We all know that narcissists cause stress.
But did you know that
and I'm actually gonna talk
about that in this video.
So you're not gonna want to miss this.
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So ways that the narcissist
put stress on your body
and you're gonna wanna watch all the way
till the end because there's something
that I didn't know about there's something
really that everybody
thinks that they know about
but it's actually something that it's
not as common as you might think.
Something that everybody thinks is super common
and it's something that's
different than everyone might think
that I wanna tell you all about at the end here.
You know, you're just so hired all the time.
You didn't even realize how tired you are.
You know, it affects like your sleep.
I mean, I know for me
when I was dealing with a narcissist.
All the time.
I had a narcissistic business partner
and my husband and I actually have a
narcissist in our family that we had to
draw some really pretty strict boundaries with
until we even realized that I was waking up
in the middle of the night thinking about it.
I was thinking about it in the morning
and during the day and brushing
my teeth and all of this stuff
and it just it takes all of your energy and
you don't even realize what's going on.
It really causes this massive amount
of fatigue and stress on your body
and so you have this chronic fatigue going
on and you don't even realize how tired
you are until you start to recover from it.
So that's number one
you just chronically fatigue and tired
and you don't even realize why.
That's the first one.
Another way that narcissist puts stress on your body
it really is actually stemming from
the adrenal problems and the
chronic fatigue
Because what happens is when you
have so much stress on your body.
It actually starts to cause issues
with your A1C levels
and it slows down all kinds of other issues in your body,
your metabolism and everything else
and so you actually start to develop weight problems,
which actually causes all kinds
of other issues in your body.
Not to mention problems in your joints,
which in turn causes more problems with fatigue
and more problems with your other systems
and your other organs and everything else.
One contributes to the other.
It's just an ongoing cycle with that
because once you systems all start slowing down,
then your your weight problems compound
and then that actually causes
more issues with everything else.
And then you're feeling worse
about yourself and then,
you know, especially if your narcissist
is maybe even making
you feel bad about how your weight problems.
You know, are making you look
or something like that.
It just even contributes worse
you feel bad about yourself,
your self-esteem gets lower,
it's just compounding,
compounding, compounding
and so that leads me to number three,
You know, this is where it starts
to affect your mental health.
And now, you really don't have the energy
or the wherewithal to want to do
anything about losing weight
or you don't feel you just feel lethargic
and you don't want to do anything about getting out
of bed or you don't have energy to
wanna get up and go exercise.
You don't have the the joy or
the lightness or this feeling in your body,
I mean, vibrationally your energy levels.
I mean, you can actually measure in hurts.
How you're feeling and the lower level of
emotions are actually lower vibrational
as far as how you measure.
So feelings such as sadness or anger or regret.
You know, those lower level feelings
are actually lower vibrational energies,
feelings such as happiness
and joy and contentment.
They're much, much higher vibrational energy levels
and so it's interesting because
you don't feel like doing
anything in it all ends up compounding on itself.
And so that takes its toll on your body
because you just don't feel like doing anything
and then it gets worse and worse and worse.
This especially if this person is now continuing to
degrade you or debate you or say
things to you like you're worthless
or you're good for nothing or
no one loves you or
I've talked to everybody in the neighborhood
and everybody agrees with me that you're
worthless or no one in your family even loves you.
You know, and they say these things like that.
And you know, I have a whole video on
the kinds of phrases that narcissist use.
You know, narcissist's favorite phrases,
which you can definitely check out.
You know, they stay these things by the way because
they don't feel good about themselves.
They hate themselves
and you know, you need to
take care of yourself and you need to have self care,
and I have a whole video on
Self-care to cope with narcissists,
which you should definitely
check out.
And so they lie to you.
They say these things
because they feel like crap about
themselves and they hate themselves
and you know, the way people
treat other people is always a
reflection of the way they feel about themselves.
It’s nothing to do with you and
you can't take it personally.
I know it's easier said than done, but it is the truth.
So these are just a few of the ways that
narcissist put stress on your body.
Another one is number four,
You know, you can start to
develop issues with autoimmune diseases,
irritable bowel syndrome,
fibromyalgia, lupus,
all sorts of issues like that.
I've heard many people talk about
those kinds of things to me
and you know, that's a major problem.
A major problem.
You know, which is why you definitely
need to start taking care of yourself
even if it's just breathing exercises,
somatic exercises.
You know, put your hand on your heart.
Put your hand on your stomach
in the morning and say,
I am healthy,
I am loved,
I am at peace.
You know, to start doing those kinds of things.
Start at least a few times a day,
stop and take some deep breaths
and when you're in stress.
You don't realize that you start breathing
in a much more shallow way
and then your cells are not getting oxygen to them.
And so you know, set your alarm a
couple of times a day to go off
and just take some deep breaths and breathe deeply
a few times a day just even that
will make a huge difference for you.
So I want you to put in the comments right now,
“BREATHE!”
to remind yourself to breathe.
Because just doing that I don't want
you to do that right now.
Take a couple of deep breaths
and when you breathe in just remind
yourself to breathe in positive energy
and when you breathe out,
breathe out all of that negative
energy that you are holding in.
Imagine you're breathing in positive energy
and when you breathe out,
you're just exhailing and you're
getting rid of negative energy
and just doing that makes a huge difference
and number five
And I'm saying this because most
people think of PTSD
and the difference by the way is PTSD is
when you have been exposed to
one set of events in a quick manner.
So PTSD is you know,
like a car accident or a war or something.
You know, one thing.
A complex PTSD.
So complex post traumatic stress disorder
means that you have been exposed
to something continuously over a long period of time,
and it actually eyes is a much greater
effect over time on your body.
So it's complex post traumatic stress disorder
and that is much,
much worse for you and that's
what happens with people who have been in
longer term relationships with narcissists and
that's what I wanted to tell you about is number five
and how narcissists put stress on your body
and that is why it is so important that
you take care of yourself That is why
it is so important that you you look
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