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- [Amanda] Hey, Psycho2Goers.
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What are some of the things
that annoy you as an introvert?
We took a poll from our Instagram followers as well.
Here's what they find annoying.
"People complaining about me being an introvert."
"Small talk."
"People thinking I'm rude
"when I asked for time to be alone."
"Someone telling me to speak more,
"then talking over me every time I tried to."
And, "Being forced to socialize with people
"I don't have much in common with."
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In a world where extroversion
is considered the key to success,
it's a real struggle for introverts
to find their spot.
From early on in school to job hunting,
you'll hear the best way
is to attend parties and events for networking.
Additionally, job descriptions normally require
people to be extremely sociable,
enjoy the spotlight
and enjoy working in a team.
So if you feel like an outsider
because of this belief,
don't lose heart.
There are many others just like you
who share the feelings
and go through the same struggles.
To prove this and hopefully help you feel better
knowing that you're not alone,
here are six struggles
only introverts could relate to.
Number one, you appear shy when meeting new people.
What's the first impression you make on people?
Are you usually described as shy
whenever you meet new people?
The truth is, when you're quieter than most people,
it makes sense that people
would see you as a shy person
upon first meeting.
The struggle occurs when people
assume things about you just because you're quieter
such as you not being confident enough
or that you're hiding something.
This might be especially bad on job interviews
since recruiters usually seek people
who are competent in their own skills
and mistake your first impression.
Number two, you'd rather avoid parties
and big social events.
Do you ever notice yourself feeling lonelier
during parties or social events
than when you're by yourself?
Is being a wallflower the only way out for you?
While this might sound contradictory,
this is a common struggle for introverts.
Whenever you go to parties or social events,
you'll feel like there's a wall
separating you from other people
because of the amount of small talk.
Additionally, the small talk
will make you feel extremely bored
and like you're wasting your precious time.
These are two reasons enough
why you would rather avoid going
to parties or social events.
Number three, you feel underappreciated.
Have you ever felt that people ignore you in the room
just because you don't talk as much as others?
Well, this is one of the most common
struggles for introverts.
As an introvert,
you usually talk less
because you don't know what to say
or don't have anything to say.
As a result, people will not know you well,
and underestimate your skills and capabilities.
So that's why,
even when you're fit for the job,
someone else gets that promotion
because of his or her social skills
while you feel like you got skipped.
Number four, you feel that working in a team is burdensome.
Do you feel like group meetings
are counterproductive for you?
Is it easier for you to work alone
than coordinate in a group?
This is one of the struggles
that you can easily relate to as an introvert.
You work much more productively
in quiet and private environments
since focusing on your task
with people talking around you is very hard.
Additionally, as opposed to the belief
that having others around is better for the inspiration,
you're more creative
and have innovative ideas when you're alone.
And so the fact that companies
usually prefer team players over individualists
makes this a struggle for you,
even if the results and insights you give are better.
Number five, you feel extremely uncomfortable
when in the spotlight.
How comfortable do you feel
when being the center of attention?
While it's normal to feel extra pressure
when being in the spotlight,
after all you are being watched
by more people than you normally would,
as an introvert,
you'll try to avoid speaking in groups
or public speaking at all costs
because you can't stand peoples'
attention being focused on you.
You would much rather have a one-on-one conversation.
And even then,
you prefer to talk about things other than yourself.
You even feel uncomfortable talking with
acquaintances who you know
because they'll always ask personal questions,
which you feel are none of their business.
Number six, you would rather do everything by yourself.
Do you get tongue tied when asking for assistance?
Have you ever spent so much time
trying to do something
that could have been easily solved
if you just asked someone to help you?
Is it because you dread
what they would think of you as a result?
As an introvert,
one of the traits that you have
is that you hate asking for help
and the main reason for this
is that you're afraid that you might seem stupid
or incapable of doing something.
So you end up wasting so much valuable time
simply because you prefer
to do everything by yourself
instead of asking others for help.
It is important to be aware
that the struggles that you have to go through daily
are most likely struggles
that most introverts experience everywhere else.
So please know that you're not alone
in dealing with these struggles,
and start embracing the fact
that there are more approaches to life
than the extroverted approach.
It's not your fault
and no one is blaming you for it.
Own yourself and let others appreciate you.
We hope we were able to give you insight
into some of the ways you might
struggle with introversion.
Do any of these describe your experiences?
Leave a comment down below
about your encounters if you'd like.
Please feel free to share any thoughts you have as well.
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