Heya playa, with the school year coming to a close you might be wondering now how am
I gonna be social and meet other people? Trust me on this, there are 5 other places that
you can meet people outside of school and I'm gonna share where they are right now.
For those of you that are new here, my name is Josh and every single week I make videos
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But before I get into this video, I do want to say that later on in this video I'm going
to share a resource with you that's going to help make your conversations stand out
no matter who you're talking to so stay tuned for that. Now the first place that you can
meet someone new is at an event in your area, whether it's at a concert or sports game there
are lots of things going around in your town or city so take advantage of them and put
yourself out there. Here's an example, a few years ago I wanted to go see Kina Grannis
in concert but none of my friends really cared about her and just didn't want to go. I knew
I would be going to that concert alone and one thing that scared me about is that I felt
like I would be awkwardly standing there by myself during the concert. The truth is, lots
of people go to concerts by themselves but for me particularly, I felt like it would
be weird. So, I told myself at this concert I wanted to make friends even if it was only
for the concert experience, I wanted to talk to people. I wanted to have someone to share
that experience with. But I was worried that these people would think I was some weirdo
just walking up to them and that's when it hit me. These people liked Kina Grannis as
well, we had that shared element in common. So, all I had to do was open up to them and
talk to them about Kina Grannis. I walked up to about three or four different groups
of people that night and the last group I approached was a group of girls that I just
became friends with for the concert. We enjoyed the music, we sung it out loud together and
we just enjoyed that experience together. To this day, I'm still friends with those
girls online and I learned a very valuable lesson that night. If you're putting yourself
outside of your comfort zone and going to an event, chances are everyone else there
has the same common interest as you so it's an easy conversation to start and an easy
way to make new friends. Plus if you spot someone there that you think is really cute,
you already have an in with them. You have a shared common interest and that's the perfect
place to start any conversation. The second way that you can meet new people that most
people just don't take advantage of is through a friend. Let's say this, let's say you have
one or two really close friends and those friends have one or two other close friends
and the network goes on and on, before you know it, there are tons of people outside
of your main circle that you've never met before. Those are your opportunities for you
to develop new friendships. Now I know you might be thinking, yeah but my friends really
only know the same people that I do, we don't really get out that much. But trust me, every
one has some level of external friendships. Whether it's someone they ride bikes with
in the neighborhood or someone they went to summer camp with. There are always other people
in our lives that we meet outside of school so you should always be willing to meet someone
else that's a friend of your friend and vice versa, introduce your friends to the people
you know outside of school. For example, a few years ago one of my guy friends was dating
a girl so he decided to bring her around to introduce her to all his friends. Well, in
turn we got to know her better and then she decided to introduce us to all her friends
so there were these two merging of the groups and we became close friends with all these
other girls. I would probably have not met that group of girls had I not been introduced
to them and as the years went on we became closer friends. Some of us got in relationships
with them, some of us became really good friends, overall we formed a friendship that lasted
years and years. Now this may mean merging with a different group of people, people you
didn't self select as friends but you have the opportunity to make new friends there.
To expand your circle even more, so why not just take it? The third place you can meet
people outside of school is by going to a party. Yes, maybe some of the same people
at your school will be at those parties but it's still an opportunity for you to meet
them outside of the school context in a more relaxed fun environment where you can actually
be more of yourself. Now you might be thinking, well, now that school is over and I don't
really talk to anyone, how am I gonna get invited to parties? This is where you need
to expand your idea of what a party actually is. Because to party with someone really just
means to hang out. To get a group of people together to just spend time together having
a good time. So one thing you can try doing is to get a bunch of people together to throw
your own party. Maybe you guys can all go bowling or have a pizza party or watch a movie
premiere together. Either way, organize an event and tell people to invite other people.
That's the best way to bring new people into your network. For example, years ago me and
my friends used to throw tons of themed parties and we'd invite all our friends which in turn
they would invite their friends which in turn gave me the opportunity to meet new people.
As I met those people, I would invite them to the next party and the chain would go on
and on. Sometimes putting yourself out there is about hosting and creating an experience
that people want to be a part of rather than hoping that other people invite you to theirs.
The fourth way that you can meet new people is by picking up a social hobby and putting
yourself out there to do it. Maybe that's joining a local sports team or forming a band
with you and your friends. Either way the whole point of it is to do something where
you're out of your element being out there in the real world where people can see you.
That way not only do you have the opportunity to make new friends with people that have
the same hobby as you, but there are also people who enjoy watching it and will come
watch you do it that you can then become friends with as well. Here's an example, I make YouTube
videos right? I'm pretty sure you're aware of that but through YouTube, I've made so
many new friends. Whether other creators that I highly respect and enjoy their content or
people that have been fans of my channel and have come talk to me. And while making YouTube
videos is a pretty isolating experience, I'm kind of here by myself right now it's still
a social experience for me because as I put up new videos and I interact with people,
I get their feedback, I learn their stories, I'm able to talk to people that I would never
talk to in any other circumstances I never would meet them. Not to mention I've met so
many of these awesome internet people in real life at places like Vidcon so, if you have
a hobby that you can connect with other people, even if it's online, that's still a way to
develop more friends and to be more social. And the fifth way that you can meet new people
is by getting a job. Now for some of you that might mean taking on a summer job which has
the benefit of giving you a little extra cash in your pocket but also always you to be a
little bit more social throughout the summer. Here's an example, back when I was in college
I decided to take on an internship. Now in this internship I would go every Friday and
it was through that program that I met different people. Other young people that were around
my age that I became closer friends with. And when college was finally out and I didn't
really see my college friends throughout the entire summer break, I knew that going to
this internship was still an opportunity for me to talk to these brand new people. To just
form new friendships, people that I could be friends with throughout the summer. Now
if you're taking on a summer job, that might mean befriending your coworkers or becoming
friends with the people that are regular customers that come to where you work. Either way it's
still something social for you to do. You're putting yourself in an environment where you're
interacting with people and I think the mistake that a lot of people make throughout the summer
is that they shut themselves out. They go into their hibernation stage and just stay
at home. But you're not gonna meet new people if you do that. School is an easy way to be
social, your crush is always there, your friends are always there, there's always people around.
So it's when you're not in school that you're faced with the real challenge to put yourself
out there in creative and different ways to make new friends. And how you might be thinking,
well now that I know where to meet people and how to go about doing it, what do I talk
to them about? And that's where this free guide comes in right here. These are 20 ice
breaker conversation starters. Things that you can use to kind of just get to know someone
to open up them and to get them to open up to you. Test them out guys, I've used them
tons of times and I know tons of you guys have as well and you told me you send me messages
saying that they have worked so go check it out. And after you check out that guide, what
I want you to do is to check out the video over here where I break down things that you
need to do before school ends. Trust me, before the school year ends you're gonna wanna make
sure that you have all these things in order so check out that video to see how you should
end things off with your crush and more. On that note guys, I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.