Hey Dan here and in this video I'm responding to a comment I read recently
which said for ENFPs freedom is everything correct and my answer may
surprise you a little bit naive enhancer yet I have to really disagree with this
freedom is not everything freedom is a means to an end and to
explain why it's so important to differentiate this I'm going to start
off with motivation when you're trying to motivate yourself intrinsically right
not at a job not with someone yelling at you if you don't do it or giving you a
reward or a prize if you do but when you're trying to be self-motivated you
have two ways you can be motivated trying to move away from something so
you could call this like fear-based motivation or motivation trying to move
away from what you don't want and towards motivation moving towards things
moving towards what you do want moving to a more positive life now both types
of these motivations are valuable they're both tools you can use and if
you're trying to motivate yourself more I would suggest having a clearer picture
of what you don't want and using that as fuel and having a clearer picture of
what you do want and also using that as more of a magnetic pull to move you
towards what you want but having freedom as an outcome saying that what I really
want in life is freedom and that's everything that's kind of an away
motivation like it's based on something you don't want maybe you've had a really
bad job or a over controlling parent or spouse or something or you just in a
place right now where you don't have a lot of money you don't have a lot of
freedom and you're maybe watching this from a cubicle thinking all I want is
freedom the truth is once you get that freedom you're probably going to want to
do a lot more now using freedom as an away motivation as something you want to
get like away from your current situation so you want to move towards
freedom and have that fuel definitely do that because freedom is a good thing
it's wonderful to be able to decide what you want to do and when you want to do
it at least wonderful most of the time sometimes it leads to its own issues so
freedom as a motivation can be really powerful but it should not be your end
goal not only will you not be happy with just freedom I'll tell you that you
might suddenly get a bunch of money and be
able to quit your job and do whatever you want and you'll be happy for like
two weeks at most if you are an ENFP then you are going to get bored and you
are going to want a cause and a challenge and a mission and something do
so freedom as a whole is a terrible end goal but another reason it can be so
dangerous is that if your end goal the way you're seeing it is freedom it's not
creating a powerful business it's not running a marathon it's not changing a
country it's not doing something bigger than just being free to do whatever I
want if that's the case you're probably gonna go about things
in a totally wrong way you're going to try to start some weird freedom based
business where you're chasing passive income and you want to sit on a beach
with your laptop and not ever work again and the odds are that probably isn't
going to work for you whereas if you're focused on a bigger goal you know say
you really like working with a certain kind of people and you want to support
those people then build a freedom business around that build a business
supporting those people build a business where you're gonna be fueled not only by
your goal of having more freedom but also by making an impact by the actual
work you'll be doing as well where you're enjoying what you're doing if you
really hate what you're doing on a day to day basis it doesn't matter how
powerful your goal is at the end of it the odds that as an ENFP you're going to
tough it out day in and day out for years to reach an end goal when the
day-to-day work is not enjoyable or fulfilling for you sorry it's not really
going to happen the idea of freedom being everything is also dangerous
because can sometimes lead to a setting up our days in a way that doesn't have
any structure so some mean FPS will say you know I don't like having plans I
don't like being told what to do I just like to be free and see how I feel
that's great let me know how that's working for you I do like that but one
thing I've learnt in most if not all successful ENFP entrepreneurs I've
spoken to have learned is that we actually need structure and some
discipline and a list of things we need to do and when we need to
do them we have the freedom to create that list ourselves but ultimately we
need to create that list create that structure to actually move forward and
get where we want and along those same lines most of the great things in life
actually requires some kind of sacrifice of our freedom you want to fall in love
with someone you're probably going to have to make some freedom sacrifices
some compromises right or you might spend your whole life alone you want to
have children you want to start your own business you want to really do anything
significant and meaningful you will end up sacrificing some freedom what my goal
has always been is to create the freedom to choose what I want to do and to
choose the structures that I make to have the freedom perhaps to visit a
family member on the other side of the world or the freedom to build my
business in the way I want to to not have to sacrifice my values for money or
for some corporate decision or something like that I'd encourage you to think
about what you want the freedom for if you were free to do what you want what
would that be and don't say I just like to travel forever we'd all love to just
travel forever and I kind of do sometimes and it is wonderful but I bet
that there's probably something a little more purposeful there so maybe start
with this if you did have the freedom to choose how you spend your time and to do
something significant what would you choose to do start with that and then
use that perhaps as the fuel and maybe even the framework to build a life that
has the freedom that you really want now if you're new to the channel and this is
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