(gentle guitar music)
- (sighing) I was nervous as hell.
(both laughing)
How do you think I'm really feeling right now
and what's informing your answer?
- At first, I would've said you're nervous
because I saw you was shaking a little bit.
(both laughing)
- I was trying to hide that, for real.
- It probably made it worse, but.
- Yeah.
- Yeah, I think you were nervous, but as you spoke,
it kind of canceled it out if that makes sense.
So, yeah.
- I was hella nervous.
Oh, my gosh.
I think it's your turn.
- All right.
Use five words to describe what being vulnerable
with me would be like.
- I feel like it would definitely be a good conversation.
I feel like once one of us is vulnerable enough
to talk about some things,
I feel like we can go really deep into it.
- Okay.
- So I feel like it'd be like, an open flowing conversation,
not forced at all.
That's what I'm getting from you.
- Okay.
I mean, that wasn't five words, but.
- Oh, it's five words?
- Yeah.
- Five words.
- Deep.
Long, definitely.
- Okay.
- I feel like maybe a little emotional.
Maybe we'll get into some topics
that we don't really talk about to other people.
I guess stimulating.
Would that be a good word?
- Okay.
- Stimulating and I think it'd be fun.
I love having convos like that.
- Same, same, same.
- What do you think I think is my sexiest quality?
- I feel like.
This is a trick question.
Well, everything is a trick question.
- Right.
- I feel like you would say your mind.
- You hit it right.
(both laughing)
You hit it right on.
You hit it right on the head.
(Brianti laughing)
Thank you, though. - Okay.
How are you dating differently since the lockdown and why?
- Oh, man, I can go deep into that.
But for time's sake, I won't.
I feel like one big thing that I realized
during the pandemic was that time isn't guaranteed.
You would think that that'd be like,
an obvious realization, right?
- Yeah, yeah.
- But I feel like a lot of us forget
that my time with you isn't guaranteed.
Your time with me isn't guaranteed.
For me, in my past romantic experiences,
I always tend to think about the next step.
Long-term, what the future is looking like,
and that's kind of been sabotaging them
because it's making me not appreciate
what I have in the moment.
You know what I'm saying? - Yeah.
- So the lockdown really made me think,
focus right now instead of focusing what's down the road.
Granted, that could be good,
but once it's all said and done, it's too late
and I'm just regretting that I wish I appreciated it
when I had it.
- Yeah. You know what I'm saying?
- Yeah.
- How about you?
- I feel like since the lockdown,
I haven't really been dating.
I kinda just have been trying to figure everything out.
- Facts.
- The world and how it was so different.
- Right.
- So I haven't really been dating, no, so I can't really.
I mean, that's different, I guess.
Yeah.
- No, that's valid.
Definitely.
How would your parents react if you brought me home
as your partner?
- I feel like my mom would definitely be pleased,
just because you're very handsome.
- Wow.
(Brianti laughing)
- Thank you, thank you.
- But yeah, I think she would be pleased.
- Nice.
- How about you?
- I think they'd be pleased, too.
- Okay.
- I feel like, if you're a respectable person, you're kind,
especially in black households.
If you don't say nothing when you walk in.
- Oh, yes.
Oh, man.
- That's the first red flag, we don't say nothing.
- Yes, right.
- But I feel like you would do that,
so I think they would definitely like you.
- Okay.
When you think of us together,
what are your biggest hesitations and why?
- I feel like I can say this
for a lot of my future relationships or past ones.
I feel like everything always goes well in the beginning.
You know, honeymoon phase.
Like, oh, like it's such a great time and we kicking it.
- Yeah.
- And then there's just that one point where it's just like,
am I really feeling them?
Or it's like, you start hitting that wall.
- Yeah, yeah.
- I feel like that's something
that's really making me hesitant
about getting back into the scene.
- Okay.
- Just because I feel like that heartbreak
or like the thought of it happening.
- Yeah.
- Is just so, I guess, overbearing, for lack of better term.
- Yeah.
- But I mean, we kind of have to go through those things
to learn about ourselves, right?
- This is true, this is true.
- So I think that'd be my only hesitation.
- Okay.
Okay.
I guess, because I haven't really been dating like that,
it's kind of like, I really enjoy being single sometimes.
- That's perfectly, yeah.
- So I feel like just, and this is gonna sound so bad,
but just not having to deal with someone else's feelings.
(Brianti laughing)
- Felt that.
I felt that.
- It's like, do I really want to do that?
- How old are you?
- I'm 23.
- 23.
So you went to William P.
I just graduated.
We're in a very transformational period of our lives.
We're making these life decisions
and like where we want to go.
- Right.
- So I feel like you saying about enjoying being single,
that's definitely a big theme that I feel like I'm trying
to pursue, as well.
Not having to think for two.
I just need to think about me right now.
- Right. - Where I need to go.
Because I feel like most times,
people, their relationships and because their paths
aren't really, they're not aligned right now.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- So I feel like I definitely felt that.
That resonated with me a lot.
- That's ironic because like we both here.
- Right.
(Brianti laughing)
Right.
What's next for us?
- (laughing) Oh, I gotta answer that.
Okay.
What's next us?
I mean, I don't know.
I guess exchanging information, if it's cool with you.
- Of course.
- Okay. - Of course.
There's no doubt about it.
- Okay, okay.
So yeah, I feel like that's the first small step.
- Nice.
I'm with it.
- Okay.
- Do you feel chemistry right now?
Why or why not?
- I feel like we definitely, there's something there.
- Okay, okay.
- I feel like we can get along really well.
- Yeah, same.
Yeah.
I think you could definitely show me new ways
of thinking about certain things.
- I would say the same thing about you, too.
- Yeah, just off the strength of we like to challenge.
- Right. - So, yeah.
I think that'll definitely be one of those things
where I learn a lot.
- Nice.
I feel like you brought this up earlier.
I feel like a lot of my past experiences,
I've always, regardless if it ended badly or not,
I've always learned something from it, you know?
So I feel like each person I'm with,
I always gained some new perspective
or like lesson about myself or the world around me.
You know?
So I'd definitely say the same.
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