What do you think I still
misunderstand about you,
since we were raised
in different cultures?
Oh...
A lot of things.
Uh...
I think...
You are kind of stuck in
a Mexican bubble.
I feel that
the only thing
that causes some sort of...
that makes us clash. - A difference.
Or a difference,
it’s that I’m closer to-
to my- I mean, I’m always taking care of
your grandma, my siblings...
So it’s about that: our close family members.
I think that we see family
a little bit different
just because to me it's so important.
Mom and Dad,
I think, how, they...
they were the pillars.
And I think they were able
to hold the family tighter.
The difference is about how you were raised.
Yes, how I was raised. - You’re closer to
your Mom and your Dad. - To my parents.
And me... - You are not.
No... okay. You don’t feel...? Okay.
The whole- the whole environment I grew up
has nothing to do
with what you grew up with.
That's a totally different world.
I never...
I never thought that your mind
would be so accepting
of different- differences.
You know? To me,
I always saw you since-
because since I was little
you've always been like:
‘Bam! This is how things are done.’
Like, there's no, like, alternative.
Like it has to be like that one way.
And I think that's- make it
in the way of us connecting sometimes.
When it comes to our cultural identity,
where do you feel
we see things differently?
Music.
Music
and vulnerability.
Vulnerability is something that I feel
we have never
been able to express healthily
because the same way I enjoy
being able to be open with you and
let you know how I'm feeling,
tell you exactly what's going on with me.
I wish I could hear that from you too.
It’s just like, um...
the way I was raised.
You cannot show weakness.
You can't.
I think it's the hardest thing
because I grew up with a very macho,
very strict
dad that you never raised the voice over him.
I don't want you to think
of it as weakness,
because if you taught me
to think of it as weakness,
I would have never done anything.
What do you wish I never lose
when it comes to our cultural identity?
Oh, well... you were born into this culture.
I understand that everything has changed.
I don't want to be-
I don’t want you to be like I was.
No, that’s never gonna happen.
I wish
I was more comfortable
speaking Spanish with people
because I speak Spanish.
I just consciously choose not to.
Mexican people, there are so many old sayings...
Mexicans... and they don’t know Spanish.
As if Spanish was something to be ashamed of.
They just speak English. What the- ?!
It's kind of an insecurity of mine
that if I don't sound
like I can speak clean,
crisp English,
I'm not destined to succeed.
If this were to be
our last conversation ever,
what would you never want me to forget?
What’s something that don’t want me to forget about you?
The great amount of love I have for you,
for your brother, for your mother, and for everyone.
No matter what,
fatherly love is always gonna be there. Always.
I would say it's
just like I would want
you just to know how much I love you
and how much I appreciate,
like, all the things you ever done for me.
Like my siblings, my Mom.
Thank you.
That I love you
and that I’m very proud of you.
That’s it.
I’m proud of you too, Dad.