A NEW MEXICO STATE UNIVERSITY STUDENT AND SELF-PROCLAIMED
NICEST GUY HAS A WRITTEN AND POSTED A LETTER TO ALL LADIES
THAT HE POSTED ON DORM BULLETIN BOARD WHICH PROMPTED A REBUTTAL
LETTER AS WELL AS SOME VERY CREEPED OUT TWITTER MESSAGES.
THE WEATHER THAT HE WROTE ALL LADIES SAID OKAY LADIES, I GET
IT. HE DON'T WANT A PLEASANT EVENING CHAD. YOU DON'T WANT TO
GERMAN TO MARKET YOUR CAR. YOU DON'T WANT A FRIENDLY DO TO HELP
YOU CARRY YOUR GROCERIES OR HOLD UP IN THE DOOR OR CRUSH THE LIFE
OUT OF OTHER MEN THAT WOULD DO YOU HARD. FINE -- APPEAR THE
GOOD GUYS I GUESS WE'LL JUST HAVE TO SUFFER THROUGH WATCHING
YOU GET BROKEN OVER AND OVER BY THE SCUM YOU THINK YOU LOVE. BUT
I WANT YOU TO KNOW -- IT'S NOT EASY, AND IT HURTS TO SEE IF
ALL. GIVE THE GOOD GUYS A CHANCE TO HELP YOU BE LESS AFRAID OF
THE WORLD.
SO HE POSTED THIS ON DORM BULLETIN BOARD WITH BLACK
DUCT TAPE WHICH I'LL GET TO LATER.
NOW A GIRL POSTED -- HER NAME IS MEGAN, SHE IS 22 --
POSTED A REBUTTAL LETTER AND I'M JUST GONNA READ YOU A FEW
ACTORS FROM THAT THE BANK SHE SAID IF YOU WANT A
PREDICATE THAT YOU NEED TO THINK YOUR INTENTIONS.
IF YOU'RE ONLY DOING IT FOR GRATIFICATION, THEN YOU ARE
BEING THE GOOD GUY.
THE BATMAN GIVE UP ON GOSLIN BECAUSE THE BOARD THINKING
OF HER SAVING THE CITY?
IF YOU WANT US TO BE LESS AFRAID OF THE WORLD, THEN CHANGE THE
WORLD, DON'T CHANGE US. AS I MENTIONED BEFORE, PEOPLE ALSO TO
TO TWITTER. ONE GIRL SAID DEAR CREEPY ENTITLED MEN POSTING A
PUBLIC FIRE ABOUT HOW YOU ARE NICE PROBABLY MEANS YOU ARE NOT.
AND LASTLY TERRIFYING, COULDN'T BE LESS COULD BE EVEN IF IT WAS
ARE NOT HUMAN SKIN.
I PERSONALLY HAVE A LOT OF FEELINGS ABOUT THIS, BUT
I'D LIKE TO GIVE YOU GUYS THE FULLER FIRST.
I'VE GOT MIXED FEELINGS I CAN WITH EVERY GUYS.
THE BEST REACTION WAS WHEN YOU ARE READING THROUGH THE
STEP-BY-STEP ANEMONES SAID THE PART CLASH I GET A MAGIC HAS AN
CASANOVA A LOT EASIER CALLED IN THE DOOR, I'LL CRUSH THAT GUY.
IT IS GOING TO WAY TOO QUICK FOR ME. THE THING ABOUT THIS REMINDS
THE ADVOCATE WHO FEELS OBLIGED TO GET SOMETHING BECAUSE HE'S
DOING SOMETHING WHICH IS NOT FOR THE REAL REASON IN THE FIRST
PLACE, SOME IS PLAYING BY THE RULES SO HE SHOULD GET HIS
REWARDS. HE'S DOING THESE THING HE'S BEEN TAUGHT TO BE A GOOD
GUY SO YOU SHOULD GET THE REWARD IN THE END WHICH IS FOR ME TO
GET THE GIRL. IS THE SAME KIND OF PARTY WILL GO TO MILLION
GIRLS AND TRY TO GET WITH THEM AND SAY THAT ALL SLUTS ANYWAY. I
DIDN'T REALLY WANT THEM.
EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE WE REFERENCE AND WHEN AND PEOPLE
SEEM ON CAMERA SO THEY PROBABLY THINK WE HAVE AN INVISIBLE
FRIEND. AND WHEN IS OUR STAGE MANAGER. ONTO THE SNOW. HERE'S
WHY SAY I HAVE MIXED FEELINGS. MULTITUDE, YOU WANT TO GET WAY
TOO. YOUR INTENTIONS ARE NOT ANY BETTER THAN THE SCUM YOU ARE
WRITING ABOUT. THEY WANT TO GET LAID, YOU WANT TO GET LAID. YOU
JUST HAVE DIFFERENT STRATEGIES. DON'T GET TO BETTER ABOUT IT.
FOR TWO: IF YOU ARE TRYING TO MAKE A CASE THAT YOU ARE A NICE
GUY, DON'T WRITE A SUPER THREATENING LETTER LIKE THE SCUM
THAT YOU ARE SLEEPING WITH, I WILL CRUSH THEIR SOUL.
BUT DID A NICE GUY LIKE ME.
THAT LETTER, I'M WITH YOU HANNAH READ SUPER SCARY.
THE DUCT TAPE JUST ADDS A WHOLE OTHER CREEPY LAYER.
I WILL GRAB THEM IN THIS DUCT TAPE THEN THEY WILL SEE WHAT
LIFE IS ALL ABOUT.
CAN YOU JUST IMAGINE WRITING A WAY NINE IS DORM ROOM?
HAVING SAID THAT, I GET THE FRUSTRATION BEHIND IT. BECAUSE
-- THIS WILL BE INTERESTING WAS IF WE DISAGREE OR NOT ñ DO WOMEN
LIKE BAD GUYS MORE?
THAT IS AN ENORMOUSLY BROAD STATEMENT. THE ANSWER IS YES.
WHAT IT IS IS THEY ACTUALLY LIKE -- I LIKE IT AS IF THERE ARE NO
WOMEN ON THE SAID. THEY LIKE CONFIDENCE, BUT THE BAD GUY IT
OFTEN HAS A LOT OF CONFIDENCE EARNED OR UNEARNED, DESERVED OR
NOT TO SERVE, AND THE GUY WHO IS SHY ñ AND THAT DOESN'T
NECESSARILY MEAN THAT YOU ARE NICER BUT YOU ARE SHY OR YOU
FEEL NICER -- FEEL SO PASTE AND YES, SINCE THAT GUY HAS
MORE OPPORTUNITY, SOMETIMES HE WILL HAVE A RELATIONSHIP
AND THEN MOVE ON IT IN THE GIRL WILL BE HER AND THEN SHE
WILL BE LIKE WHY CAN'T I FIND A NICE GUY IN THE GUY WHO IS
IN THE CORNER WHO SHY IS GOING OVER HERE.
RIGHT HERE.
I'LL CRUSH THEM.
ABOUT, I WILL CRUSH THEM. BUT I'M RIGHT HERE. SO THE GUY WHO
IS SHY, I FEEL HIS PAIN. IT'S NOT LIKE THERE AREN'T GUYS WHO
ARE JERKS TO WOMEN, YOU TELL ME THAT SOME WOMEN DON'T LOVE THAT?
I AM SURE THAT THERE ARE SOME WOMEN WHO ARE ATTRACTED TO THE
BAD BOY.
I WANT TO COMMENT ON YOUR COMMENT AND THEN I WANT TO
GET ON MY COMMENTS.
THE FIRST THING IS I THINK THERE IS THIS NOTION WHERE NICE
GUYS FINISH LAST.
IF YOU WATCH THEM THINKING VIDEOS WE HAVE SINCE THE
VIDEOS THAT SHOW STUDIES A THAT THAT IS NOT BIOLOGICALLY TRUE.
THINK TANK THAT.
NOW I WANT TO GET INTO THIS LETTER BECAUSE I THINK THIS
LETTER, AT FIRST READING AND YOUR LIKE I CAN YOU GET REESE
COMING FROM. MAYBE NICE GUYS FINISH LAST. NO, THIS LETTER IS
EXTREMELY OFFENSIVE AND IT'S EXTREMELY TO MEETING. IT
UNDERMINES WOMEN'S AGENCY. IT UNDERMINES WOMEN'S ABILITY TO
DEFEND THEMSELVES, AND ALSO, JUST BECAUSE WOMEN DON'T WANT
YOU DOESN'T MEAN THEY DON'T WANT A PLEASANT EVENING, GENTLEMEN TO
WALK INTO THE CAR, HELP THEM CARRY THE GROCERIES -- MAYBE
THEY ARE JUST NOT INTO YOU. BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN THEY DON'T
WANT A NICE PERSON. AND THAT IS A ANYTHING ABOUT LIKE SOCIETY AT
LARGE. MAYBE YOU JUST AREN'T GETTING THE GIRL AT THAT TIME
AND THAT IS OKAY. YOU KEEP DOING THE NICE THINGS THAT YOU ARE
DOING BECAUSE YOU WILL FIND THE RIGHT GIRL, BUT MAYBE YOU HAVE
NOT FOUND HER GET. AND THAT IS OKAY. BUT IT DOES NOT GIVE YOU
ARE RIGHT TO MAKE THE STATEMENT ABOUT ALL WOMEN AND SAYING YOU
DO NOT KNOW WHAT YOU ACTUALLY WANT. YOU ARE GONNA FALL ON YOUR
FACE AND YOUR UNIQUE BEING AFRAID OF THE WORLD BECAUSE YOU
DON'T WANT ME. I WANT TO CLARIFY SOME THINGS TO GET RUN A
SOCIETY. FIRST OF ALL COURSE THERE MANY KINDS OF WOMEN. OF MY
LIFE THE SPREAD WAS WHEN THE GUY TEASES HER. MY WIFE HATES THAT.
SO IF YOU ARE GOING TO BE A JERK TURN TEASER, SHE HAS NO
INTEREST. SHE IS GONNA DROP YOU IN THE SECOND. IN FACT, I TEASER
TOO MUCH. SHE'S LIKE A JOKE IS NOT FUNNY IF IT IS ABOUT ME.
IT'S ONLY FUNNY WHEN IT'S ABOUT YOU. SO WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT. OF
COURSE. MENTOR DIFFERENT WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT. CLICK I SAID, I
THINK WE ARE MISTAKING SHY FOR KNIFE WHICH IS NOT NECESSARILY
THE CASE AND WE ARE MISTAKING OUTGOING FOR A JERK WHICH IS NOT
NECESSARILY THE CASE EITHER. I THINK THERE'S AN UNDERLINING
PHENOMENON HERE THAT I THINK IS TRUE BUT NOT JUST FOR WOMEN THE
ALL HUMANITY WHICH IS A SOMETHING IS READY AVAILABLE A
LOT OF A I CAN GET THAT ANYTIME. IF SOMETHING SEEMS LIKE IT IS
NOT READILY AVAILABLE, THAT'S WAITING THAT CAN GO WAY,
COME BACK, COME BACK.
I MEAN YES.
THAT'S A JERK, NON-JERK PHENOMENON YOU ARE THINKING OF.
IT'S NOT ABOUT BEING A JERK, IT'S A MATTER OF DOES THE
GUY WILL CONFIDENT FEEL CONFIDENT ENOUGH?
IF I DON'T GET THEM SOMEONE ELSE IS GOING TO.
THE SAME THING APPLIES FOR WOMEN AND MEN.
I GET EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE SAYING AS WELL. I THINK IT IS A
GOOD DISTINCTION TO SAY BETWEEN SKY AND SOMEONE HE WAS TRYING TO
BE NICE ARE NOT NECESSARILY THE RIGHT REASON.
THIS GUY LOOKING AT THIS CASE BY NICE GUY TERMS HE NEEDS
SOMEONE WHO'S NOT INTENTIONALLY BEING ATTACKED TRY TO GET WHAT
HE IS ENTITLED TO, INTERESTING, I HAVE BEEN ON BOTH SIDES OF IT.
I HAVE TRIED TO BE THE NICE GUY IN THE SHY GUY AND
SOMETIMES UNLIKE IJ WHAT CAN THEY NEVER CALL ME.
I'M A BAD BOY. COME AND GET ME.
THAT'S EXTRAORDINARILY ARGUE. YOU OUTSOURCE ME ON THAT ONE.
IF YOU ARE NATURALLY A NICE GUY, YOU KNOW HOW TO BE
LIKE OH, I AM NOT CAN DO THIS FOR YOU ANYMORE.
IF YOU'RE NICE GEYER DISCOURAGES OF THE GOODNESS OF YOUR HEART.
NOW YOU ARE BEING TO GRANT AND WISHING THAT THE WORLD
WAS MORE IDEAL.
BUT YOU ARE RIGHT ABOUT ONE THING ñ
I HOLD DOORS OPEN FOR PEOPLE, AND I PICK THINGS UP, I'M
NOT SURE BEGAN THEIR PARENTS I DO IT.
THAT IS BECAUSE YOU WERE NOT A GUY.
WE HAD THIS CONVERSATION SO MUCH WITH MY GIRLS WILL. THERE
IS ALWAYS AN ALTERNATE MOTIVE TO GUYS. THAT IS JUST THE REALITY
AM AFRAID. YES, HE MAY SEEM GENUINE WHEN HE'S OPENING THE
DOOR, BUT EVEN IF HE'S WITH THE OTHER DOOR HIS MIND IS ALWAYS
WORKING IN THAT WAY. SOMETIMES IT MIGHT BE DIFFERENT. IN MY BE
DIFFERENT EXAMPLES WERE IT'S A DIFFERENT CASE, BUT TO ME,
THAT'S JUST THE WAY GUYS ARE TAUGHT TO THINK. NONETHELESS,
I'M NOT SAYING THAT EVERY GUY THAT DOESN'T THINK THIS WAS A
JERK. EVERYONE THINKS THAT YOU NEED TO BE THE BAD GUY TO GET TO
A GIRL, BUT ONE ASSERTS COMES TO CHIVALRY AND MEN ALIKE TO
PERFORM, THEY ARE ALWAYS THINKING ABOUT THAT IN MY
POINT OF VIEW.
THAT PARTLY PROVES HEADLESS POINT OF. BUT FIRST LET ME
DEFEND GUYS. HANNAH IT'S HARD FOR GUYS TO UNDERSTAND HOW HARD
IT IS FOR SHY GUYS. FOR INSTANCE, I'VE BEEN THERE. YOUR
THINKING OH YOUR A TALK SHOW HOST YOU BRAND RATE. YOU ARE THE
LEASH AGAIN AMERICA. THAT IS NOT TRUE. ESPECIALLY WHEN I WAS
YOUNGER WITH GIRLS I WAS THE GUY SITTING IN THE CORRIDOR THE FRAT
PARTY GOING WHY DON'T THEY LIKE NICE GUYS LIKE ME?
I WAS A NICE GUY BUT IT WAS MAINLY BECAUSE OF SHY THAT
I WASN'T GETTING THE GIRLS AND FOR THAT PERSON, WHEN THEY
SEE THE GUY WALK-IN AND GO OH YEAH I TALKED HER HA HA,
YOUR LIKE WHAT THE FUCK WORRY GOING WITH THAT GUY?
IT IS SO FRUSTRATING. YOU'VE GOT UNDERSTAND THEIR FRUSTRATION.
I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND THAT AND I AM NOT GETTING ON GUYS
CASE AT ALL FOR THIS.
IN MY PERSONAL LIFE, I'VE ALWAYS STATED THE REALLY SHY,
REALLY NICE GUY.
I HAVE NOTHING AGAINST NICE GUYS.
WHAT I HAVE AGAINST IS PEOPLE WHO ARE NICE AND THEN FEEL
ENTITLED TO SOMETHING BECAUSE THEY ARE NICE.
THAT IS MY ISSUE.
THAT IS THE PART THAT I REALLY AGREE WITH HANNAH ON.
THAT'S GUYS I'VE BEEN THERE. YOU ARE JUST USING THAT AS A
STRATEGY, AND IT IS NOT THE RIGHT STRATEGY. YOU FEEL LIKE
I'M NICE. WHY DON'T YOU HAVE SEX WITH ME. WILL, SEE ONE OF THE
SEX. YOU WERE NICE TO BE NICE YOU WERE NICE IS THE STRATEGY TO
GET LAID. AND IT TURNED OUT TO BE THE WRONG STRATEGY. I'VE BEEN
THERE, BROTHER. THAT DOESN'T MEAN YOU SHOULD BE A JERK AND
SPIT PEOPLE'S FACES. WHAT IT DOES MEAN IS UNDERSTAND WHAT IS
ACTUALLY WORKING. THE ROOT CAUSE OF WHAT GETS WOMEN, MEN,
WHATEVER IT IS -- THE SEXES ARE DIFFERENT, SO IT'S A SPECIAL
ISSUE FOR GUYS. CONFIDENCE.
AND THAT CONFIDENCE YOU MAINLY GET AN THIS IS A WAY
OVERSIMPLIFICATION BY THE ABILITY TO WALK AWAY.
WANT ME, GREAT. YOU DON'T WANT ME?
DON'T CARE AT ALL.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE MEAN TO PEOPLE TO GET THAT KIND OF
CONFIDENCE.