How To GLOW UP As Adult Man [0:00:00]
So, have you ever heard of the Japanese Shinto practice of misogi?
In a sense, it's a ritual purification that includes washing in extremely cold water.
Now, from this in the last few years, we've seen people popularize The Misogi Challenge.
And that's the idea that you take on a challenge so difficult you've only got a 50% chance
to complete it.
But, if you are able to, for the next year, you're going to look back and then say, “Wow!
That was amazing.”
And even if you fail, the fact that you actually put forth your best effort is going to show
you what you're capable of.
In the fitness world, I've seen tons of examples, 12-hour challenges from 6:00 o'clock at night
to 6:00 o'clock in the morning.
Basically, continuous exercise with a few rests here or there, so that you can actually
see what your body's capable.
And a well-known example is The Murph.
This is a one mile run, 100 pull-ups, 200 push-ups, 300 squats, and then another one
mile run, all while wearing a 20 pound vest.
And the challenge doesn't have to be physical, you could choose to fast and not eat for a
period of a day or two.
All that being said, gents, what's the point, why challenge yourself, why torture yourself,
why push yourself to the utmost limit?
The answer, gents, is perspective.
The reality is when we get busy with life, we lose perspective.
We forget about what it's really like to go through something tough, to go through something
hard.
So, whenever you challenge yourself, once a year you put yourself through something
that, hey, forces you to remember what it's like to go through a bit of pain, go through
something that is incredibly uncomfortable, go through something and it shows you what
you're capable of.
[Music] Now, if that Misogi Challenge sounds like
way too much, you don't have a full day to dedicate, you don't have a week to go off
to some type of retreat, how about just simply start the morning off hard?
So, this is my son, this is what he does first thing in the morning for the last couple weeks.
I'm pretty proud of him getting in there and a simple ice bath.
Notice he's just using a plastic tub.
Lucky for us it is freezing cold outside.
He was going out, yeah, zero degrees breaking the ice and getting right in there.
Now, me personally, not my thing, but I am getting up at 5:30 and I am meeting with a
personal trainer one-on-one via the internet.
Actually, relatively affordable and she is pushing me for an hour from 6:00 AM to 7:00
AM every single morning doing burpees, all those exercises that I have to admit I hate,
but afterwards, I feel amazing.
Now, I do find that fitness is one of the easiest and best examples because we all need
to take care of our bodies.
Most of us aren't doing a great job.
And you can't find someone relatively easy if you look around to hold you accountable.
It doesn't cost you anything, somebody that will meet you at the gym, somebody that's
already going to the gym, simply paying for a gym membership, having somebody that will
drive and follow as you run around.
I mean, look around, you’ve probably got somebody out there that is willing to commit
to at least one time.
And that's how it starts, gents, just showing up one time and then, it turns into two, then
it turns into four, then it turns into eight.
And you keep that streak going, next thing you know all of a sudden, you've developed
the habit of starting the day off hard.
Now, part of glowing up, gents, is maturing and starting to see the world as it is, not
as necessarily we hope it to be.
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your identity, get access to your accounts.
In fact, since this video was started, probably a dozen people have had identity theft hit
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Now, this next tip to glow up, gents, I'll admit is probably the hardest one on this
list to actually do because it does change over time.
And most men, we would rather be on our phones, we'd rather stay busy than think about this.
[0:04:57] And that is who do you really want to be?
Have you thought about what you want to get out of this one life?
Have you written it down?
Because oftentimes we fall into choices, we end up doing things that have nothing to do,
they don't serve our end goal, where we want to be in life.
So, you got to have the courage to go your own way.
I know that people use that term the whole MGTOW movement.
That's not what I'm talking about.
I'm talking about having the courage to say no and to cut things out of your life that
don't need to be there.
I'll use the example of alcohol.
I loved partying.
Yes, I was that party guy in my early and mid-20s.
And then, I realized at a point especially I was in the Marine Corps and I was in charge
of all of these other marines as a young officer, and I realized, you know what?
Me going out and being drunk, this isn't really serving your purpose, it was costing me a
lot of money.
A friend of mine got a DUI and it really threw his whole career off and all of a sudden,
I realized, wow, like this is adding risk to my life, I'm not really getting much benefit
from this.
I'm not feeling great in the morning, I'm hangover.
And I realized it was because everyone around me was drinking and partying it up.
And I just decided to cut that stuff out of my life.
It became very difficult because I married a Ukrainian woman.
Anyone that’s familiar with the Slavic culture, you've got friends that are Belarusian, Russian,
Bulgarian.
I mean, just, you know, let's just say that they like to drink over there and it goes
with every single meal.
And it was very difficult to say no, but it became easier the more I said it and when
I really realized it had nothing to do with my -- I mean, there's a reason I don't smoke.
Nothing against anyone smoking pot or anything like that, but for me it doesn't align with
my goals.
And I've been around people that they -- they try to when people are enjoying something,
they want you to jump in, but if it doesn't serve your goals, you've got to have the courage
to go your own way.
Everyone's partaking maybe in the sugary meal and you've cut sugar out of your life.
Whatever it may be, guys, you got to have the courage to stick to your guns, to know,
hey, this is my direction, these are my goals.
Maybe it's you want to be a high level athlete, maybe you just simply want to live longer,
maybe you want to cut weight.
Whatever it may be, look at what you got to cut off and don't let that peer pressure,
you know, throw you off track and throw you in a direction that, yeah, is going to be
not -- not where you want to be.
Now, how to know where you want to go?
Well, guys, maybe put together a vision board.
If that's a little bit too much for you, a little bit, you know, woo-woo, well, then
simply write out a mission statement, simply life goals.
Where do you see yourself in 20 years?
What does that person look like?
Where does he live?
The more details you can paint this picture.
Maybe you just simply want to design your dream home, but the more details you can put
into this, all of a sudden, you're going to realize, well, guess what?
I need to know what type of land I'm going to build this on.
If I'm going to, you know, the structure that you start to just get into this, but the more
details you can put down here, the more likely you are to achieve and to go towards that
goal.
The next tip to glow up to transform yourself into your best person, guys, journal.
So, this is my old journal 20 years ago, I wrote in this.
And what I love about this is I can go back and I can see my thoughts, my ideas, basically
what was important to me, what was going through my head, a lot of work.
But, I would flip this and I would write my personal ideas on here.
I've just got tons of these journals that I can go back and check out.
And to this day, I still go through and I've got journals lying all over the place.
I'm not consistent in them, but it is something I do -- I've got journals from five years
ago right over here, journals from two years ago right over there and I can go grab them.
And you don't have to grab one that is fully structured.
Something like this is cool.
But you can just simply have a notebook with paper and write down your thoughts.
Go through what's important today, what are you going to do tomorrow, what's the focus
for this week for the rest of this month.
But actually writing that information out, you're getting it out of your head and you're
actually it's an exercise that men have been doing for thousands of years.
Seriously, one of the greatest books ever written, Marcus Aurelius' Meditations was
his own private journal.
He never meant for this actually to go to the public.
Oh, thank goodness, it was saved.
But, these were his own thoughts.
Basically, he was getting the demons out of his head.
He was taking those self-doubts, he was writing about things that he was wrestling with, problems
that he faced even as the most powerful man on the world.
So, if journaling worked for the most powerful man in the world, there's a chance it could
actually help you.
I know for me personally just the act the exercise of writing things out, even if I'm
writing out what I wrote the same stuff I wrote out the day before, it just puts me
at peace.
I feel like I have more control over my day and it calms me down and just simply makes
the entire day much more enjoyable.
Now, today's video, gents, I'm getting a little bit deeper, talking a little bit philosophical,
some deep topics.
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And they share it with more men and that's a good thing because I think more guys need
to watch videos like this.
Now, this next tip to glow up is to start tracking your sleep to gamify it.
I found that this was the best way for me.
And if you've got suggestions, guys, I'd love to hear from you down in the description.
I use Oura ring.
There are tons of other options trackers.
You can use your Apple watch.
There are tons of sleep trackers, some that can go right under the bed.
Find what works for you.
Make this one-time investment, but all of a sudden, you are going to reap the benefits
if you're into gamification. [0:09:59]
I know a lot of you guys love to game.
If you're into video games, this is going to work for you because simply you're tracking
it, you're looking at it.
Every single day you're saying, “You know what?
Can I get a higher sleep efficiency?
I'm in bed for I thought eight hours, but my goodness, I'm only sleeping six.”
So, when you see something like that, it starts to make sense when you have a bad night's
sleep and you can verify, you notice.
I mean, I picked up that if I eat late at night, I mean, this sounds obvious to a lot
of people, but I didn't think it affected me.
But apparently, when I eat food after 8:00 o'clock at night, if I'm going to bed at 9:00,
9:30, I'm not going to sleep well.
I need at least two to three hours to digest my food.
So, I made a rule, hey, I don't eat past 7:00 o'clock at night.
If I am hungry, I'm -- I've got to shake, you know, that I can drink some with some
liquids and stuff.
But, something like that being able to measure and see it has helped me improve my sleep
over the last couple years.
And by the way, I'm harping on sleep because I assume that we all agree that sleep is so
important for not only your looks and your appearance, but simply your body to be able
to recover, for you to be able to think clearly the next day.
I mean, you've traveled, right?
You've gone to a hotel, you've gotten that beautiful 10 hours of solid sleep.
Well, how could you replicate that at your house and feel like you do after your well-rested
of a night of traveling?
I know, I went and got a nice mattress.
I've tried to find some blackout curtains, but everything.
You can even lower the temperature in your room.
Find a way to optimize your sleep and all of a sudden, your waking hours are going to
be so much more efficient and effective.
The next tip to glow up, stop acting like you're going to live forever, incredibly important.
If you don't take anything else from this video, write this one down.
Because think about it, if you knew that you are going to be dead in six months, what would
you -- what would you cut off?
What would you stop doing?
This is an important question most people don't ask themselves.
But, you read these stories about people that all of a sudden get a diagnosis from a doctor,
they have some type of terminal cancer.
It happened to my friend, Jay.
He had nine months and for him it was about, okay, putting everything in line, spending
time with his family.
He still worked a bit because he loved what he did, but he really just started he cut
off the bull – [beeping sound].
And that's what you need to do.
And the sooner you can do that, the sooner you are going to mature up, you're going to
-- people are going to realize, hey, this guy, he puts important things first, he doesn't
deal with BS.
You still want to have meaning in your life and you find it maybe through your work, through
your church, through your friends, through building, you know, your community up, through
nonprofit, whatever it may be.
But being able to spot the time wasters the BS and be able to say no and to be, you know,
still nice to people, but to say, hey, you know, I don't have time for this because it
takes away from this.
And speaking of my friend, Jay, I just thought of this as I'm here filming the video, so
I'm throwing this one in.
But, have a purpose for living because he didn't live nine months, he actually lived
11 months because something amazing happened within a month of –he was going through
all these treatments.
He thought he was basically sterile, but his wife was pregnant all of a sudden with his
third child.
It ended up being his third son and he's like, wait a minute, like I have got to live to
see my son be born.
And I'll tell you that last couple months of his life, he was in bad shape.
He shouldn't have made it as long as he did, but he was able to be there at the birth of
his son.
And then, I think within a week of his son being born, he passed away.
And what's interesting is you go back and look at history.
I think it was Thomas Jefferson and John Adams died on the same day.
And that same day was the 50th anniversary of the signing of the Declaration of Independence.
Now, what were the chances that would happen?
And people have looked at this and for me, it's the case and it's all, yes, it could
be coincidence, but it's more likely attributed to these guys knew what they wanted to be
able to see.
I mean, these guys were founding fathers, they had written the documents that this country
is still formed on.
And so, you know, I can see how these guys had they wanted to live to see this important
anniversary, this 50th anniversary of this young country surviving.
And they were like, you know, hey, I'm going to live to this point.
And when it passed, okay, you know, go ahead and they could just simply rest.
My point, gents, is when you know what you live for, you know what your why is your purpose,
believe me, all of a sudden you walk with more confidence, you stand with pride, you
know what you're about, and people notice.
And speaking of people, the next tip to glow up is to understand that socializing that
engaging with people even if you're an introvert, it's a game.
It's just simply a matter of going up, talking with people, listening to them, becoming good
at small talk.
People give a lot of weight to this.
When somebody can go in and start the conversation, isn't afraid to introduce themselves, start
talking.
One trick that I always fall to is I act like somebody likes me before I even really know
them and I just have a little bit of fun with them, I'm engaging with them.
I treat them like an old friend.
And my body language doesn't lie, I truly want to engage with this person.
And I always try to find something interesting in anyone.
I'm surrounded by farmers, Green Bay Packers and, you know, everyone around here wants
to talk about hunting, this is Wisconsin.
[0:14:58] Well, guess what?
You know, I'm not a Packer fan.
I do like to go shoot, but I'm not into farming, but I always find something to talk about
because I've learned to ask certain questions.
I let people talk.
I want to learn more about their tractor.
I want to learn more about how did the hunting go this season.
You know, I want to hear more about, you know, their rifles and all these details because
I'm taking a genuine interest to a degree.
And, sometimes they do drone on, but I like to maybe bring the conversation back and I
look at it as an art form as a game as something that I just simply enjoy meeting and talking
with people.
And you'll find you have so much in common.
I know as a father, I love talking about kids with other with parents.
They always light up when they can talk about their kids.
But, maybe you're big into history, maybe you're big into your church, maybe you're
big into, you know, just simply getting that nonprofit off the ground.
Well, talk to people about donations they make, talk to people about, you know, what
do they think about, you know, all these different -- you just find something.
And when you can find that common ground, all of a sudden the conversation becomes like
a game of tennis.
You're kind of going back and forth.
One person is talking, the other person is listening.
And maybe oftentimes you are listening more than you are talking, but that's not a bad
thing.
Ask good questions and then people just like you more because, wow, you're a good listener,
those are pretty rare out there.
Now, as we're talking about glowing up, you know, improving your and style improving proving
your image, notice I haven't talked anything about style, anything about suits, anything
about clothing because I get it most of you guys are dressing casually.
Well, how do you step up your casual look as an adult man and look good?
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It's magic.
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