all right so we have some messages that
our listeners sent
us so junior and i are going to read one
each
do you want to read the first one yeah
the first one says uh
i have a question about jealousy my
cousin and i have been super close
uh sorry have been super close since
we're kids and we're the same age
and the youngest of our families so
we're inseparable
now that we're adults however things
have changed he recently started dating
a girl
and who absolutely hates it when my
sister and i get close to him
she has lost it over us dancing at a
family christmas party hugging each
other to say goodbye
and even asked him to stop replying to
our messages
we are family and we're like siblings so
i don't understand why she's so bothered
by it what should i do
should i do something about it if so
what or should i put some distance
between us
so he doesn't have to have these
problems with his girlfriend
that's kind of weird that's kind of
weird to be honest
are you serious like yeah are you
kidding me that's
what she's crazy run away that's weird
what is she thinking
yeah tell him to i don't know i don't
know about that girl
oh my god your cousin come on why would
they be jealous of your
i've seen experiences where like
the girlfriend is so jealous that
they're jealous of like
their best friends like guy friends like
or girlfriends like the same
same sex friends you know what i mean so
um yeah i mean i
i don't know it's just jealousy is
something you can't control i guess
like they were jealous because their
significant other was spending too much
time with the best friend
so if i put it in myself if i was
hanging out with drew and like
this i haven't seen him in like two
months
and then and then uh my girlfriend would
be like
um really crazy over there like after an
hour she'd be like where are you
well i think that's because you just
dated an abnormal what do you mean you
i was talking about my friend friend
your friend your
friend your friend i think i know who
you're talking about but yeah you're a
friend
what do you think i don't know what
you're talking about i'm talking about
your friends they're like certain
instances where um it's not the jealousy
because of you it's the other the other
friend
like or maybe the friend isn't reliable
enough and then your girlfriend just
doesn't
trust that person so it could it could
be looked as jealousy
but it'd also be i'm just trying to
cover up for this person but i just
can't do it
no i think yeah i think um it could also
mean that the other person is not
trustworthy
so if you were being sketchy and you
weren't you know
giving them trust right it could get
them to get jealous
so i think trust is like the biggest
issue there unless
it's like the trust is there but they
just keep getting jealous and i don't
know
it's just not healthy yeah yeah yeah
i've never heard of this so i'm just
kind of like
yeah that was that one's harsh if if my
boyfriend told me to not hang out with
my cousins and not be boyfriend
close to my if my uh
if whoever i was dating told me to not
respond to my
cousin's text you know or your brother
or twitter my brother
that's chris i would break up yeah i'd
be like yeah that's
crazy yeah what is wrong with you i feel
the same way i would honestly be
happy that my significant other is
spending time with their family because
i like seeing that they're family
oriented but yeah it's like damn like
say
like we want time off too right like you
don't want to be always together all the
time with like one person
that's not healthy that's not healthy
yeah but have you ever felt jealous
see toward a family member about like
i don't know comparing like school
grades or like success
no not really not yet i guess yeah
i have too far of a gap like the age
difference with with my brother so i
can't feel that
i wasn't able to feel that it was more
like wow they're doing
this because they're adults i'm not an
adult yet so
okay yeah i think that's me too my
brother is so much younger than 13 years
old
so it's like what do you want to be
jealous of his pokemon
yeah i know like oh damn you got that
pikachu
yeah i don't think i've experienced that
either but i know that a lot of parents
compare like siblings to each other
yeah and then from that um jealousy can
happen
and i think with twins too sometimes
it's like more likely to happen because
yeah kind of look the same but there's
always bound to be one person who's like
a little better looking or like smarter
yeah no my best friends
in high school yeah were twins
and like you said there's always the
more popular one right or the more
the smarter one they were always getting
fights about little things
that no one thought it mattered just
because there was a jealousy
yeah and then they get mad if i hung out
with one of them and didn't hang out
with the other one you know what i mean
oh like it's just like it just happened
to be that he was near so i hung out
with
this one but then the other one would
text me be like
why are you not calling me it's cute
that could happen though
yeah i feel like if you just hang out
with just one person more than the other
but they're
they're twins like yeah but we were all
best friends yeah the three of us we
were best friends
and they were like there was one more
person but like four of us were best
friends
they still got jealous yeah and she's
taking it super seriously like
she's like she wants to cry
yeah i definitely get fomo like i get
jealous when
i feel like my friends are hanging out
with other people more than me
depending on who it is i sometimes i'll
have too much pride to be like hey
like invite me too or i want to go and
you know i'll just be secretly crying in
the corner of my room like
me but most of the times with close
friends i'll just be like oh
i'll just be like hey let's hang out
yeah this week all right let's
meet for lunch or something definitely
yeah yeah
i don't know it's true are you a jealous
person um
at like it's it depends on which person
exactly yeah
like exactly i get sometimes jealous
over just
like hangouts or like meetups that like
i'm not able to go
or it's like oh i can't make it to that
date but then they're like oh then you
know
we'll just meet each other on a
different day but we'll still have that
gather up so i'm just kind of like ah
that you know that kind of hurts
sometimes
yeah but i'm like considered the most
sensitive person
in like the friend group oh yes yes yes
yeah like
she's so sensitive man like why are you
always so sensitive about musicians yeah
yeah
it's just like i think it's the music
thing you get like just so easily too
um yeah i think what is your mbti
what is it i think it's like en enfp or
something
yeah but i gotta do it again esfp yeah
i gotta do it like at home like
literally i did it in front of the
camera
so i want to try it just at home by
myself and where i can be really honest
with the questions because you're in
camera i'm just trying to like
i don't think i should answer it this
way but um i feel like with jealousy
it's inevitable there
are going to be triggers all the time
that
make us kind of jealous but it's how we
deal with it
of course they're going to be people who
take that jealousy and they're like
i'm gonna be better than the person i'm
gonna like oh my god
set up a trap for that person to fail
but i because i'm serious
even between families there are jealousy
so think about it even no matter how
much you trust your
friend that there might be like a little
speck of jealousy in there
but it's like you know with my friends i
can be like oh i'm so jealous you're
doing great that's good
but congratulations yeah and then there
will be some people that'll be like
congrats i'm so jealous oh my god
and then behind their back they're like
she doesn't deserve that oh my god i
hate that
you know she doesn't even work that hard
and they'll talk crap behind your back
so
i feel like feeling jealousy is normal
but it's how you deal with that that
makes you
like different yeah at the end of the
day you gotta do you
like yeah don't like you know jealousy
it can be
like felt but you just gotta live your
life i mean like
i think yeah i think everybody has
different um
times you know what i mean like this
person could be having
having like the most successful story
when they're 30
someone might be having it when they're
50. it doesn't matter so i think
like there's no need to be jealous about
a person because they're doing something
because you're not
them like it doesn't really make sense
so i don't think in that term i don't
think
i've ever felt jealous like oh he's
better than me as studying you know like
he's better than me and singing whatever
but the jealousy
i felt was like it was more like when i
went to go see coldplay like
live um doing their show in front like
20 000 people i was like okay
i'm jealous i'm so jealous like i want
to do that so i think
i think it's really like unhealthy to
like compare yourself yeah
but if that jealousy like that jealousy
feeling is obviously normal right like
it's like
being mad or being happy or being
sensitive whatever but i think it's good
to just take it in and say like okay
what do i have to do so i could make
that happen yeah right there should be
another word for that
like jealousy is so it's like portrayed
as such a bad like
yeah so negative it's so negative
because like it's it's just a feeling
yeah but it's just motivating yeah it
really is
it's not like a negative feeling like
nothing is really if you think about it
it's such a natural feeling so i don't
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