hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about 10 things men do
that push women away now let's begin number one unwanted aggression many men ruin their chances
within the first few minutes you want to show her that you're confident and decisive so instead of
starting up a normal conversation you get physical before she even knows your name many guys think
confidence and aggression are the same thing but they're very very different in general women
aren't looking for men who are physically aggressive in fact your invasive behavior
makes you look creepy and desperate women are attracted to men who are confident in themselves
and confident men have no problem taking things slow they don't need aggressive tactics
to show a woman how confident they are their confidence is obvious to anyone who meets them
that's why confident men take a greater interest in their partner's pace and preferences they're
not afraid to make a move but they're always mindful of her personal boundaries so if you want
to show her that you're a confident person then don't be pushy and invasive take the relationship
at a pace that makes sense for you and for her otherwise you're going to ruin your chances
number two harmful expectations what do you expect from your partner in the early stages of
a relationship it's easy to get carried away you see potential in them you're excited to spend more
time together so you start to envision what your relationship might look like you've only been on a
couple of dates so you exaggerate your connection you get serious about them way too quickly
and you start expecting things that your partner can never provide the end result
is inevitably disappointment you get frustrated that things aren't working out the way you hoped
but how could they you were expecting things that your partner didn't know you wanted many
men expect women to read their minds they fail to communicate what they want or how they're feeling
so their expectations are always unsatisfied so if you want something it's your responsibility
to communicate your feelings it's your job to put you and your partner on the same page
but remember communication is not a guarantee you may voice an expectation out loud but your
partner always has the freedom to choose so don't blame your partner for doing something differently
if you pin your partner under your expectations then your connection doesn't stand a chance
number three demanding reassurance on average women don't like men who need constant reassurance
she wants to be with someone who's confident in themselves and in their connection okay let's
say you're worried a woman isn't interested in you but one day she tells you that she likes you
that's a big step in the right direction but your insecurities get the best of you you ask
her to tell you again and again and again you're forcing her to prove her feelings over and over
and that shows a frustrating level of self-doubt and insecurity if you're not careful that
insecurity can drive your partner away so instead of asking for reassurance really listen when she
makes her feelings clear then when you know how she feels find confidence in your connection
that confidence shows self-esteem but it also strengthens the bond between you and her
so if you're always worried about your relationship she's going to think something's
wrong and eventually something will be in the early stages of any partnership have faith in
the foundation that you're building and take steps to ease your nerves yeah new relationships
are scary and confusing but nothing sabotages a new connection faster than your own insecurity
number four the back burner your partner expects to be your number one priority
if you make plans she needs you to be there yeah it's important to balance your relationship with
your work your friends and your hobbies but no woman wants to be your number two
no one wants to be thrown on the back burner while you hang out with someone else
countless men drive women away with this neglectful habit
they make promises to the women in their lives but then they prioritize other people over her
so if you fail to make her a priority don't be surprised if she moves on to someone else
number five going overboard guys often hear this piece of advice if you want to get a
girl's attention then you have to be persistent in general it's good advice women want to know that
you're serious about them they want to see you pour your time and effort into your relationship
but many guys go overboard instead of being persistent they become annoying they'll send
a constant stream of texts they'll ask a million questions and they'll try way too
hard to impress her you may think you're being persistent but the truth is you're overdoing it
you should actively pursue the person you like you should find ways to show them that you care
but every relationship is a give and take if you've clearly expressed your interest then give
her a chance to express her own feelings otherwise you run the risk of going overboard number six
casual dishonesty do you bend the truth lying may feel like an easy out you may tell a white
lie just to keep the peace but every time you lie your dishonesty eats away at your relationship
dishonesty betrays the trust your partner has in you if your partner can't trust you your
connection's not going to grow because trust is a very difficult thing to regain once you've lost it
so no matter what you say she'll always think somewhere in the back of her mind that you're
not telling the truth to make matters worse many men try to ignore or brush off their dishonesty
they act like it's no big deal when they lie yet they expect 100 honesty from the women in their
lives but trust is a two-way street if you don't want to be lied to then it's your responsibility
to be honest with her so tell the truth be honest and direct even if it's inconvenient
number seven insulting insecurity some men feel intimidated by confident and successful women
her achievements make him feel small or inferior because her success triggers his insecurities
instead of addressing those insecurities a man may lash out by tearing down his partner alright let's
say a guy makes less money than his girlfriend on the surface he claims it doesn't bother him but
deep down it really does he feels insecure about how much money he makes and that insecurity shows
in his behavior so the next time she's talking about her job he makes fun of his girlfriend's
career he belittles her success why because he needs to compensate for his own failures
this insulting behavior can shatter any connection in seconds women want the men in their life to
build them up not put them down you want to be respected and valued right well the women in
your life want the exact same thing each time you belittle their achievements you're undercutting
all the hard work they've poured into their goals for most women this is a deal breaker
number eight passive listening successful partners are good listeners because listening skills are
fundamental to any relationship unfortunately countless men never learned how to listen
especially to the women in their lives alright imagine the two of you are at dinner
you're telling a story from your past and she's listening to what you're saying
she asks good questions she laughs at your jokes she smiles when you get excited but then you
finish talking and she starts to share a story of her own instead of listening you stop paying
attention you pretend to be listening but you're really thinking about what you want to say next
this is called passive listening and it's one of the most common reasons why men push women away
when a woman talks too many men lose focus women don't want to have a conversation with themselves
she wants to talk to you she wants to share her story her feelings and her ideas with you
otherwise she wouldn't bother saying anything so whenever you tune her out
you're sending her a message you're telling her that you don't value the things she has to say
and she hears that message loud and clear so if you're not a good listener sooner or later she'll
find someone who is number nine rushing their relationship how do you know when dating turns
into a relationship this is a tricky question and many guys get tripped up along the way
they rush into the relationship stage and their overenthusiasm backfires men commonly overestimate
how ready they are for a serious relationship they want the perks of having a girlfriend
without putting in the time or the effort and they rarely consider her feelings on the subject
you might want a relationship but she may not be ready for a serious commitment in her mind
you seem like a complete stranger relationships take time and lots of communication so be patient
don't worry if you're not checking all the boxes or using the right labels if you enjoy spending
time together those formalities will naturally fall into place number 10 possessive behavior
many guys get possessive early in the relationship after one or two dates they try to control their
partner's behavior they want to know who they're talking to at all times they get suspicious that
they're flirting with other men and they try to weigh in on their partner's choices
for most women this is a huge red flag she doesn't want to be treated like your possession yet many
guys get wrapped up in their jealousy and they try to control her every move unless you want to push
her away let her have her own life don't weigh in on every one of her choices the simple fact is
men and women want to be liked and trusted for who they are not who you want them to be hey thank you
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