I'm going to give you a few little tests that's going to help you know if you are an alpha
male or a beta male.
What do we mean by alpha and beta?
Basically we're talking about alpha as the leader of the pack and the beta who is secondary
to that.
Women are attracted to a man who exhibits alpha male qualities.
I have great news for you.
all the things I'm going to talk about have nothing to do with how much testosterone you
have, what you look like, if you're tall, if you're strong.
I know what we see people in Hollywood and the movies and whatever.
And we say that guy is alpha because of the way he looks.
But that's not true.
Being an alpha male has to do with your inner qualities.
I go deep into this in my Hooked program where I talk about the idea that it's your behavior
that makes a woman attracted to you.
It's your behavior that's going to be let known if you are alpha or beta.
If you are like no Tripp, I can't agree with you.
You're definitely more alpha if you're bigger, if you're louder and if you're have a bigger
physical presence.
But let me give you an example.
There's a guy named Sean Stephenson and he sadly passed away.
He's a motivational speaker and he was in a wheelchair.
This guy was absolutely alpha.
He was insanely charismatic, a great speaker, very funny.
You would categorize this guy as alpha.
If you spend time with him.
I did not spend time with him.
I did not know him personally.
But I've seen videos, I've seen him speak.
And you know this guy is alpha.
That's just one example to tell you that it's all about your behavior.
Let's go through the tests right now.
First, are you more proactive or are you reactive?
If you're more proactive this is saying that you're more alpha.
If you're more reactive, this means you're beta.
What do I mean by this?
I have a few examples here.
So first, are you starting conversations or are you waiting for them to be started?
Are you the one who is going to be social, going out, approaching women, starting the
conversations?
Are you just waiting for it to happen to you?
That's one example.
Another one is, are you going after the raise at your job?
Are you trying to get promoted?
Or are you just leaning back and letting it happen to you and just see what happens?
The guy who's going after it, who's proactive, he is more alpha.
Are you asking her out?
Or are you just talking to girls when you see them and if it's like perfect timing at
the just the right moment, then you'll make it happen?
Or maybe you're just waiting to see if she'll do it to you.
That's beta.
You're the one if you want to be alpha, you're more proactive, you're taking risks, you're
taking chances.
But really what you're doing is you're taking action.
And that's the most important.
Let's go into another one.
The next one is having a purpose.
Having some sort of purpose, having a purpose is very alpha.
That means that you're doing something with your life, you have something going on, could
be hobbies, could be career, hopefully it's both.
Are you doing that or are you just not caring, just kind of letting life happen to you, let
it pass by?
Are you having goals?
Are you setting goals?
Are you trying to move forward and become a better version of yourself is basically
what we're talking about.
We're still in number two here.
Are you having some sort of purpose?
Make sure that if you want to have a better life... by this is all just great life advice
along with the fact that it's going to make you more alpha.
But if you want to have a better life, you should have some sort of purpose that's going
to make it more fulfilling for you.
And the purpose doesn't mean it has to be something crazy and grand.
I know you might see someone like me who has a crazy purpose that's like I want to help
millions of guys with dating advice.
And I'm not saying that's better or worse than anything else.
But it is a big goal.
But you don't even need that.
You just need something that's going to be fulfilling and happy to you.
Something that you're working on.
When you're working on something, when you're working on goals, it makes you more fulfilled
but also makes you alpha.
Let's go to the next one.
Are you taking action in the face of fear?
Fear is very normal.
Your body is going to produce the emotion and physiological response to fear.
You can't get away from that.
Maybe over time, you'll get less scared of certain things.
But fear is always going to be there.
Does an alpha male feel fear?
Does he feel scared?
Absolutely.
Of course, it's normal.
You're a human being living the human experience.
But what an alpha male does is he takes action in the face of fear.
He will do the thing anyways even though he's scared to do it.
He will approach the girl that he wants to talk to, even though it's a little scary.
He's going to ask for the raise, he's going to stand up to his friend who's being mean
to him or stand up to whoever.
He is going to take action in the scary times.
He's going to do it.
He's gonna make sure he does it.
Mainly because he wants to be proactive, but he wants to have an awesome life, which is
all connected here.
So he's going to do it anyways, I have a saying called "fuck it, do it anyway," That's what
an alpha does.
He says, this is hard, this is scary, this is tough.
I don't want to do this.
I'm feeling lazy.
I'm feeling whatever.
But he does it anyway.
So it's not just about doing the action in the face of fear, but any emotion that is
going to stop you, you're going to do it anyway.
That's a big one.
Here's another one.
What he thinks of himself matters more than how he perceives how other people think of
him.
What he thinks of himself matters the most.
Because that is where direct self-esteem comes from; what you think of yourself.
Not what other people think of you.
I'm not saying this is a free ticket to step on other people and manipulate other people
or be terrible to other people, I don't care what they think.
That's not very alpha anyways because people who are alpha bring other people up.
Because people who are bringing other people down are just scared and have low-self esteem.
A guy who has high self-esteem, he just cares about him.
He's not worried about what other people think.
He's gonna go over and approach the girl because he doesn't care what other people around him
are gonna be thinking of him.
He might want to do a hobby or do something that's different.
For example, someone like me, I'm a dating coach.
To tell people I'm a dating coach, has been an interesting journey over the past 10 years
I've been doing this because it's not normal.
But I don't care what other people think.
Because I love what I do and that matters to me.
Same thing with you.
Whatever it is you're doing in your life, whatever action you're taking, whatever you're
doing for yourself, you're doing it for you.
The alpha male, he doesn't care what other people think of him.
He only cares what he thinks of himself.
Remember, very important here, it's not their life, it's your life.
At the end of the day, you're going to be living your life.
No one else is going to live it for you.
Don't worry about everyone else because they're worried about their own lives.
Worry about yours.
Next is this.
This is hugely attractive to women by the way, Can you stay cool and calm under pressure?
In an environment of high emotion, when you're feeling angry, when you're feeling scared,
when you're feeling a lot of those heavy negative emotions... are you staying calm?
Or are you crazy reactive?
Are you yelling, are you screaming, are you punching walls?
Are you crying?
Are you just completely miserable?
And it's okay to feel emotions.
I'm not saying be completely stoic in the sense where you are a robot.
You're not a robot.
Let's be real here.
But can you be stoic in the sense of I am aware of my emotions.
I recognize them.
I'm not gonna let them make me do anything I might regret.
Can you stay calm?
Again, it's okay to feel sad.
It's okay to feel embarrassed.
It's okay to feel scared.
It's okay to feel depressed.
It's okay to feel all the positive emotions.
All the emotions are just fine.
It's what you do with them that matters.
Are you going to get crazy, give up, yell, do something erratic, do something wildly
spontaneous in a bad way?
You got to be really honest with yourself.
Are you doing that?
Or are you saying okay, I feel the things I'm feeling.
Maybe I just need a moment.
I just need a break from whatever conversation I'm having.
I need a break from whatever's making me stressed out, walking away, taking a minute, breathing,
focusing on avoiding the emotion, feeling it but not letting it take over and then coming
back and resuming whatever's going on and think with a rational logical mind.
That is the alpha male.
That is true, true alpha male right there.
Really important.
All these are crucial.
Now you know.
Ask yourself, are you doing these things?
If you are, boom, you are on the track to being alpha which is great for your life.
It's great for your mind, your body, your soul, everything.
And really helpful in keeping you stronger.
Not physically, not the way you look.
But mentally and that's what's most important.