- Hey-a, player.
We are just about ready to wrap up the year.
2020 has been insane, to say the least.
So, I wanna walk you through 10 of the best advice videos
I've put together this year.
If you're a new subscriber,
this should help bring you up to speed on what you missed.
And if you're a regular viewer, well,
this is gonna be the crash course
that's going to help prepare you for 2021.
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My name is Josh, and every single week
I make videos sharing tips, ideas and stories,
teaching you how to be your best self.
And one thing I really wanna highlight
is some of the success that this channel has gained
over this last year.
First off, we just hit 200,000 subscribers,
which is an awesome milestone.
As the channel continues to grow,
so do the opportunities to truly help people.
That's exactly what I aim to do with my book,
"Embracing the Awkward" which, by the way,
has sold over 3000 copies.
This is a guide for teens to succeed
at school, life, and relationships.
So you should definitely check it out.
And that's not the only book that I have.
I finally published my first teen novel, "Higher Ground,"
which is all about a high school student
dealing with teenage drama and a hurricane
that's completely wiping out his town.
The main character gets friend zoned for God's sake.
Plus, I've been working on building a community
for people like you,
who are working on being their best selves.
Over on Discord, we have the Josh Speaks community
with over 700 members, which is an awesome place
to just talk about what's going on in your life,
get advice, and just share fun stories with other people.
And on top of that,
I've also added brand new levels to Patreon,
so that we can better connect
through video chat every single month.
If you wanna work with me one-on-one,
Patreon's the best way to do that.
But, without further ado, let's walk through these videos.
Coming in at number 10,
if you're someone that tends to be shy
and nervous around your crush,
it can be hard to figure out
what is the very first step you should take
in getting over that hump and finally talking to them.
Well, this video breaks it down in four easy steps.
Is because you might not know exactly what to say,
so that's the first thing I want you to start working on.
Prepare what you're gonna say to them ahead of time.
Have a topic or an idea of something that you wanna discuss,
before you walk into that conversation.
The more they know about you, and grow to like you,
the easier it's gonna be for your crush
to turn around, hear what they have to say,
and then form a way better opinion of you.
At number nine.
If you're someone that really is just a dry texter
you never get any responses back from your crush.
And you just don't know
how to make that conversation more lively,
this video is for you.
In the beginning,
conversation may pick up.
They may be super interactive.
They may be responding very quickly.
But there is a point at which
if conversations don't elevate to the next stage.
Yeah, they're gonna start to drop off.
They're going to start responding less.
You're going to start to notice them less involved
in wanting to talk to you.
Video number eight, let's talk about this one for a second.
If you feel like the reason why you're not successful
in dating, in life,
is because you don't have the perfect characteristics
that women want,
Maybe you're not the right height.
or you don't have the looks.
or you're not successful, and don't have status.
Well, you might've been black pilled.
So this video breaks down
why I think you shouldn't take the black pill
and what you should do instead.
A black pill person might believe
that if a woman has had multiple partners
throughout her life,
she has made bad decisions and good ones
or maybe even has a kid,
then she's damaged goods.
She's no good.
She's going to look for a sucker
that's gonna take care of her kid and her,
because that's her main primary goal in life.
Well, let me tell you this.
If you think in generalities about women,
then the specific answer you're looking for
to solve your problem, is never going to be there.
Number seven, look, let's be honest here.
Some people just suck at texting and that might be you.
So this video walks you
through three major texting mistakes
a lot of people make that really hold them back
from building something with the person they like.
So what you really want to do instead
is ask more detailed questions.
This can be about what their hobbies are
what their interests are,
what they thought about the test
that you just had in school,
what their plans are for the weekend.
Anything that's actually going to get
a real answer from them.
Coming in a number six is the very first video I put out
at the beginning of the year.
And it's all about how to ask your crush out.
And boy did this year, kind of throw us
for a curve ball and change things up.
Don't worry.
No one could have anticipated
how dating would drastically change this year.
And I'm going to address all of that
in my How to Ask Your Crush Out In 2021 video.
But definitely check out the very first one
I put out this year,
because that's going to be a great refresher course
in where to start with texting
and talking to your crush online.
I do understand the ease and comfort
that comes in texting someone first.
Sending a DM to your crush
as an initial point of conversation
might seem easier for you to do.
But it might also lead to a shorter response from them.
They may just give you a one word answer.
They may leave you on seen,
or they end up blocking you.
Number five, what do you do,
what do you do,
If your crush just isn't really ready for a relationship?
Maybe they got a lot going on in their life
or maybe they need to get to know you better.
Either way, this video is going to teach you
exactly what you need to say,
and what you need to do,
to convince them to go out with you.
If that's where they're coming from,
a good way to figure it out
is by saying something like this,
Hey I totally understand where you're coming from,
but I still want to take the time to get to know you.
So how about the two of us hang out this weekend,
and really spend time learning about each other.
Saying something like that,
and trying to set up plans
is gonna put them in a position
where they have to give you a more detailed answer.
If they don't like you,
they have to be more straight up with you and respond
by saying, yeah, I'm not really interested in hanging out.
That's gonna kind of be the key to let you know
not worth pursuing anymore.
Oh, sorry.
I was just putting into practice.
The secret trick that I teach you
in the fourth video on this list.
It's all about how to get a girl to text you first,
how to make them so interested in you,
that they just want to message you and learn more about you.
There are times where you want them to make the first move.
So what can you do
to kind of get them in that state of mind?
What I think you need to start doing
is having conversations with them,
where you're telling them a story,
and you're giving them a cliff hanger ending.
Cliff hanger ending,
how exactly does that relate here?
Well, think about when you're watching a TV show,
and suddenly at the end of that episode
a character dies, or they discover something new,
and you're so inclined to figure out what it is.
Okay. I get it.
I'm gonna explain.
It's all about yourself.
All right, chill.
Look, video number three is all about
how to not simp for a girl.
If you find yourself just chasing after a girl,
willing to do whatever you can
for her attention,
watch this video right now, please.
Before we get into what you shouldn't do,
let's first actually understand what a simp is.
Now. Urban dictionary defines it as a man that puts himself
in a subservient, submissive position under women,
in hopes of winning them over without the female
bringing anything to the table.
Or you buy them a gift
because they mean the world to you,
and you want them to know it,
or you're willing to sit there and listen to them vent
about other people that they like,
because you want to show them
how much you really care.
Coming in at number two, that right there is Hilary Duff.
Not really responding to any of my messages.
Why do celebrities ignore a DMs?
And what could you do about it?
Well, this video teaches you a few techniques
on how you can actually get a response from them.
Why, why do you want that celebrity to respond back to you?
Is it for the simple interaction,
just so you can feel better knowing
that they acknowledged you?
Or do you have bigger plans to actually be friends
with that celebrity?
Basically, what you want to do
is look at the surrounding network around that celebrity.
Who are their makeup artists?
Who's their agent?
Who helps them learn new dances?
Who books their gigs?
Who's their friends?
All the people that are part of their life,
those are the people you're going to want
to reach out to and get closer with.
And the number one video that you need to check out?
Look, 2020 has been an insane year.
You might've messaged your crush and got left on seen.
Maybe you tried talking to them
and they kind of shut you down.
Or maybe you ask them out directly and you got rejected.
Well, try doing this.
This video is going to tell you
exactly what your next step needs to be.
If things aren't going the way that you want
with your crush.
Don't give up, watch this video.
So the first way that people tend to cope
with getting rejected is by deciding
that they still want to remain friends with that person,
with the underlying hope
that maybe that person will change their mind,
or eventually like them back.
Yes, what we're talking about here is the friend zone.
You like that person, and they know that you like them,
but they don't want to be in a relationship with you.
Now, the reason why some people
might choose this as an option,
is simply because they don't want to lose that person
from their life.
A lot of times when you're in the friend zone,
you could still interact with that person.
They still open up to you.
You guys still talk to each other, but there's no chance
of building anything romantic with them.
Let me tell you something:
2021 is going to be your year.
This is going to be the year.
You finally flourish from your shell.
When you put your confidence on display,
when you ask out your crush,
when you show the world that you have what it takes
to be somebody great.
I'm super excited to be along with you on your journey,
Stick around guys,
'cause I have amazing videos
that are really going to be helpful for you,
planned for this next coming year.
And that's why I want to give a huge shout out
to my patrons, YouTube channel members.
A lot of these people I've been working with
throughout the entire year,
and I've definitely seen them grow
into being amazing people.
So if you want to be on that Patreon list,
check out the link for it down below.
Now, what I want you to do though,
is to click on the playlist over there on the side.
That's going to list out all top 10 videos of the year
that you definitely need to watch
as a refresher to get you prepared for 2021.
Like I said, this is your year.
We're going to get through it together
As always love and peace.
Happy new year guys.