one of the most difficult things about learning English is understanding the
cultural norms Lia is hiding behind the coat Btitish people are very indirect so
we're going to give you some examples okay we are we're going to show you some
scenarios that you might encounter in England so that you can decipher the
what English people who are trying to say to you ...so we're about to
jump into the first scene remember that this video has been done in two parts
and you'll find the second part over on Joel and Leah's channel so make sure you
check that out I will leave a link to that video at the end of this... oh my gosh it's only six o'clock, where are we going next? oh I
can't hang around sorry oh really yeah it's just my cousin's
friend she's in hospital so . i've gotta go and visit her, and then I've got some shopping later that I've really got to do..that was so uncomfortable wasn't it
it was it certainly was why do people feel the need to make an excuse of that
extremity well I think this is really really British when we have to leave a
social situation like Joel on his day he didn't want to stay with Leah much
longer he's bored maybe he wasn't attracted to her and
instead of saying you know I want to go he had to come up with a very convincing
excuse this is very British even when I'm with good friends I always feel like
I have to say why I'm going I can't just say I'm off no I feel the same yeah you
can't you can't it's um it's British law and you probably couldn't say what you
actually want you couldn't say I want to I just want
to go home with chill no you don't say oh I want to have time away from you
goodbye I find it really interesting if you the
subscriber the person watching what's it like in your country if you're insecure
a situation like this you want to go home you want to do your own things
would you say I've got to go or would you can't with an excuse like Joel
saying your cousin zero or you have some really important things to be working on
I want to know so leave that in the comments below I I often use I've got a
class to attend to ah so gotta go I got class got a Skype class
so yeah I'm probably gonna leave her, really? I think that's for the best.
yeah whose round is it anyway? oh yeah that'd be great..erm make mine a Guinness and you have
whatever you want it's his round but he doesn't understand I just bought him a
drink I just hadn't I just boil him like a
pint and he didn't offer me around so I felt like I had to go and get another so
you're too - you're too polite for your own good and it takes a damage on your
wallet or your wallet takes the hit exactly my wallet takes the hit and to
be honest I probably wouldn't be so British and to not say look may I think
it's it's your round but do you think there are British people who are like
this charlie oh I think there's there's moments
especially if you've met them just that day maybe I think at a wedding this
could happen where you've been generous to begin with and a lot of time we we
squabble over that most like if you're polite enough you so say oh no I'll get
this first round do you do it to do that yeah absolutely like amongst my like
small group of friends in Bedford but we meet up for a drink
there's always one person who will want to buy the first round then it will
almost be an argument as to who will pay the first round like my friend Chris
always wants to get the first round he gives his card out means that I'll get
the first round okay the first row what do you want what do you know I know I'll
get it okay no no okay I'll get it first what do you want to drink I think that's
I think that's a bit of an ego boost because he he knows that the the first
round is the most sober round and everyone remembers that and it's
probably the cheapest because the shots come in later so he's he's doing a trick
there but a wedding scene I can imagine you've not met them before and you are
polite enough to say oh would you like a bottle of wine or something if the bride
and groom are being stingy and then after that bottle is kind of like they
disappear and then as I don't know get me and then you don't say it
yeah I think that's a good example so when Brits are around new people
they feel too awkward to say okay I think it's I got the last one so I think
maybe it's it's your turn to pay and we're - we're too polite and we'll go
and get another one we are too polite but then at the same time we also
backstab because we talk about each other behind our backs and we say he
didn't get me around last night and there's no person who's more frowned
upon in England than someone who doesn't buy around yeah sneaky it's probably
something I do you guys can you please leave your comments below about this
matter what do you do in your countries what's the habit of buying rounds and
what would you do in this situation in which I found myself would you have
bought another round or would you said look Mate it's your turn to buy ... So nice to see you.. OMG your hair! Did you get it done?
yeah I got a blow dry.. yeah? you are looking you I love your your your coat
is amazing so nice so it's lovely you've seen it lots of times
ah yeah it's so nice that's a warm was that uncomfortable for you it was
uncomfortable for me that was awkward as f****.. from my perspective, correct me if I'm wrong
charlie, but you were giving Lia a very genuine compliment about her hair
right I think so yeah I felt like I meant that compliment about her hair it
was new to me so I wanted to say it but Lea didn't really know how to respond
did she she didn't she kind of just felt a bit awkward she couldn't she couldn't
accept it and say yeah I'm really happy with it she kind of didn't know how to
say it and the way that she came back was she just instantly reciprocated with
something else yeah you you're looking you I love your your your coat is
amazing so nice but it didn't work it felt empty and we all go away feeling
uncomfortable and that's exactly what British people like to do we like to it
happens a lot yeah yeah we don't choose to but we do as it as a social group we
decide on making it uncomfortable it's kind of like as soon as they're not a
compliment comes to you you put up this shield like like you try and defend it
yeah you feel almost feel guilty receiving a compliment
you feel like ah I'm not deserving of this or I must give something back like
the other day I had a date and I haven't told you about this Charlie I
complimented her I said you don't get it really nice tonight
and then she instantly said the same thing back to me maybe she was thinking
it but yes I you don't need to reciprocate you know did you tell her
that did you say you don't need to say that say not going on a second date as
you well actually went quite well are you in good what about you Charlie can
you take a compliment I actually immediately try to think of something
funny to say back okay and if I said I you look
you're looking quite trim I can see that you've your workout really paying off
how would you respond to that I'm immediately trying to think of a joke
but it's not coming to me that's very British actually yeah you get a
compliment and you try to make light of it you try
to kind of just yourself deprecated or something so yeah that's that's the
British way compliment and respond with a joke if you can unlike me all respond
with a non genuine compliment about the other person but what about your country
tell us in the comments below what do you do
does it sound strange to you what do you think about ways
you