whatever is in you you are
projecting it on others outside
if you feel your un not loved
and you will project that on others and
you think the others dont love you
hasn't this happened to you?
look back and see in your own experience
forget about all the philosophy keep it aside
just look at your own attitude tendencies
you know I know spiritual masters in the
past if some would not even meet people
who are have some negativity in them
if someone is gloomy and negative
they say this is your karma you experience
it finish it and then come to me
they don't even talk to them
and the sangat also used to do that
I'll tell it in Hindi also a little bit
our ancestors past Gurus their practice
was if a person had a negative heart and mind
he was not allowed to be near the Guru
They used to tell you suffer and finish your karma
and if the person starts crying or lamenting
the Gurus used to ignore him
point being the person should
finish lamenting & suffering his karma
and when good karma comes
then he should go to the Guru
the Gurus used to say about their ears that
भद्रं कर्णेभिः शृणुयाम देवाः ।
i.e. may my ears hear good and positive words only
this was [and is] the prayer
what do the Ved mantras say?
they say may my ears hear only good words
may my eyes see only good things
may my tongue have good speech
if there are other [negative] things than this
then keep them away
see if a baby defecates then
the mother cleans up everything
but after growing up also if he
defecates anywhere then what? what to do?
hey go go out [she will tell him]
if there is a new baby
if it defecates anywhere
then the mother accepts and does the needful
but if the baby has grown up
and defecates smells bad then he is kept away
he is not allowed near food
he is told to go to the toilet
similarly we have some people
some negative thought enters their head and
they keep having malice for someone or the other
ill will for someone not just since today
hatred for someone else today
for someone else the next day
last year they were upset with someone else
they make someone or the other
the reason for their unhappiness
and remain unhappy
and they dont just stay unhappy themselves
they spread the unhappiness everywhere
people who are miserable they
dont keep the misery to themselves they
spread it to others around them
so the Gurus of the past
they would not let those people
even come in the satsang
you know they say let them
go through their stress release
and then they come
they wont even talk to them
because they will say
its like putting cow dung in a good pudding
everyone is so happy everyone is celebrating
one person comes and starts complaining
no my garland my this
somebody stopped me somebody took my seat
somebody did this somebody did that
and that spoils the whole
not only they are out of their own ignorance
they are in to their misery
if you associate with them
you also get sucked into that negativity
so always they used to say
keep away from this not to blame them
not to say they are down but to say that they are
just releasing stress keep away from them
dont let that stress get in to you
it was advised to stay away from such people
there karma is such let that get over
and I have seen
all the sangat [group] used to
treat them as if untouchables
nobody used to even talk to them
I used to feel sympathy
and compassion for them
all group used to say
those people are on stress release
so stay away from them
in a way I understand that this is appropriate
because why
to put cow dung in the sweet pudding?
both items are of the cow
but keep them separate
it's lack of understanding
what to say to people who continue being small
minded even after coming on the spiritual path?
they keep flitting between emotions of anger
and enmity for the people around them
hey wake up and see there is one God in all
and because of that everywhere things
keep happening as per karma
this person stopped me there
that person gave me this there
he did not look at me
he didn't do this for me
people stay drowned in all these useless topics
due to ignorance and remain sad
we have to rise above all this
life teaches us this again and again
whether at home or outside
there will be some person somewhere
who will remain sad and will spread sadness
now what is the point of getting angry on them?
beacuse then you will also become like them
thats why such things just have
to be suffered in life
suffer it and be such that in your heart
you sever from that relationship
what? sever your heart from that relationship
let them suffer their karma and then come
this is a big skill to manage your consciousness
your mind otherwise you know
someone or other will try to
spoil your celebrations
spoil your very good mood and
beautiful level of consciousness
and dont let them do that
with some dose of ignorance
do you see what I am saying?
so here again the knowledge will help you to
again and again and again
come back to the self
revert back to self
how many times I have said
when you get when you feel troubled by
others see them as rag dolls
they are only there to give you what is due to you
at least in the knowledge in the spiritual path
when you keep it you will save your mind
save your mind at all cost
save your mind in all situations
then you can be in the blissful consciousness
there is that song
"prem mayi anand mayi"
our consciousness is blissful
our meaning not just mine
all of you have a blissful consciousness
and in everyone's blissful consciousness
these frivolous points of his, mine, their
get piled onto the blissful consciousness but
this is hard I know it's very hard
but it is not unattainable
it is difficult but it is not impossible
so you strive towards that
instead what we do? we get sucked into it
and not only we become miserable
we make others miserable and then
the chain of misery begins
and then one gets into a sort of depression
this is completely uncalled for
especially in the knowledge for the sadhak
yeah I think that's good enough for today
the knowledge quite a bit to digest right?
what to do some people just dont learn
even I have seen
some for 10 - 20 years they are helpless what to
do? that is their nature
so the we have to think oh they are helpless
what can they do? that is their nature
knowing that they are like that
we have to sever our mind from them
do this
dont try to improve them
I myself am unable to do that so how will you be able to do it ?
you know some people are hard nuts
I cannot change them
only wish only wait for the time to change them
and you cannot change lots of people
that is again we come back to our first point
accept the things as they are
at least you will be at peace
we want perfection in everything
we forget our own perfection
how imperfect you are
we used to have a teacher in high school
he used to say
when anyone gossiped/ complained about someone
then he used to say
you have a dead donkey on your plate
you are showing the dead fly on another's plate
he used to say you can see the dead fly on another's plate
you see there is a dead donkey on your plate
that used to be very impactful
see even school teachers in those days
even today they are there
they had such wisdom such sense of humour
you know
once you know in the mathematics class a
teacher forgot to close the bracket from the other side
you know you close the bracket when you write the formula
[(a1) + (b1) = something
and then you close the bracket
so he forgot to close one side of the
bracket at that time one guy stood up
he was wearing a turban topi and he asked
the master why didnt you close the other
side the other bracket? he said you are
covering both the top and bottom you
better cover the other side
meaning when he pointed the flaw in the other
then the other said no you rectify yourself
you are seeing flaw in me?
first look at your own flaw
so rectify yourself use your intelligence
the teachers used to say
so the teachers used to have such wisdom
today also it's there I think even today
many teachers have a sense of humour
and wisdom and all this is there when
you take your job as a joy
as sacred or as when you consider your
job not just as a duty but as
something close to your heart right?
many people do seva but they do it with all
their heart but then they say my seva
I did it I did it and so I must be recognized
and so this and that
there is an ancient saying do good work
and put it in the well you have done good
work right? done then its finished
you have made rangoli its finished
later someone walks all over it or not
you have nothing to do with it
now you will get upset about it and lament
that you made the rangoli and someone
walked over it
someone or the other will walk on it sometime
till when will it last? the universe also
doesnt last how will these small things last?
but if one wants to be sad then some or
the other reason can be found to stay sad
this is his karma thats why its called
stress release you know if someone wants
to be unhappy they will find some or the
other reason to be unhappy
and they will remain like that