I figured it out everybody I was sitting here and I finally got a moment of
clarity and I figured out why Everybody Hates Chris what is everybody this is
Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the
solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about mental health
what I like to do is I typically pull different topics from the YouTube
community to try to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional
well-being so if any of that make sure you subscribe and ring that
notifications bell so real quick where you are watching this this was a
scheduled post because I'm actually gone today I'm doing stuff so my buddies from
the band rkvc who are featured right here I took this picture with them at
vid summit back in October yo you live in Vegas right I'm like yeah I do and
there's a convention going on it's called Affiliate Summit so then and a
bunch of other creators are in town so I'm gonna be there Monday and Tuesday
and more exciting news my buddy Charlie from the channel
authentic mental health he's gonna be there with me so if you're not following
me on social media go follow me on Instagram and Twitter at the reward so
I'll be taking pictures doing histogram stories tweeting out and stuff it's
gonna be awesome I'm super grateful that they're letting me tag along and go to
this cool a bit and hang out creators very very fun so yeah anyways this video
is going to be about this guy right here yeah I like to make videos like this
every once a while because I want you guys to kind of get aside my head and
learn about things that I do to improve my mental health and a lot of it is
through just acknowledging what thoughts are going through my head and something
I'm trying to teach you guys about mindfulness or journaling or whatever it
is is that it gives you clarity so many of us we're struggling with things that
we don't even realize it so something that my beautiful girlfriend points out
to me every now and then is that I focus on negative comments I focus on the way
like when I tweet out like negative comments that I reply to or whatever
like sometimes I just sit here reading them to her and I'm laughing
whatever and she's like wants to read some of the positive comments and like
it's kind of a struggle for me I finally figured it out I finally figured it out
so I want to share that with you because some of you might struggle with the same
thing that I do so first let's talk about a problem that I struggle with you
probably struggle with a lot of youtubers struggle with a lot of humans
in general struggle with and this is called negative bias okay
negative bias for those of you who don't know it's the way our brain develops and
it's for a very important reason so when you look at evolutionary psychology our
brains have to focus on negative more than positive because back in the day
way back in the day it helped keep us alive alright so for example if you
heard like a rustling sound in a bush and then a lion jumped out and you like
survive your brain is going to associate that sound of a rustle rustling in the
bush we're on danger alright so that's really important
because acknowledging that sound with danger is going to keep you alive so
that is actually going to develop a stronger neural pathway in your brain
than a positive experience but just positive experiences they feel good that
make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside but they're not necessarily there to
keep you alive so our brains even though we've evolved you know all this time our
brains still are more prone to the negative because our brains are still
trying to keep us safe our brains are pretty cool like that but
in 2019 what that means is we focus more on negative comments we focus more on
negative feedbacks so like for example they they say that like you know one one
criticism can take away like 10 20 complements and that's true because our
brains are designed to look at those more so when you look at youtubers and
things like that like one of the things I was talking about with like a million
four and some other YouTube creators that made videos on like they're they're
like me where they're missing out on a lot of positive comments because they
focus on the negative so that's something that a lot of us need to start
working on this is also a big issue for anybody who saw this with imposter
syndrome like something that I have to do is I have to force myself to focus on
the positive comments or I have somebody like Tristan who is here with me and
she's like yo why don't you check out some positive comments but there's
there's some more clarity that I got on this and I
realized why so now this is gonna switch into a little bit of a story time on why
I focus on the negative and there's some different periods of my life where I
notice this so when I got sober back in 2012 I remember being so nervous about
celebrating a year sober which you shouldn't worry about like worried about
getting a month first because when I got sober in Fresno California like when you
celebrated a year basis what happened was in the 12-step meeting you go up in
front you would share a little bit of your story then you would call out
people in the audience and all they did was say nice things about you and I
hated it I absolutely hated the thought of having a bunch of people compliment
me and one of the issues that a lot of us struggle with is that if we don't
love ourselves or like ourselves or if those are still issues that we're
working on we don't like compliments we don't alright so by the way if you can
relate to that let me know down in the comments below because I might need to
make some more videos about it or send some emails about how I've kind of
overcome back but like I hated compliments they made me feel
uncomfortable but one of the other things was I was an extremely judgmental
person very judgmental and like I'm still judgmental to this day but I don't
I try not to unfairly judge people but the way my brain worked was like anybody
who celebrated a success or positive feedback like to me those people were
gloating right like I would look at them I'm like oh oh cool guy over there oh
wow people like you you're so cool and I would look down on them for celebrating
their accomplishments right and this clarity that I got is that this still
sticks with me to this day so I realize that I'm more likely to
post negative comments about myself rather than your positive comments I'm
more likely to post negative comments on Twitter or on Instagram because I have
this fear that if I post the positive things like you know people saying how
much I've helped them or people saying this with that like I feel my brain
tells me like I feel like I'm gloating right and one of my biggest fears is my
ego going out of control right if you look in the comments I already have a
bunch of strangers who nobody country my egos huge but for real
like I try to keep my ego in check every single day because my ego could be my
worst enemy I have an old video if any of you want to go look it up and it's
about how I ruined my eSports career because of my addiction and I used to be
one of the world's top riders and travel all over the world for eSports a little
game called counter-strike if you've heard of it and I destroyed it partially
because of my addiction but partially because of my ego so something I do on a
daily basis is try to keep my ego in check like a lot of you like when you
come to me and tell me like how much I've helped or whatever like that like I
try to apply and let you know like you're the one who did the work like
don't give me credit I'm just a dude with a camera and a mic and an internet
connection like that's all I am like you're the one doing the work because if
I start taking credit for your successes that's what I start becoming this like
holier-than-thou figure at least in my own mind right and that will destroy me
that will destroy my youtube career that'll destroy my relationship with
Tristan that will destroy my relationship with my son that'll destroy
my relationship with all of you with my with my friends with family and all of
that so I'm trying to humble myself on a daily basis but something that I do need
to work on is finding that balance right but I think you know I made that video
about Gabby Hannah clapping back at somebody like I think like one of the
reasons I also like look at those and laugh about it and stuff like that maybe
they're still a part of me in the back of my head that feels like that person
feels like maybe their wife feels like I'm not that great or I don't know I
don't know see I'm going through my process right now with all of you but
also like I leave crap stalkers I need people to trash-talk me and kick
me down a notch that's something that I need that's something that a lot of us
need like when I look at other youtubers or even celebrities who like get to this
like you know massive ego states I'm like you don't have enough people in
your round by taking you down a notch you know what I'm saying so all of my
haters out there I thank you I appreciate that you come at me sideways
and tell me that I'm an idiot and know anything and I don't have any
credentials what fun comment I've been getting a lot lately is that just
because my mommy is a psychologist doesn't mean that I know what I'm
talking about thank you for reminding me about that but like I do things on a
regular basis to try to keep my ego in check and and yeah I don't know what the
solution for that is but it's something I'm still working on something that I
try to teach everybody is something that I work on myself is everything's about
balance right when it comes to mental health everything is about balance am i
doing this in excess am I not doing enough of it you know what I'm saying so
like sometimes I try to post the positive sometimes I you know like
especially on Twitter on Twitter I often like if you're not following me on
Twitter just so you know I retweet the hell out of everybody like if somebody
like thanks me or show some gratitude I retweet them right I do that but there's
still a small part of my brain that's like Chris don't retweet that people are
gonna think you're you're bragging think that you helped everybody and all that
you know but I need to do better at that but just so you know I do read 90% of
the comments so if you are saying kind awesome things I see those just the same
it's just that I don't publicly put them out there as much but I do appreciate
that I do it's just I still feel uncomfortable getting
compliments you know what I mean and I don't know if any of you can relate to
that I hope you enjoyed this video and I hope I'm not the only one who thinks
like that but anyways again a huge thank you to
our KBC as well as my buddy Charlie who's coming with me to Affiliate Summit
check out their channel so down in the description and I will talk to you all
soon I'll be back I might do a nighttime video or something I don't know anyways
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