I've been thinking a lot about failure this week as I dealt with a decent failure for the first
time in a while. I put my full effort into something and I didn't achieve that outcome
I was looking for. But before I give you my insight into it I just want to let you know
that I'm trying to hit 100K by the end of this year. So if you enjoy this video maybe think
about subscribing, it would mean a lot to me. I have a personality that makes it pretty hard
for me to accept failure normally. I'm very stubborn a perfectionist and quite obsessive
when I have my mind on something all of this means that I'm as determined as It gets. for example,
in high school I told my piano teacher I'd applied to study at this fancy music school and when she
laughed and said I had no chance of getting in, I went home and for weeks studied harder than I ever
had before. not to be petty, but I did get in, These traits can be a good thing but being paired
with my sensitive side I tend to take rejection and failure pretty badly. it's not really a light
to admit, but I get really upset when things don't go as I planned. I beat myself up about
the small things I could have done to make it go better and I act like the world is against me.
I've been working on myself a lot this past year though. Learning to deal with things as they come
and accepting when plans change. I tried to see outcomes are not ideal not as failure, but as
an opportunity to improve and hopefully find a better outcome in the future. So this week when
I received an email labeled with failure with a capital f, I looked at it with a different angle.
First of all, I read the positive notes is actual positive things instead of fluff to
make the email longer and make me feel better. And on the part with my constructive criticism I
read it intentionally and read notes on how I can do better next time. With this approach I noticed
two things: the first was that I felt immensely better after reading the email and didn't feel
the need to throw a pity party. The second thing is that I was way more open to receiving criticism
as a way to improve. I saw their point of view clear as day and agreed with it. Life is really
all about balance and I believe we need to take the time to appreciate our successes, but not
forget about our failures so we can do better in the future. Just don't be too hard on yourself.
On the positive side of failure, I think it makes us work harder and learn more.
We take the time to improve something we may not have done if we had succeeded.
Sometimes we may think that everyone has it better and easier than us but if you do your
research on famous people of the past, many had to fail continuously before they saw success.
Steven Spielberg was rejected from film school three times but later received a handful of
notorious Awards. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team before going on to be
one of the best of all time. You see where I'm going? We only tend to hear and remember other
success but that doesn't mean they never failed. Maybe you failed due to chance or circumstance but
it's about taking failure as a sign "it's not for you right now", rather than "it's never for you".
learn from your mistakes and show up better next time. Dealing with failure is hard for
me it's something that will continue to work on until I feel I can handle it better but this past
year has really helped me to drop the negativity related to failure if I can think of failure is a
decision made by fate I can also have peace of mind that I didn't lose out on an opportunity.
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So what happens when you take criticism on board and see failure is a means to improve
in the future? Well you don't fall so hard next time you become closer to succeeding.
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