INFJs often have a vibrant, inspiring dream in their minds that helps them work through
the day-to-day of their present reality. From the outside, these dreams can seem far-fetched
and childish. But what most people don’t understand is that tenacious INFJs can and have
made these dreams a reality. They just had to follow the proper steps to it.
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Step 1: Pursue Dreams, not Wishes
You can’t give your all to something if it’s just a wish - a general kind of thing you want to do.
It needs to be something specific, something you can measure. Not only will this give you something
concrete to work towards, but it also lets you figure out the processes you need to go through
before the goal is achieved. This is particularly easy for INFJs to slip up on because it’s a
purpose-driven personality type. But if all you have is your base desire to make a change
without a set idea of what that change really is, it’s literally impossible to make progress.
“I want to help people” is a wish, “I want to create a financial self-education platform for
teens so when they graduate they can plan their financial future” is a dream you can
measure progress towards. Just trust that you can do it, and in the feeling that inspires it.
Step 2: Take Talented Action
INFJs are great at spotting issues and figuring out processes to make things happen. However,
when it comes to simply taking action, INFJs aren’t the most naturally gifted at this. Which
is why they often plan things out well, and stumble on the execution. This is where you
want to make things both easier and more effective for yourself by taking action in
ways that you’re already talented in doing. One way to do this is using your Extroverted
Feeling talent, that empathic ability to understand others and where they’re coming from,
as a way to communicate your mission. It also helps you “do for others to help them
do for you” meaning that the way you help others get what you want will be more congruent with
motivating them to help you get what you want. Many people run around in circles, getting
nowhere, but as an INFJ you have the ability to see how your actions will impact others and your
overall goals, meaning the action you take is more likely to lead to the result you desire.
Step 3: Finding the Process
Using and following the right process to achieve something is half the battle towards reaching your
goals. But find and understanding the process is its own challenge. This is why you have to
immerse yourself in the subject matter, meet or at least learn from the people in the field,
and build your understanding of all the different components of the machine you want to use and
be a part of. Luckily, your intuition will help guide you when it comes to figuring out what to
learn, who to connect with, and so on, as well as refining the process to your personal needs.
Just remember that once you find that process, you need to stick with it consistently to reap
the benefits. Trust the process you discovered and developed will bring you the results you desire.
Step 4: Let the Journey Inspire You
It’s easy to become obsessed with your goal and feel inferior when you don’t achieve it. This
is what happens to most people, and it’s why they grow so discouraged when they don’t achieve their
dream in short order. But when you focus on the journey, which is a natural extension of
the process you’re following, you can appreciate each victory, each step, each new understanding.
Which is essential, because the bigger your dream, the longer it’s likely going to take. Your dreams
are not a one-time event. They’re a lifetime event. So set your expectations on that,
vs allowing your feelings to make you feel like a failure. This is something you’re going to be
working at and on for a long time. So focus on the experience of doing that. On achieving the result,
not just the result itself. There’s a whole world between “done” and “not done.”
Step 5: Create Sub-Opportunities to Succeed at
It’s one thing to try and enjoy your path in theory. To decide “I’m going to value my journey,
not just my results.” But maintaining that attitude on its own strength over months or
years is very challenging, particularly with all the obstacles you’ll likely encounter.
That’s why you have to make sure you create opportunities for smaller victories that you
can enjoy. This does something else for you, too, because it gives you real achievements to focus
on in the future when you do stumble. Because it’s proof that the occasional hiccup is the exception
not the rule. That you’ve already made real progress towards your dream.
This is even more important for INFJs than it is for other personality types because your mixture
of trusting your intuition, planning things out, and taking what people say to heart opens you up
for intense disappointment when things don’t go well. It feels like your plan was off,
like you don’t know what you’re doing, like you can’t trust yourself to know what you’re doing,
and it’s all being validated by what people are saying. But when you create smaller
opportunities and goals to accomplish and build up a list of past victories,
you can access that memory and achievement when a simple “good attitude” would fail you.
This is also an important step because it helps you build momentum. As we’ve mentioned earlier,
INFJs are purpose-driven personality types, and when you have smaller representations of your
goal and you achieve them, it almost feels like you’ve already achieved the larger goal as well.
Because you’re experiencing some practical momentum, it generates personal- internal
-momentum as well. Which not only keeps you aligned with making progress toward your dream,
but actually improves the quality of the work you’re doing now. This creates
a positive feedback loop of achieving more results, feeling more fulfilled,
which then leads to achieving even greater results. Which is something every successful
INFJ feeds off of to get that snowball effect of fulfilling accomplishment in their lives.
Step 6: One Direction
The reality of working towards your dreams is that you can often do something exactly how you should,
but an outside factor comes along and muddles things up. It’s only natural - even just walking
down the sidewalk can be uneven and you need to adjust your balance to avoid falling over.
The problem is that since INFJs are so process and plan-focused, when things don’t go well for
a while, they grow frustrated. Unlike walking down the street, where you have an entire lifetime of
experience to remind you it’s not your fault things are uneven, in the process of pursuing
your grand dream, you’re often essentially flying blind. You’re still figuring things out as you go.
You’re expanding into new areas. And if things don’t go perfectly, it feels like the whole thing
is falling apart. Completing small victories reminds you that you can already do what you’ve
done, but it doesn’t necessarily reassure you if you say, went from developing a solution to
a problem but now you have no idea how to convince other people to give it a shot.
The INFJ tendency to rely on processes runs into its greatest obstacle here, because it
can feel like your process is wrong, when you might have just not focused on it long enough.
It’s important to remember that for your processes to work and be enjoyable,
for you to make progress toward your dream, and for you to achieve victories along the way,
you need to keep the same heading. You need to move in one direction the whole time,
focused on one goal- one dream. Otherwise you might as well be on a boat with a
captain that keeps changing its mind about where to sail; it’s impossible to reach
your destination because there isn’t one. So give yourself the time to make your progress,
and to acknowledge that just because you’re not seeing a desirable result now doesn’t mean
you won’t. Something going wrong doesn’t mean it went wrong because of you or your process.
Well, that wraps up today’s video, psych-os. So, if you’re an INFJ,
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