Want success and unshakable self esteem?
Never half ass anything.
If you were to enter a room
full of the most excellent people on the planet,
regardless of what their field of excellence is,
they would all have key things in common.
And one of those key things
is that they would derive their self esteem
from a sense of competence,
care,
substance, excellence and quality of what they create or do.
To "half-ass something"
is to do it with little effort or little care.
People who are a truly excellent and successful
never half-ass anything.
Now, I wanna underline the word ANYTHING for you.
What this means is that they give something their all,
or they don't do it at all.
And the sense of pride that they get out of this,
is a form of self-esteem
that no one can give them, and no one can take away.
People who derive their sense of self-esteem and pride
from never half-assing anything,
tend to be incredibly successful.
And incredibly successful people,
they invest their personal energy
or commit their personal energy to their endeavors,
to such a degree that the outcome becomes a reflection of them.
So they can't feel good about themselves,
if they're doing something with minimal effort.
They can't feel good about themselves,
if they just did good enough to get by.
This means that quite often,
the competence, care,
substance, quality and excellence
of whatever they're creating or doing, matters to them more than anything.
So nobody has to motivate them to achieve that level of excellence
relative to what they're doing or creating.
For example a truly excellent pastry chef's sense of self esteem
is derived by just how perfect
their sugar work or chocolate tempering is.
It would not matter whether you paid him thousands to do a pastry
or paid him nothing,
he would own his craft
and the excellence of his craft,
and the energy he dedicates to his craft
to the degree that the result, in this case pastry,
would actually be the same.
For another example,
if you took a professional athlete
with this character trait,
and asked him or her to clean a bathroom,
if he or she decided to clean it,
he or she would not half-ass that cleaning job.
Instead, he or she would give it their absolute best,
their 100%,
and clean that bathroom impeccably.
What did they get out of doing this?
The unshakable boost to his or her self-esteem
that competence, care and producing an outcome
of substance, excellence and quality gives.
Essentially, they are fed energy by anything that they do,
because of this.
Of course many of you when you hear this,
are feeling resistance creep up inside yourself.
There are many shadows that make this
a pretty difficult energy to master,
for some people.
For example, there are some people who believe that
your sense of self-esteem
should have absolutely nothing to do with what you do or create.
There are still other people,
who feel like what they've only ever wanted in their life
was to be loved for who they are and not what they do.
And so this type of the concept
feels like it's bringing them even further away
from what they're wanting and instead,
in the direction of having to perform to be worthy,
or perform to be considered excellent,
or perform...
You see how how that goes?
Other people,
let's just face it,
are not doing what they want to do.
So inside, they find it very difficult
to really have the motive to do well at something that they don't want to do.
Some people actually dread the idea
of putting 100 % of their effort or energy into something,
because they feel like if they put 100% of their energy into something
and they still fail,
what that means is it falls short of the expectations of themself
or someone else in their life,
that it will be a confirmation of their worthlessness, instead.
So, it's going to be even worse on their self-esteem
than if they half-ass something,
because here's the shadow in half-assing,
if I half-ass something,
I can always say: "I could have".
Other people feel like
nothing is ever gonna work out for them,
so it really does not matter
whether they put 100% effort into something or not.
It's not gonna pan out.
So putting 100% of your energy into it
is actually just asking for disappointment and further injury.
You get the point, right?
There are a lot of different shadows that can go into why
you have a resistance to "whole-assing" something.
Ask yourself:
What's it the idea of putting 100% into what I do
if I say yes to doing it,
no matter what it is,
bother me?
Why does the idea of deriving my self-esteem
from competence, substance, care, excellence and equality bother me?
Consider that your answer to these questions
is something that stands square in between you
and self esteem and personal success.
Look at your life.
Do you take pride in what you do?
Are you putting effort and care into the things that you do,
so as to make the outcome excellent or of quality?
If not, why?
What things are you half-assing?
Why are you half-assing them?
Why are they not worth the effort?
If you want unshakable self-esteem,
you must take pride in what you do.
And if you want true success,
you must take pride in everything
you say yes to doing.
So many people do not give the things that they even care about
their 100% in life.
And so many other people,
so many more I should say,
are really picky and choosy about what they give their 100% to.
And what they do enough, relative to just to get by.
This is a real slippery slope.
I want you to get this you guys.
Half-assing is a super slippery slope.
And especially on a vibrational level.
Vibrationally speaking, if you are not committed
to doing everything in your life well,
it will become very hard, very quickly,
to do anything in your life really well.
To the opposite,
if you become a person who commits
to doing everything in your life well,
you very quickly become a person who can do ANYTHING well.
When you chronically half-ass
or make it okay to half-ass some things in your life,
what actually happens
is that you slip into the vibrational space of "good enough".
And we need to think about the vibration of "it's good enough".
That's what your life is going to look like.
In fact, it could look much worse than that.
But what happens when you slip into this space of "good enough",
is that that's actually what you're indicating to the universe
that you're okay receiving.
Remember how I said anything you're okay giving,
is what you're saying to the universe, you're okay receiving?
Yeah.
What does this mean?
It means you will very quickly,
at best,
find yourself in a job that's "good enough",
in a relationship that's "good enough".
With the physical health that's "good enough",
and with people that are around you
who also have this attitude of "good enough",
including what they do towards you.
So is that what you want? Do you want to signal to the universe:
"I'm okay with people putting less
than maximum effort into me."
Is it loving to them
for you to say:
"It's good enough to not put all of myself towards them"
"It's also good enough for people to not really put 100% effort towards me"?
Because that's the kind of life
you are looking at if you half-ass.
To commit is to put all of your energy into something.
You can't create what you really want to create,
unless you're willing to commit in this way with your personal energy.
Half-assing is the opposite of committing.
So ask yourself:
"If I'm not committing really, I'm half-assing my life,
I'm not putting all my energy into things that I'm doing in my life,
that are the elements in my life,
can I hope to have a life that's good?"
No.
You're going to create a life that you don't want to really live in.
One day you're gonna wake up and go:
"Crap, did my life get so crappy."
When it comes to half-assing,
I have a little trick for you.
You've got to keep your ear out
for the word "try".
In this room of successful and hyper excellent people,
you are never going to hear that word.
Why? Because people who are genuinely successful,
understand that word does not exist as a concept within the universe.
You might as well just say?
"I'm opening the door for failure,
because I would like to give myself an out."
When you say the word "try",
you are entering failure into an equation
where it doesn't actually inherently exist.
It also means that there's a big part of you,
that's either uncommitted to making it happen, no matter what,
or is already convinced that it isn't going to happen.
You can't think that way and be committed at the same time.
What is your excuse for why something is not happening?
If you really look at your life,
I can guarantee you that you can actually see
that you're not actually doing
what you say you're trying to do.
Now, I know that it's hard for you to see this in your own life,
but it's probably really easy to see this in people that you know.
All of you have that friend that's like:
"I've tried everything, I mean everything.
I've done this, and this, and this and this..."
and you are looking at them from the outside going:
"All right, it's pretty frickin obvious to me what you're not doing".
Notice how many times you say "try".
I want you to eliminate the word try from your vocabulary,
and I want you to eliminate it from your mentality.
Try doesn't exist as a concept within this universe.
There's only do and do not.
Right?
Do and do not.
The excuses you're using
are justifications for having not done.
If you want unshakable self-esteem,
you've got to take pride in every single thing that you do,
no matter how small,
and no matter whether you have an energy towards it of:
"Nhee.. I don't really want to be doing that thing."
You either don't do it,
or you really say hell yes to it,
and you take pride in what you're doing.
This means brushing your teeth,
this means doing the dishes,
this means making your bed,
this means having that conversation,
that means writing that email,
this means any work-related task.
Take pride in everything you commit your energy to doing.
If you want to learn a great hack for doing this,
watch my video titled:
Priceless Motivation Tip
And if you can't,
you have got to face WHY you can't.
Why can't you?
Usually the answer there has to do with some shadow,
which would love resolution
or it has to do with the fact that you are committing your energy
to do wrong things for you in life.
It does better things for your self-esteem and sense of success,
to literally just say "no" to doing something,
than it is to half-ass it.
It's better to say "no",
than to say "yes",
but act in ways where it's not a "hell yes".
To grasp this concept,
you can watch a really great movie.
The movie is: Office Space
This is a hilarious film.
It is also a perfect example, of half-assing.
However, the fact that so many people
relate to the characters in that movie
is rather sad in terms of the commentary regarding
how many people are choosing to do things
they don't have any intrinsic motivation to do.
In other words,
you want my take on why those people are in that position?
Of course it has to do with childhood
and how they're raised to go in the direction of what they don't want,
instead of what they do want,
but why are they unsuccessful at it?
Because they're half-assing everything.
They're half-assing because of lack of motivation.
It is not possible
to put 100% into something and not see improvement
in whatever area you put that 100% into.
I mean, it's actually vibrationally impossible.
This means if you put 100% into the things in your life,
you will see improvement in your finances,
in your relationship,
in your work life,
in your health,
everything.
Some of you who know a little bit about me,
know that I spent a lot of years suicidal.
Suicidality is to sit on the fence
between committing to life,
putting 100% of yourself into life,
and not.
I had this major realization.
And this was the number one gift,
actually, that was given to me by those years of suicidality:
It's the awareness that there is actually no possible way
to create an OK life,
if you're not 100% committing your energy to life.
That was the decisionI had to make.
Am I in, or am I out?
It's either 100% in, or 100% out.
This doesn't work to half-ass my commitment to life, right?
So I learned something very valuable
in that time period of my life in my teens.
And it's that there's no possible way
to have a good life,
unless you are committing your personal energy
into the elements of your life.
And I mean 100%
into every single thing you say yes to.
The way to feel truly great in your life,
is to take pride in every single thing
that you say yes to doing or creating.
Have a good week.
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But I want to personally thank you
for taking the initiative and having the bravery
to step into the space of awareness.
Not only for yourself,
but for the benefit of those around you.
Subtitles by: Tanya Duarte