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Welcome to this new video of “Searching
for the Truth." And today we're going to
talk about a very, very important subject
which is `Letting go of past hurts."
During the first part, I will show you, on
the hands, where you can see the hurts.
And then on the second part I will share
with you a very powerful technique that
should help you with letting go of
past hurts. So, let's start with a few
examples where you can find hurt on the
hand. This is just a very small
listing of all the different places
where you can find hurts.
Our first example is when you have a big
Mars Negative It's something that you see only
on a print. You see there's a a big
ball and it shows anger and frustration.
Probably something that you were not
able to let go in the past.
Still on Mars Negative, you can have a star.
The star is going to make it flare up. Here you
have a star on a Mars that is more or less
balanced. It's not such a big Mars.
But on the next illustration you can see a star
on a big Mars, so this will make the
person a lot more explosive because so
many things are being kept inside.
When I say explosive, it doesn't mean the
person is going to be violent. Maybe the
person is going to be very sarcastic.
Or maybe, they're always going to say
little nasty things meaning nothing.
The next one that we are going to
look at is the moon. So the moon is
our perception and, based on this
perception, the emotions that we have
attached to them. So when you have a
small moon like what you can see
right now,
it means that there is a lot of internal
fear and you are always feeling out of
place. A lot of the time, it is because
you had something missing in your
childhood, so again some pass hurts.
Now let's look at the lines themselves.
If you have a heart line, instead of
going up, it's actually going down,
as you can see. A lot of the time, it is trust
issues, so you have a hard time
trusting people.
You're always expecting the worst. And because you're expecting the
worst, you tend to attract the worst.
This again comes from something that was
not solved a long time ago.
Now, staying on the heart line, you can have
a broken heart line, and a broken heart line,
a lot of the time, has something to do with
a broken heart so, of course, this would
be a specific past event. Again on the
heart line, you can have some islands and
Islands, I like to compare them to little
turtles like, you are just inside your
shell and it's really hurting inside, but
you're just keeping it inside. You're not
really expressing it. Then the energy
doesn't flow and those types of island
will appear on different lines depending
on your personality. So right now, you
have an island on the heart line. But you
can also have an island on the head line,
as you can see on the present
illustration. And you can also have an
island on the life line. So an island
on the life line, again, it's something
you haven't been able to let go, and it
blocks your energy and a lot
of the time it's still reinforced by bad
life habits, and it can lead to being
sick. So it's not a good idea to keep it.
You can
have different combinations like
for instance, you may have two islands on
the head line, as you can see on the
illustration; or you can have, on
the headline that we see now, you have an
island and a break or, on the next one,
it's a combination of many islands
creating a lot of blockages. So you know
that when you see lots of islands like
that, there are lots of things that you
haven't been able to let go. On other
lines, as you can see on the illustration,
you can have an island on the
destiny line, which will have, a lot of
the time, something to do with
work or with what you are putting your
energy into doing. In this case, you
can even see an island on an
interference line. An interference
line is already a problem and then an
island is on top of the problem of
the interference line! On the next two
Illustrations, you're going to see
different interference lines.
The interference lines usually start
from Mars Negative or they can start from
Venus and the problem is that they cross
other lines so they can cross the
Life line. They can cross the Destiny line.
They can cross the head line and sometimes
even the heart line
So all this createa a lot of problems and
these problems are usually caused by
something that you haven't been able to
let go in the past. These are just a
few possibilities. There are many, many more.
But this should give you an idea. So now let's
talk about the letting go technique.
To start to understand, it's a
hurtful event that has happened in the
past and this event is perceived as
being unfair. Just to give you an idea
of the type of event
that can be involved in something
that you haven't been able to let go
I'm just going to list a few there
For instance, you can have: your husband left
you for another woman. This is a very
common problem. And maybe it happened two
years ago, maybe 10 years ago, 20, 40 years
Ago, and the hurt is still present. Or it
could be a friend that you trusted that
stole money from you. So trust issues.
A very painful one: your son or your
daughter died. Yes, this can be really
really difficult. Or maybe a co-worker
got you fired. This is very hard to let
go, this one. Or something that happened
a long, long time ago: your
father abandoned your mother when you
were a child. Or maybe something that you
really prized was stolen from you.
It could be your jewelry, it can be your tools,
it can be anything that you really put
value on. Or a case that was with one of
my clients lately, your mother has
disowned you by leaving all of our
assets to someone else.
A very difficult one:
someone hurt your child. This one is very,
very hard to let go of. Or something that
happened a long, long time ago, but it's
still there: a teacher humiliated you in
front of the class, and you're still
thinking, and not letting go. Or a sad one:
your beloved cat was killed by a car.
Another one: you were physically or
sexually abused. And the last one:
Your best friend slept with your fiancée.
So there are thousands of examples
and these are just a few. So now let's
look at The Situation. As I mentioned
before, a hurtful event has happened and
it is really unfair and, even though it
was in the past,
you’re really convinced that it is unfair.
So today, every time you think of the
event, you feel the same pain as in the
past, even though the past is over.
But you're still feeling the pain.
So The Context now. Even though the event no
longer exists, you are suffering now.
So basically, you're suffering because of
a memory in your mind, even though nothing
is happening right now. And the second
thing is you are not responsible for the
Event - we are totally okay with that - but
you are responsible for your reaction
right now. This is very important to
remember that, because if there is no
thought, there is no event. Because you
are the one making the event live right
now. So what you're doing is you are
punishing yourself now, because of an
event that was done by somebody else, or
by something else in the past. So you're
suffering now for something that doesn't
exist
and something that you are not
responsible for. So the image that I
would like you to remember is that it is
as if you are holding on very tightly
to a thorny branch, so it is really hurting,
the thorns are really hurting,
but you are holding tighter and tighter,
and you are more hurt every time you
hold on to it, but you cannot let go,
and this is the problem. So let's analyze it
and see what we can do about it.
We have to realize that there is a total
separation between the event on one side
and the present suffering on the other
side. And the separation is at two level:
First level is Time; so the time of the
event is not the time of the suffering.
So they are really separated. And the second
separation, is in the Judgment, the way
the event is perceived. Because in the
past, you have the event without any
judgment. The event is. That's the way it
happened. And then there is your reaction
now, which is a feeling using your own
judgment. So if you want to understand
more clearly, it's basically the Past
versus the Present, and Fact versus
Feeling. Very important to understand
that. So the image of the flower - of the
fact that you are holding on to the
thorns - should show you that it is up to
you to open your hand and to let go.
Why are you resisting? The problem is
because of the wrong reasoning. And here,
I want to acknowledge a wonderful person
who is my partner Michael, one of the
wisest men I have ever met, and he's the
one who helped me understand this part
that I'm going to share with you.
This is what he told me. He said: you
think that by keeping the resentment
alive, you are proving to yourself and to
others that the event was totally unfair.
So, basically, you equal the pain to
the unfairness, and you are afraid that,
if you let go, you are admitting that the
event was fair, and that the author of
the situation was right! And if you
continue to suffer, you validate the fact
that you have been hurt, and you have the
right to suffer! So this is what Michael
helped me with. There is no need to hurt
yourself in order to justify that
someone or something else has hurt you.
And this way, you can stop hurting
yourself right now! You can open your
hand and drop the thorns. The event will
not be changed, because the author of
The situation is still responsible for the
event. But this way, you are able to stop
your suffering right now!
So I hope this is going to help
and I'm going to summarize the three things
that you should be aware of in order to be able
to let go. The first one is: the event is
over and it only exists in your mind now.
The second one is: you are the author of
your own suffering. And the third one is
the author or the situation, or whatever
happened, is still to blame, even if you
stop hurting yourself by constantly suffering
about something that is gone.
I would like you to try this technique.
It may not work right away because it takes
a lot of practice, and also a lot of the
hurts that we have are in our
subconscious mind. So when you start
working on it, you might start on
something that is conscious and then,
something that the unconscious is going
to come to the surface, and it's going to
to help identify where the hurt is
coming from. But even if it can help a tiny,
tiny little bit, it will be a great
improvement because all the negative
signs that you have on your hands will
slowly disappear, and the best result is
you will be happier! So good luck!
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