
things happen in the company and then that person got in trouble for it so I
just want to make sure I hire like people who are gonna be good for our
company and there's a lot that rests on like my judgment and the worrying it's
in a way of the judgement yeah because I kind of second-guess my instincts on you
know people and if they're oh they will be good how long has the worrying been
part of your life first of all cuz I can remember I'm just like warrior like I
worry about everything we're but everything so not just not just
interviewing people but other areas as well yeah definitely but this is
reviewing people this worry is more intense right now this is what you're
thinking about now right like I don't want to be fired for you know hiring the
wrong people I don't want my company to not do well
because I hired the wrong people like it's a lot of pressure for me I feel
like so I'm really nervous all right so it sounds like you're really struggling
with this you're worried about your the company you work for in your own job
yeah in performance and you mentioned that you're a worrier yeah yeah I feel
like I worry about everything it's kind of how you view yourself definitely so
what if we reframe this another way and think about the worry as a separate
entity I see you're kind of identifying as a warrior now it's like it's part of
you right like it's Who I am like it's who you are max you allottee
the worry is external to a degree right so so let's have you here
let's move the worry over here a bit and think of the worry it's almost a
separate entity okay so what's the worry trying to do to you what's the separate
entity of worry trying to do the worry seems like it's trying to make me doubt
myself and you know question my own judgment and not have faith that I'll
make the right choice all right so it's generally disrupting you from here yeah
I don't have as much confidence
all right so the worry is over here sori is over here and it's making his
attempts to lower your confidence make you question how good you are your job
right in a way it's trying to manipulate you into believing those things right
what is evidence suggest in terms of your history in this particular function
is a function of interviewing people have you performed I mean I think I've
done it okay so far like I've been doing this particular job for a while now and
I'm one of the people they rely on to do it the most like to hire the most people
so I mean I would say I'm doing a pretty good job
um right now but it's kind of like you know seeing what happened to somebody
else I'm kind of like worried about that so the evidence tells you that your
evaluate the evidence approach that you're doing you're doing okay in that
job but you see other people that haven't done this well right and that's
when that worry comes back and tries to convince you that you're right you're
not going to do well so what what do you say to the worry the next time it comes
in like what can you what can you communicate to the worried I mean I
guess I could say that so far I've hired some people who have been worthwhile to
the company and you know they trust me to do this job my bosses trust me to
this job so new chances are I'll make an informed decision based on my experience
that's the that's the challenge that you can put up against worry when it comes
to right to try to influence you right is that something you feel you can
do the next time you have thoughts of worry it's hard sometimes yeah because I
feel like the worried voice is really loud sometimes so strong too strong boy
yeah try to think of it when when that voice is audible try to think of it as
something external not necessary something internal like
you're a warrior like that thought but more like worries outside of me and
worries trying to come in like trying to influence or manipulate me
exactly okay yeah try to try to reframe it in that way rather than identifying
as a worry I know that's real for you and that's how you identify but let's
let's try this experiment we'll retreat the worry is kind of an outsider
that's encroaching in on your territory and disrupting okay your job a bit and
then your your job then would be to challenge the the thoughts of that worry
tries to introduce okay that make sense so when is the next time you'll be
interviewing people for your job next Wednesday X Y Z so you feel like next
Wednesday you can apply that kind of reframe yeah I think so
all right give that a try and I'll see you in a week and we'll we'll build from
there okay thank you thanks April