I feel like we've been
together for so long at this point
that we
really do kind of share brain.
And it's scary.
We will finish each other's sentences
or already know what
each other's thinking
- Yeah. - And that to the point
where it is just kind of scary.
But at the same time, it's
nice to reiterate.
It's nice to hear it.
What does my love feel like?
You're very... it's very
secure fortress feeling.
You know, like in a castle
where you pull the moat
up and you're secure,
it's safe,
it's reliable.
You know, you don't waver
much.
You know what I mean?
Like you don't have, like, great
emotional ups and downs.
So I think it's just
it really does it really is safe.
Like, it's safe for me to express myself.
It's
it's secure.
It's- it's very solid.
That would be my best description of it.
It's just. It's very reliable.
I can wake up tomorrow morning
so long as you're living.
I know that-
That we're okay.
I know that
I can step on this foundation, and it's.
It's not going to crack.
You don't fall apart easy
you're very capable.
I can rely on you, and I know it.
You show up
and you do things well.
You know?
Okay,
what do I do that makes you feel
that you can trust me?
I think one thing that is absent
in this world today is loyalty.
And you are, like, insanely loyal to me.
Like, everything.
But it's almost to the point of sometimes
I tell you,
like, honey,
we don't have to be attached at the hip.
But you want me everywhere
and every moment you want me with you
and there's no secrets.
There's no- we don't hide anything like
you have my phone password.
I have your phone password.
It's like if we want to
do anything with each other
or look at each other's stuff,
even though we don't have to,
but if we want to-
It's nice to not have the need to do that. - There's-
an insane amount of trust
and loyalty there. So I'm
going to say you-
you are
so loyal to me and have been for 20 years
that it's like
there's no question in my mind as to,
you know, if you have that love
or that feeling.
Same feelings for me. If that makes sense.
Yeah. - Okay.
What does my love feel like?
It feels like I have a superpower.
That's.
It feels like you give me.
It's like I'm.
Whenever there's hardship,
whenever I'm down,
whenever things
don't seem exactly the way
I want them to be.
I think of you,
and it's like Popeye spinach.
It's just-
Topped up?
Yeah, it feels.
It feels truly like a superpower.
Like, I feel like you energize me.
No matter how down I am
and no matter how crappy
I feel about myself,
there's this perpetual
like I'm
constantly plugged in to the outlet.
It's a good answer.
Yeah? - Yeah.
Why, thank you.
Mine is...
I'm just such a chronic doubter,
and I lack confidence
in so many ways,
or just not confidence
in my choices and decisions.
And I just. You're like
the thing on this planet
about which I could not be more sure.
It gives me faith in myself, in
other arenas in my life, to know that
I have the right instincts
and that I can make choices
that I won't regret because I chose you.
And I'm 100% confident
in that decision seven plus years later.
And I haven't felt that way
about anything else in my life.
So it's like I got that.
So what does it feel like?
Like a warm blanket?
Kind of.
Nice.
How have I stayed
true to our vows over the years?
Both of us have to do this.
Our vows? How have
you stayed true to our vows?
When I'm sick, you take care of me.
And we had nothing.
We still work together, rich or poor.
We were poor most of the time.
We still made a way. - Yeah.
No matter what happens,
even if you- what you go through.
So when you want throw the towel in
and the little.
I don't know, the little things
come in your head.
Remember your vows.
Remember what you said
when you talked to this man
the day you got married,
you said for richer or poorer,
in sickness and in health, 'til death.
do us part. - 'Til death do us part.
And then something
I think that
what we go through in a relationship
is just a way of a test
to let you see how much you can endure,
how much you can take.
Mm hmm.
Then at the end, you pass this test,
your reward will be coming.
So, you know, when you and I,
we had a lot of going on
in our relationship, but we stood it out.
I stood it out.
Well, I agree with that.
'Til death do us part, for richer, for poor,
to sickness and to health.
We've done all that together,
you know,
and we've had our ups and downs.
But,
you know,
you can't forget the bad times,
but you always remember the good times.
The good outweighs the bad,
you know, in any relationship.
And that's how I feel about you.
Yeah, another thing
too: keep people out of your business.
You bring people in, they make it worse.
We never well, we never did that.
My mother told me that.
You know, we never did don't bring nobody.
- Into your business. - You work it out
yourself, I don't care who it is.
The vows is an oath that you take.
And if you a woman enough
or man enough to say it.
You woman enough, man
enough to do it.
Okay.
If this were to be our last conversation.
What is something
that you never want me to forget?
Oh, that question.
That's another one.
Oh.
I mean, just the obvious
that your love and our family
has meant the world to me, and.
And it always will.
And
if I'm ever not here, you need to
have a strong relationship
with those kids.
Everybody needs to stick together.
I don't know
if- I can't imagine you not being around.
Conversely. It's just the scariest
place of my brain
really doesn't want to go.
Yeah.
Because I've seen a friend
go through that and it's no fun.
Why do you think I'm in your life?
I think you're part of my, um,
the masterplan, my purpose,
my passion
in life was meant to cross paths.
I told you, you're my soulmate.
I think
you coming into my life
was to make me become
the woman who God destined
called me to be.
Just see myself change.
Since I've known you
Since I've met
you You've
awakened something inside of me.
And you bring out the best in me
You keep me focused,
you keep me positive when there's times
I just want to break down.
Like a couple minutes ago.
And I needed that.
At the time that I met you in my life,
I needed that
positivity, that healing,
and I needed you
as much as you thought you needed me.
So...
How do you love me?
And you said- you're gonna say:
'let me count the ways'.
That's like a loaded question.
But I say I have to love you
with all of the being God
gave me to love with.
Because I ask God for you.
I have to love you
with every being of me.
And that's why
I do everything in my power.
I've learned not to get upset
over things that don't matter.
Like I used to
tell my mom, don't sweat the small stuff
because in the end,
the love that we share
among each other
is going to make that thing look like
it was totally silly,
you know, all along.
So we just move on.
And one thing you notice,
I'll come back to it later...
You always do.
I always do.
But you know
I love you with every being of my spirit
and my body, my soul
that God has given me and said
to love you because I asked and he
he gave me the gift.
I asked for.
I think that's the last question right?
Yeah.
I don't see any more cards on the table.
Okay.
So should we just...?
C'mon, seal it with a kiss.
Oh, okay baby, okay sugar.