Breaking the habit of struggling for what you want 4 steps to create a new habit law of attraction
you
although many people are able to identify exactly what they want from
life there is a tendency to follow that one with a statement similar to but I
struggle with this because or but the problem is and this declaration is the
exact thing that blocks their manifestation from showing up the word
struggle has been such an ingrained part of our vocabulary that many rarely even
realize they're saying or thinking it and yet it's such a powerful word we're
taught that in order to succeed we must go through struggle or that struggling
makes us stronger and then there are the often times ironically used statements
such as the struggle is real but the struggle doesn't have to be real at all
although it's important to not become lazy indifferent insensitive or selfish
all of these can be avoided without struggle
we can understand what struggle means without having it as a part of our life
struggling is a choice it's a habit a learned behavior one that can be
unlearned if you choose struggle you block your success overcoming it and the
meaning it holds in your life removes the veil that stands between you and
what you want because the feeling of struggling can be so powerful it often
becomes an ingrained habit in a person's life a habit is a settled or regular
tendency or practice the number of habits that we each have is large in
capacity this is simply how our brains work the brain likes familiarity
some of our habits have positive impacts on our lives and others have negative
Breaking the habit of struggling for what you want (negative thoughts and emotions) 4 steps to create a new habit law of attraction
ones we can create habits deliberately although many of them are in our lives
by default habits are created through our thoughts repetition and the sum
total of all of our past experiences we learn how to drive a car through habit
we know to say thank you at the appropriate time because it's become a
habit we can sing the words to a favorite song
because of habit we close the door behind us due to habit and we know how
to struggle because it becomes a habit all of your habits have made you who you
are today and dictate the type of life that you live they have created your
self-image which is the sum total of all your habits
old habits can take time and dedication to change because they form behavioral
patterns these behavioral patterns create neural
pathways that the mind relies on and in turn creates more of the behaviors that
align with them in other words if we've always believed that life is a struggle
our behavior will be in alignment with struggling which will produce more of it
however the habit of struggle can be transformed in fact any habit can be
altered if you understand how habits work and what to do to change them
behavioral psychologists indicate a four step pattern that have it scary they are
known as the four R's reminder routine reward and repetition the reminder is
the trigger that initiates the habit for instance if an unexpected bill comes in
Breaking the habit of struggling for what you want (break the bad habits) 4 steps to create a new habit law of attraction
the mail it may be a reminder of a time in your past when you had difficulty
paying your bills the routine is the behavior or action
that you take because of the reminder you may succumb to self defeat or self
sabotage by telling yourself that you can't achieve your goals because
struggling is just a part of your reality the next step is the reward the
reward is the benefit you get from performing the action most likely this
behavior is safe and keeps your mind within the boundaries of your self-image
which is something it likes to do and finally repetition repeat these three
steps enough times and it becomes a habit but these four components can be
used to your advantage once you understand the process new habits can be
formed and old habits can be eliminated the best way to eliminate an old habit
is by replacing it with a new one this encourages a new neural pathway to be
etched within the mind when focusing on the new habit the old habit will
eventually dissolve here's how we do it number one the reminder is a crucial
component in creating a new habit because of our memory and the motivation
of the mind we often fall back into the old habit of doing things even when it's
not something we want to establish a good reminder and begin encoding it into
your behavior it's important to attach your new reminder to a positive habit
that you already have for example write a list of things that you do each and
every day we all have daily habits to keep our
lives moving in a positive direction our mind likes these habits because they are
rooted in survival in one sense or another for instance brushing our teeth
Breaking the habit of struggling for what you want 4 steps to create a new habit "law of attraction"
taking a shower eating a meal putting our clothes on locking the front door or
taking a vitamin
next make a second list of things that seem to happen in your life without fail
each and every day these can be as simple as getting an email or a text
carpooling the children or stopping at a traffic light when you have your two
lists in front of you you should be able to identify several reminders to be the
trigger for the new habit you're developing simply pick your reminders
that you want to use by following the habits that you naturally have during
your daily routine step number two is creating a new routine it's best to
start small with this step and move up incrementally so your mind doesn't
reject the new information when your reminder from your list is noticed
you'll perform an action step that begins to create your new routine in
order to open your mind to new possibilities and move past struggle
this action step can be as simple as repeating the word success five to ten
times every time one of your reminders shows up
if you were to say I am always successful in everything I do at the
start of trying to create your new routine your mind may not believe that
statement so baby steps are important in developing the new habit in the
beginning of developing this new habit it's not as important to get the action
perfect as it is to develop the second are the routine
simply resolved that you will stick with the new habit each time you see your
reminder and realize that you can perfect the action step as the routine
Breaking the habit of struggling for what you want 4 steps to create a new habit law of attraction
is developed for instance once you've done this for a few weeks you can begin
to change your statement - I am success and then move up later to I am always
successful in everything I do as the new routine becomes a new habit your mind
will be more than willing to work with you as you gently show it what you want
step number three is giving yourself a reward you're making a deliberate change
and you deserve to be rewarded for it the brain loves to feel good and it
loves reinforcement whenever you've successfully used your
reminder to change your routine tell yourself you're doing a great job or you
did well today or look at how awesome you are you're changing your life this
supports satisfaction within your mind the reward pathway of the mind is
connected to areas of the brain that control behavior and memory
when a reward is given this pathway is strengthened significantly and begins to
cement the new routine into a new habit be certain the statements you say to
yourself feel good the more emotion the greater the reward to the mind step 4 is
simply maintaining the repetition consciously decide that when you
reminder cues you you will do something in your routine to create the new habit
Breaking the habit of struggling for what you want 4 steps to create a new habit law of attraction
do this each and every day multiple times per day the repetition is crucial
for this to become something that lasts each step assists in building a new
neural pathway that creates the new habit when you consciously understand
that 90% of all of your decisions are made as a result of the habits that your
subconscious mind keeps and that some of these habits block your success you have
the opportunity to create new automatic behaviors and habits that align you with
what you want struggling is a habit and it's also a
choice just as success is a habit and also a choice we do not have to allow
what has happened in our past to dictate our present or our future if you've
struggled with getting what you want in the past you can make the decision that
you will not consult with that experience any further
you can decide today to begin developing a new habit the habit of success it's
simply a choice
Breaking the habit of struggling for what you want 4 steps to create a new habit law of attraction