Hey guys, are you struggling to attract women
or feel like you have weak unmanly body language?
Maybe you're tired of being
invisible at work or in social situations
that sounds like you're in the right place
because today we're going to talk about
nine powerful tips
for developing strong masculine body language.
One common body language habit
you're probably doing that's a major turn off.
Why women can't help
but be affected by your body language
and the number one thing you can do
to improve your strong masculine body language.
These tips are essential for any man
who wants to build charisma and strength
not just with women.
So, get ready to transform
your body language
and start getting the kind of respect you deserve
and the kind of women you desire.
If you're new to my channel
I help men decode modern women
so you can find, attract, and keep your keeper.
My videos are for you if you know
that even though
women definitely positively, absolutely
need to learn and appreciate
a lot more about men these days
you know you can only do what you can do.
Welcome to just the tip.
Number one, stand tall and avoid slouching.
If you're in a chair,
sit tall and avoid slouching.
Good posture is the first aspect
to strong masculine body language
and whether or not you like him.
Tom Cruise is an excellent example
of a man who exudes strong
confident body language.
He's five seven but appears taller
and more imposing
because he stands up tall
with his shoulders back.
Remember, slouching
gives the impression of being depressed
or lazy or uninterested
or having health issues
or lack of interest.
Key point, you can only do what you can do
so just focus on what you can do.
Tom's also really good at the next one.
Number two, making bold eye contact.
Making bold eye contact
requires a level of intimacy
and vulnerability
and shows that you're confident and interested
in what the other person has to say.
When talking to a woman
you're interested in
making bold eye contact
conveys your interest in her
and your desire to make a connection with her.
Key point,
any woman you have a chance with
will appreciate bold, confident eye contact
the ones that don't
you're not missing out on anyway.
And no, you're not going to go to jail
for making eye contact.
Key point,
she may be and even seem nervous
about the tension that,
that bold eye contact creates
but you need some tension
to avoid the friend zone.
Three, using gestures purposefully
gesturing with your hands
can convey your message
more clearly and effectively.
And it also shows
you're not afraid to draw attention to yourself
you're not self-conscious.
Of course, be careful not to overdo it
unless you're purposefully exaggerating
but otherwise erratic
and exaggerated hand motions
or body language can be distracting.
Key point,
if you're not accustomed
to making gestures with your body
then you might want to start with your face.
You might notice that animation
helps engage your listener
or the person you're speaking with.
Number four, keep your arms and legs uncrossed.
So, keep in mind
that closed body language
can create a barrier between
you and the person you're chatting with,
which makes it more difficult
to create a connection
with a woman you're talking to.
Again, so avoid doing that
unless you're purposefully doing it
to exaggerate a point or tease her.
An actor who's really great
at physical presence is Dwayne The Rock Johnson.
You probably know him as
either the ex wrestler or actor
and yes, the man is a mountain
but he actually amplifies his presence
with bold, intense eye contact,
expressive gestures,
and a powerful stance.
So, try to keep your arms open
to signal that you're approachable and friendly.
Number five, take up space.
Expanding your body posture
can make you appear more dominant
and confident.
Try spreading out a bit more
when standing or sitting
while of course, being mindful of
other people's private and personal space.
Key point, men often confuse
dominance with being domineering
or controlling.
Only emotionally damaged women
stay with men who are emotionally
or physically controlling.
Those aren't the women you want
but studies show
women do appreciate a man
who has dominance
and specifically
who she views as being willing to protect her.
Key point.
In fact, this internal innate
basic instinct from women is so important
that almost all women
would rather be with an ugly guy
who's willing to display his protection of her
than a Chad or a good looking guy who isn't.
What's women's primary need?
Right, to feel safe.
I know plenty of attractive women
who are with men who are not tall
or not built
and they feel a 100% safe with them
because they know without a shadow of a doubt
that if anything dangerous came their way
or even not dangerous,
their man would step up
to defend them and protect them.
An actor who comes to mind in this one
is actually Sean Penn.
Now, if you're younger you might not know him
but for us older folk
remember Sean as being the scrappy,
shorter "guy" who often was dating women
who were taller than him.
And you just always knew that
he would take on any bully who was much larger
no problem, no question
you wouldn't want to tackle with Sean Penn.
And of course, that makes a woman feel safe
and when she feels safe with you
she's going to smile at you a lot more.
And this brings us to our next tip smile.
A warm smile can make you appear
more safe and friendly.
Going back to Tom Cruise,
he is known for his dazzling smile
even before he had braces
and they were not in alignment.
Just make sure your chiclets are purely white
but not too white.
If you're not used to smiling
hint, start smiling at old people.
They're zero investment
it doesn't matter if they smile back
or if they're crusty towards you
it'll help exercise those facial muscles.
Okay, this next strong body language tip
actually had me following
a guy on the sea wall in Vancouver
for several blocks further
than I was intending on veering off.
And that brings us to number seven,
walk with purpose.
When walking
move with a sense of confidence and purpose
avoid shuffling or dragging your feet.
Instead, take deliberate purposeful steps
and you don't have to walk in a specific way.
Celebrities like Tom Cruise and the Rock
and one of my favorite actors, Denzel Washington
each walk in their own style
but all convey confidence in authority.
When you enter a space
move like you own the room
in fact, move like you own the building.
Thinking back to that guy
that I was casually stalking
for a few extra blocks
he was walking his dog and there was no question
who was the alpha in that twosome.
The dog was happily trotting along beside him
looking up for direction
because dude walking had the authority.
In the next lane over the path right beside
there was another guy, I'm not kidding you
he was walking his dog.
The dog was the alpha he was...
That dog was dragging him every which way
but Friday, maybe even two Friday
it was very obvious
that's why I wanted to film it cause it was so obvious
that one had authority and had a happy dog.
And in this other twosome, neither was happy
the dog was constantly pulling on the leash,
which is not good for the dog
and the guy was frustrated.
Now, look I know that this seems overwhelming
and there's a lot of information
but stick with me because
I'm going to give you a tip
that will make it way easier
to incorporate these body language tips.
But first, let's look at number eight.
Use a strong voice.
Now, a strong voice doesn't mean yelling
or speaking over people
or interrupting, that's just rude
but speaking in a clear, strong voice
does convey confidence and authority.
The comedian Dave Chappelle
also has a strong commanding voice
he's also really great at using facial expressions
to make a point or enlighten a story.
Speak slowly and clearly
avoid mumbling or trailing off
at the end of a sentence.
Or avoid trailing off
at the end of a sentence.
Hint, if you get nervous
when you speak with new people
or just in general
then your voice will probably go
up a few octas or maybe even crack.
And here's a tip for how to overcome that
use the "hmm" technique.
I've talked about this in other videos
that was actually given to me by an actor friend.
And they said,
when you want to make sure
that you're using your real voice
and that you're speaking with
strength and confidence in your voice,
start your sentence with hmm,
if you can do the hmm,
before you get to the person
or group you're going to talk to.
But if not, try to incorporate it
into your sentence for example.
Hmm, Rebecca, I'm not convinced
you got that report in on time.
Key point, when you speak with authority,
anything you say that might otherwise
sound cheesy, sounds cheesy on purpose.
Okay, this next strong
masculine body language tip,
you have to be a little bit careful with
because it can otherwise come across as
a bit creepy or insecure
and it actually ties in
to the one common habit
a lot of guys, especially when they're nervous
display that's such a turnoff.
But first, let's look at number nine,
mirroring her body language.
Mirroring someone's body language
can help create a sense of rapport and connection.
Key point, effective mirroring
of others' body language
actually makes them feel
more comfortable with you
because you seem familiar
because you seem like them,
which makes them automatically
trust you a little bit more.
What's her primary need?
Right, feel safe.
So, if the woman you're talking to
is leaning forward a little
you can lean forward a little.
This shows you're interested and engaged
and if you add direct eye contact,
bold eye contact
pretty soon she'll be weak in the knees
and wet in other places
as in drooling
what were you thinking?
However, key point.
Don't mirror her nervous body language
otherwise it's just going to make you seem
creepy or insecure
unless again, you're doing it on purpose
exaggerating to playfully tease her.
And this brings us to the common
bad habit body language
a lot of guys do when they're nervous,
which is actually a turnoff
and ties into not mirroring
her nervous body language
and that's fidgeting.
Fidgeting such as picking at your cuticles
or your whatever you're wearing
or tapping your foot
or just nervous twitching
all comes across as being nervous and anxious.
Now, you probably are nervous and anxious
but you really got to try to control that.
Remember, the key
to strong masculine body language
is to convey confidence, being present,
and authority and authenticity.
Key point,
women mirror your feelings about yourself.
If you mirror her nervous
ticks, twitches, and so on
or express your own
then that's going to show
a lack of confidence in yourself
and she's going to mirror that.
She's going to dwindle the confidence
she has in you
it happens automatically
not the creator just the decoder.
And of course, body language is just
one of a lot of aspects
that women are evaluating
just like you should be evaluating her
but it is the first thing or one of the first things
she is going to notice about you.
Why do women care so much?
Well, I've already given you a hint several times
Can you remember what it is?
Right, women need to feel safe.
When you display strong masculine body language
it automatically makes her
feel more safe with you not just physically
it also displays the kind of
confidence in yourself
that she needs to feel emotionally safe.
Key point, when an emotionally healthy woman
feels safe with you
she can then become aroused by you.
Like I said, while other traits are important
strong masculine body language
is what gets you in the door
but how do you keep from becoming overwhelmed
with all this information?
I guarantee there's a bunch of you
who've already said in the comments
it's too much work I'm bowing out.
That's okay, you can do that
or you can use this tip
start with one thing.
Just start with one tip
and practice on anyone you're not intimidated by
until it becomes natural
and then move on to the next one.
Rinse and repeat.
And the single best thing you can do
that automatically helps with confidence
and masculine, strong body language
is getting fit.
If you're not already fit start getting fit
nevermind what it's going to do to
your physical appearance.
It's also going to release
positive, good feeling endorphins.
It's going to help you sleep better,
it's going to balance hormones,
it's going to help you manage stress.
It's going to make you feel better about yourself.
It's going to make you feel more
confident about yourself.
And as I said in many other videos
do this for you first and foremost.
When you do that
using these tips
will help you communicate
attractive qualities effectively
and most importantly
make attracting women far more easy and natural.
I've seen these tips work for
a lot of regular guys.
So, I know they can work for you as well
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And you'll also want to watch my video
on the things men do with their bodies
that all women love
and I'd like to hear from you.
Who are your favorite masculine celebrities?
Who did I miss in this list?
Let me know in the comments.
Thanks for being here, God bless.