Beautiful out of young lady come to me the other day and
she wanted to be a nurse in this house until he's kind of
walking through it.
And I was like, what do you have?
She told me I said, why don't you act like I just left school,
you know, I end up, you know getting pregnant.
So I just end up leaving and I want to go back but I don't
ever and she was just like, okay I said, well, what are you
doing? And she's like, well, I'm looking for a mentor.
I was like, oh great.
My wife's a registered nurse.
Because you go to church my wife go to church like about
he'll say like if I were you I would start asking her questions
because everything you trying to do she's already done that
right sort of sort of one thing.
She could do is eliminate all ignorance.
So you don't have to be ignorant about the field you have
to be ignorant about the course of the class.
She knows all of that.
So the only thing you're missing now is are you willing to
get up and do the work?
Right?
Some people are ignorant even though the information then
she told me she's at Michigan State I was like Oh!
We want to do some homework, then I'm gonna have to help
you because at Michigan You pretty much if I'm not mistaken,
you need about a three-point.
I'll know somebody help me out.
Last time.
I was here you need like a 3736 370 in the College of Nursing
is it still the same Murray?
So I mean pretty much like All A's and 1 B
So we got to make sure in terms of your grades or you might
have to go somewhere else and try to yourself.
Don't say it but I could be realistic once I see your grades.
I can be realistic say all you got two C's you probably
going to make it in Michigan State you might have to go to
another school.
Cool, you would still be a nurse but you might have to go
another route.
Does that make sense?
All right, good.
Let's talk about the second thing is what don't you have
like and this is critical.
What don't you have because all these things are going to
stop you from getting to that next level.
So let's talk about real quick.
Somebody's got to goal in a dream.
What don't you have in terms of getting to that next level?
What don't you currently have?
Hey and you should know this list like go home and write
both of these lists down because what you don't have you
start doing your homework so you can what so you're going
to get that right?
Good.
What don't you have?
Good consistent work ethic good.
I love it.
Write that down.
That's good.
Is that something that can be obtained?
Absolutely good.
Yes, sir experience good.
And is that something that could be obtained?
Absolutely good somebody else.
What don't you have time?
Yep.
Good.
That's a big one good.
What don't you have?
Say it again connections good.
I love it good.
And so when you don't have connections, let's just talk it
through. Where do you start when you don't have connections?
Say it again self good one explain that one to us good.
I like it.
So use what you have go.
He said go through your phone who you already have in your
phone because the rule is there is how many degrees of separation
how many Six Degrees of Separation?
So you start with what?
The first degree like whatever that degree is for you you
start with that great.
So let's just let's just be for hard.
So let's say somebody you don't know that you want to know
just make up some so we can help me by I'll just make up
something. Give me a name somebody Obama good Obama, right
so I don't know Obama, but I do know abama.
What do I know about Obama he from Chicago good so that I
got it.
He from Chicago anybody else in the room from Chicago raise
your head anybody from Chicago one good we got Purdue miles
from Chicago good we got one person in this room from Chicago
we go up to her and say do you know Obama?
Good.
Do you know somebody that might know Obama in Chicago?
Yes good.
Can you give me that person that contact information?
Yes.
How many do you if there were so I just got to you that's
the six more right?
We got five more.
How close do you think this person is to Obama in degrees?
One degree.
So you got somebody in the room that knows somebody that's
one degree of separation.
You understand how quick how easy that was, but why should
write this down?
But you cannot accomplish what you have not focused on.
If you not focusing on it, you can't it can't happen.
But once you begin to focus on that thing now you put yourself
in a position where we just play it.
We're not even serious.
We were just praying we said Obama and he said it makes me
really Chicago.
Somebody said Chicago and boom one degree of separation.
Does that make sense?
Make sure you write that down.
You cannot attract what you don't focus on you cannot fix
what you don't admit needs to be fixed.
All right.
So watch this I'm asked this question real quick right?
Watch this watch this y'all ready.
How often have you thought about the fact that you're not
consistent as it relates to your work ethic?
Good good, and how do you think about it?
Good good.
So on a scale the I'm sorry.
It's seven days in a week.
How many days do you think about the fact that you're not
consistent? Good seven days and when you think about it for
the seven days, is it a passive or an aggressive thought
good. So there we go.
We've got to fix some stuff right now.
So what do I mean when I say it's passive?
What do I mean when I say it you passively thinking about
it you think about it, but you do nothing about it that's
passive you think about it?
You recognize it but you don't do nothing about it.
What can we do to fix that immediately?
What can we do to fix that right now?
Good, make a schedule good.
What else have you makes cat?
You got scheduled full-blown schedule not full of ball.
So we got a schedule but it's a what kind of schedule?
It's a passive schedule.
Come on.
Y'all teach it.
I'm teaching when it anything anything that's passive in
your life is not going to happen.
Anything that's aggressive is what is going to happen.
Do I passively do I passively come here on Mondays is this
passive? As a matter of fact if I'm coming, what do I do?
I post a video.
What time do I post a video about noon?
That's not what that's not passive.
That's what that's aggressive.
That's not passive.
I today I got in the bed about five o'clock the try to take
a nap now I did work but I did I got up took a shower with
535. I have my outfit in my mind.
The only thing I forgot is I have a car.
No, I forgot.
I have a vehicle daughter got the truck because her car messed
up the the Mercedes in the shop because I hit a pothole try
to have a car but I but because it's aggressive and not passive.
What time did I call you all and tell y'all I need a ride?
550 not at what time not at seven.
Are you hear what I'm saying?
So I want you to write down what things in your life are
passive and what thing is aggressive so good.
So we got a schedule.
So now we're going to get a aggressive schedule.
Good.
All right.
What else can we do?
Good use a planner.
All right me I just tell Siri Siri, please remind me.
I got to do this good what else can we do but that's that's
that's the Bingo anytime you're not doing what you're supposed
to do.
You need to get somebody else in your life that can push
you to do it.
Does that make sense?
Because if you could do it on your own you were what you'll
be doing it.
So apparently you don't got what it takes to do it.
So you have to find somebody.
Who's what?
Who's aggressively doing it already got find somebody who's
aggressively doing it already.
That makes sense.
Does that make sense?
Okay good.
So we got passive and we got what good so we go we're going
to get an accountability partner anything else.
Massive Action, so I just want you to wake up and just start
writing down action stuff.
Even if you don't mean it just are writing it down.
Talk to me good.
Yeah, but still shit like share every single day should get
on the scale.
What's your scale?
Let's talk about that real quick.
So if you're not if you're trying to lose weight that is
easy like he tried to lose weight is he they got some called
a scale?
So you just jump on that boy every day and look at it.
What's your scale though for trying to be a better student?
What's your scale for trying to be a better husband or wife
or whatever you business but like what's the scale?
So my talk to me, what's the scale?
What do you use now?
That's right.
This is now what's the scale?
What's the measurement tool you use to know if you where
you supposed to be where you're not where you're supposed
to be because that's dangerous grades good.
So one of the things we cannot do grades are good, but we
cannot wait till the end up because grades don't come out
too late.
So I'm feeling where you at, but let's work with it and work
it out because that's that's late in the game.
Like grades is like the score at the end of the game.
Right, that's like the score.
So when we do that, so let's help you that's good.
But let's talk about let's how do we get to that?
What's that?
Yep?
Okay, so let's start with your motivation for your academics
good. So how many days a week?
Should we be motivated seven days good.
So how do we measure our motivation?
Good figure out why?
Yep?
If you're motivated by purpose or go, so I was with Nikki
Johnson in Atlanta Inky blue my mind raise your hand.
If you ever heard of Inky Johnson you okay, if you have not
go look him up.
So I was with a key right?
I think he was on we we did an interview for the podcast
in the land of the other day.
And so, you know Inky, I don't know what you call it, but
like it prostate that's what you call it.
Okay, so it just don't work.
He got the little boy on it.
So he said it's hilarious.
He said A year after he did it because he played for Tennessee
and was supposed to go to the pros the best medical facility
in Tennessee said we want to work with you for two years.
No cost to you.
Well, here's what we need you to do.
We need you to interview 10 people you love asked him.
Is it worth you doing it?
Don't make sense to me.
I would think you would ask me but they said no, this is
gruesome. It's two years.
So go to your mom go to your dad, like go to everybody you
love your wife and ask them.
Is it worth you?
So he's saying one to ten people ask ten people.
Do you think I should do it?
The number one question.
He asked they asked him was is it going to work?
And so he said he went to the doctor as a doctor doctor.
I want to know if we do it for two years.
Is it going to help and the doctor said we can't guarantee
that so he went back and told her 10 people with the doctor
said all 10.
He said love one said don't do it.
He said okay, I got to ask the question though.
Why are you telling me not to do it?
He said we're telling you not to do it because what have
you do it for two years and nothing happens.
He said okay, that's not good enough.
I'm going to do it.
No.
No, I want to go back to we said motivation want to go back
to what you said.
You said the motivation if it's like the process that you
doing it for or to go to prize that you're doing it for.
So Inky was like forget it.
I don't care if it works or not, but I just want to go and
try it.
He said after about six months the doctor came to him.
The doctor was like looking funny.
The doctor was almost in tears the the in a year the physical
therapist was hurt and he was like what's going on and they
were all like look we hurt that.
We spent a year with you and nothing has happened.
So at this point you could just come out as we all want to
waste another year.
It seems like only whereby let's go one more year.
When one more year at the end of the year, nothing changed.
His family was like nothing changed.
He said no, no, no something did change.
He said in the two-year process.
I became a monster.
And I learn how to do something without getting nothing.
He said I learn how to emotionally attached from a goal so
I can do it even when I don't emotionally feel like doing
it. He said I'm a monster and if you try pinky up he comes
in as one of the top speakers in the world.
Why because he went through a two-year process and did get
nothing, but he learned to work even when he didn't feel
like working.
He learned the ground when he does he's out there and most
people you said it but most people will not be successful.
They will not reach whatever.
They wrote Because when there's not anything emotionally
attached to it.
They're gonna quit and give up.
Most people were closer to every thought they were to finishing
that Big D, but they never finished it because they didn't
feel like finishing.
Well they were doing it and it was pay and most people quit
in the pain because the pain hurts so bad that they don't
know if they want to keep going to get to go.
Not even one of the best in the world.
Why because Ezekiel are that it is the price that the process
is more important than the actual prize.
And so some people will never reach this why Because you're
going to wake up most days and not feel like it like you're
going to wake up most days and not be pumped up.
You gonna wake up most days and not feel like doing it.
But when you get to a point that you do it anyway.
Then there's no way you won't reach any of your goals.
Does that make sense?
Come on that make sense that's not passed if that's aggressive.
So most of us are going after our goals passively in every
area and that's why we can't make them become a reality because
we're passive about it.