Working hard is the cost of entry to anything you know zero people that are
successful that don't work their face off you know zero people now they may
have money because mommy and daddy made money and gave it to them but people
that actually built their own success you know zero people that have had
success that did not put in obnoxious amount of work I believe anything is
possible right I live in the world of possibility and I also believe that
anything we can accomplish anything with our two hands and just putting in the
work with our two hands and also you hear this often but it's really really true
if you love what you do and if I and be
passionate about what you do and find something that you could be passionate
it really helps you know it gives you that motivation when you wake up in the morning.
My work ethic and my desire to create comes from honestly passion
I always have a goal and I always have a dream so whether it's you know creating
a song that's going to be a single or it's going to be an album that I'm most
proud of or a really high note on my album that I really want to be able to
sing or a grammy one day or a nomination one day
It will be awesome.
I always have passion behind it so whatever it takes I'm gonna
work hard and just continue to follow my dreams because I have the passion behind it.
So how do I find my passion my simple model which is the Dharma model it also
dharma means eternal duty in the Vedic tradition it's very similar to what
Ikigai has been spoken about today which is the Japanese version of reason for
being why do we live where is meaning coming from and it talks about an
intersect of four areas.
What am I good at
what do I love
what is the world need
how do I get paid for it
To me those four help you unlock your passion when
you find the intersect across all of those four you're making your passion
your purpose you'll unlock your passion you'll find your purpose this is path
one there's two paths path one I find my skill set and I engage it to help other
people and become better at it so I'm becoming better what I'm good at and I'm
using it to help other people because I'm aware of what I'm quite good at and
I know what knowledge I have what skills I have I have some self-awareness
the other path that people often miss is actually I just start serving people
I just start helping people and I start to notice what I enjoy about that and what
I'm good at helping people with so that's Gandhi's part Gandhi said that you
find yourself when you lose yourself in the service of others, so for me those
are the two paths of how do I find my passion and finding the intersect
between those four areas.
People say you have to have a lot of passion for
what you're doing and it's totally true and the reason is because it's so
hard that if you don't any rational person would give up it's really hard
and you have to do it over a sustained period of time so if you don't love it
if you're not having fun doing it you don't really love it you're gonna give up
and that's what happens to most people actually if you really look at
that the ones that ended up being successful in the eyes of
society and the ones that didn't oftentimes it's the ones that are
successful loved what they did so they could persevere when it
got really tough and the ones that didn't love it quit because they're sane
right? who would want to put up with this
stuff if you don't love it so it's a lot of hard work and it's a lot of
worrying constantly and if you don't love it you're gonna fail so you got to
love it you got to have passion
My three E's are element, environment and energy
everyone has an element that they thrive in if you take someone out of it their
element they won't be the same a modern-day example will be Michael
Jordan he was incredible at basketball you took him out of basketball put him
into baseball no one remembers his career we're talking about one of the
best athletes of all time, your environment is the environment around you
you can take a fish out of water and give it a beautiful mansion and a Bentley and all
the money in the world but it will die and that's what we are like our environment
everyone is in an environment in which they thrive, which we have to craft, your boss
if you're at work is never going to ask anyway what environment do you succeed in?
like that never happens, so we have to create an environment
where we thrive and then finally it's energy, some of us love high energy
environments, high pressure some of us succeed in lower energy
environments and low pressure, figuring out your energy and the frequency on
which you operate best will help you thrive as well so for me those are the
three E's to really create a thriving environment, know your element know your
environment and know your energy and so on all times if I see anything going
wrong I'm going is my element out of alignment is my environment out of
alignment or is my energy out of alignment that's a great three question
test you can do to yourself when you don't think things are going right and
all you have to do is bring that back into alignment.
Jay my relationship's falling apart
I get asked that all the time so the answer to that is much
harder it's harder to summarize it but I always start with
self-actualization that the problem is we have a list for the one that we want
and we don't have a list for what we need to become and I don't mean become
to attract I mean become to just be to just get to
understand yourself you don't know what you need in your life until you figure
out who you are and so I find too many people rush into relationships without
really recognizing and being fully aware of what they need from a relationship
so it all comes back to how aware are you how much understanding do you have of
yourself and what you need and what you want that's my best advice for
relationship in like a minute and then the third question I mostly get asked is
Jay what do you read like what are your favorite books because it seems you read
a lot what are your top three books they're not groundbreaking in the sense
that people may not be like oh that's the best book I've ever read for me they
changed my life so that's where I'm coming at a point from
I love Start with why by Simon Sinek and not because I applied it to businesses
because I applied it to my life and even today I'm constantly refining my why
that's all I do every day my deepest morning routine and practice is to
refine why I do what I do it's so easy for me to now do it for money it's so
easy for me to now do it for followers it's so easy for me to now do it for
fame and every day I have to refine that because I know having lived as a monk
and what I practiced and if does become what I want then I'll forget who I need to be
so my daily practice my daily routine is
refining my intention which in modern language is why so for me Simon's book
helped me do that.
First and foremost what what I think everybody should do and
even I'm saying this actually I'm giving myself advice right now I'm just getting
meta and stepping away from this interview, you need to do things that
make you a little uncomfortable way too many people have made decisions without
ever trying, right so the punchline is this
Here's what I'll say on this little genres as we're jamming on it.
You have one life like one of the
great things that happened to me growing up was there was a lot of grandparents
that visited I had a lot of kids in my neighborhood and for some unknown reason
I don't know if I'm an old soul or what it is I used to on the playground go and
sit with old people and just talk to them and let me
tell you one thing about old people 80,90 the one thing that is stuck with me as a
child and sits with me today is they regret, regret scares the crap out of me Elvis
Do you have any regret right now? no but I'm forty so I feel like I can get a
lot of things done, I feel like a lot of things are still in front
of me but when you get to 80 and 90 and you can't do everything and you know
that you don't have as much time with the one thing I see in so many of their
eyes is I wish I
There's only one you. Because there's no one like you
I don't mean the superfluous, superficial parts I'm talking about the core of you
who you are inside, your values your beliefs your flaws and once you
understand who really that person is you would have taken the first step
in finding your unique self and that is the best version of you.
Who am I really?
Most often we don't allow ourselves the ability to dream beyond our imagination
we don't allow ourselves to think about the future because we are afraid of
change we are afraid to move away from what is familiar
either that or sometimes you know we are too rigid to let our dreams evolve
loosen up, shake it off a little bit change is the only constant thing in life
and you are never too old or never to experienced to learn something new
believe that you have everything already in your will
to be able to be and achieve your dreams.
Be fearless I know I wanted to become an
aeronautical engineer, what am i today I'm an actor, I'm a singer, I'm an author
I'm a producer, I'm an artist how did I go from becoming an engineer
to all of these things I made choices the choices that I wanted for myself so
that is my rule number two
let your dreams fly, give them wings,
be who you want to be
just by being fearless
Opportunities, that's another important
part of being fearless, they are a very funny thing, these opportunities they
don't come very often they come far and few in between but when they do do we
recognize them
Our job is to recognize them and make the most of them
I look back on all the things that I've done and I marvel at the opportunities that
came my way, Miss India, Miss World, when I was in bareilly in army school
my first film offer, my first music single the first film I actually
produced there was never a plan ever more like the universe sort of guiding
me towards these opportunities all I had to do was recognize them and make sure I
worked so hard that I squeezed every drop out of these opportunities
This ladies and gentlemen is called drive it's called ambition so no matter where
you are in life rule number three is you have never arrived enough to explore new opportunities
And there's nothing wrong with being ambitious
You will need to
find your passion, many of you have already done it many of you will later
many of you may take til your thirties or forties but don't give up on finding it
because then all you're doing is waiting
Find your passion and follow it and if there is anything I have learned in my life you
will not find that passion in things
and you will not find that passion
in money, because the more things and the more
money you have the more you will just look around and use that as the metric
and there will always be someone with more
so your passion must come from the
things that fuel you from the inside
and honors and awards are nice things but
only to the extent that they regard the real respect from your peers
and to be thought well of by other people that you think even more highly
of is a tremendous honor that I've been granted
find your passion and in my experience
no matter what you do at work or what you do in official settings
that passion will be grounded in people and it will be grounded in the
relationships you have with people and what they think of you
when your time comes
and if you can gain the respect of those
around you and the passion and true love and I've said this before but I waited
till 39 to get married because I had to wait that long to find someone where her
happiness was more important than mine and if nothing else I hope that all of
you can find that kind of passion and that kind of love in your life