uh today we are going to be talking about who to surround yourself with
and while we're on the subject who to stay away from okay so who to surround yourself with
also who to stay away from all right uh first things first you guys can win things just let
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let me get rid of that and now let's just go ahead and go into it so again
who to surround yourself with and then who to stay away from okay
also just real quick um thank you for everybody that is messaging me today and uh
and just really supporting me and kind of like i feel rallied around
and i appreciate it today is the anniversary of my dad's death it is nine years ago today and
i'm just i i'm overwhelmed with the amount of thoughtful things that are coming from you guys
i just appreciate it so much and i want to let you know that i was able to dedicate my talk at the
great american summit this last weekend to him and i'm very proud to have been able to do that um but
yeah now let's go ahead and get going but again thank you so much i didn't want to continue
without saying thank you um okay who to surround yourself with and who to stay away from so
this is for people that have
you know if you've already quit your job that's cool if you're still in your job and you're
wanting to quit uh that's cool it doesn't matter what phase of life you're in or what phase of
business you're in none of that matters this is a this is like a a life skill okay so this doesn't
really even have to do with business if we're honest but it's going to make your business easier
who to surround yourself with some of you guys know the story of mike and i right so at the
very beginning of our relationship i was a raging alcoholic okay i was in i was really really bad i
um i drank all the time even whenever i came home i would have one of those big cups and
it looked like water in it um but i had like a handle of vodka in the laundry room that i had
hidden away and i would put it in there and i just i drank a lot i drank a lot guys a lot and i was
numbing i was numbing things in my life and uh and we're not gonna go into all that that isn't the
subject of today but i was in such a bad way i had been divorced um the the marriage ended very badly
um and then i lived in somebody's basement god bless them for letting me live in their basement
or else i would have been homeless right um that's i that was the situ that was where i was at twenty
28 or 29 it was somewhere in there and uh and that's where i was and i just remember like this
is my whole couch thing i remember sitting on the couch like whenever i say take it back to
the couch i mean like my proverbial couch when i say that like i always imagined my couch because
that was for me that was a turning point i was sitting on the couch just a mess around me had
my my dog my shelter dog with me she was her name's cuddles and she's an american eskimo
we lost her a couple years ago and uh and and so i i it was it was an awful situation and i
remember just staring at the wall and thinking like what on earth has happened to me like what
a where did i go wrong and typically in our lives you guys i just want to
make this clear it's not usually one thing that you go wrong in it's usually tiny things that you
go wrong in right it's like a tiny bad decision and then another tiny bad decision and none of
them feel monumental but all along the way you're like here was your road for your life right here's
the road for for like you living in your purpose for you living a life of um a life that matters
you know this is there's this and then what we start doing is we make these little decisions
and these little decisions pile up and not only do they pile up they start veering you off course
and it's ever so slightly and nothing ever feels that bad nothing ever feels like i decided to
rob a bank today you know like it's never something that's so bad that you're like oh
that was a real bad choice now for the people that have robbed banks yeah that's a pretty monumental
bad choice right but how many people are actually those people most of us are the people that
we just we make one bad decision it's just so slight right and then another slight maybe my
maybe my first bad decision was just was to uh take that first drink in the first place
i knew my family i knew my dad had an alcohol problem as well and he had quit
i think before i was even born but i knew that and i still did it that
was a bad decision but it was a slight bad decision it was a drink it was one
but that slight bad decision led into other slight bad decisions i would say that i mean
i'm just gonna say it i i think a bad decision was me getting married the first time
i think that was a bad decision i think looking back on it now i'm like gosh that was
um i could have chosen better right not that he's a bad person we just were not
so it's these slight things that get us veering off course okay so
i just want to bring your awareness to that to make you realize it's not just the people
that decide you know wake up in the morning and decide to rob a bank yeah those i mean that's
monumental right but it's every day and if we're present every day in
our decision making if we're present every day and does this filter like if we use the filter
that we're looking at our life through and the things that are coming at us and we're
having to do you say yes or do you say no and uh you know those things that are coming at us
if we run them all through the filter of does this serve my purpose in life does this serve
the station in life that i choose does this serve me being the best version of myself
possible if we were to run everything through that filter you guys we life would be a lot easier
i didn't run everything through that filter because i was unawares i did not even know
such a filter existed i was just kind of like floating through life and so i was making these
bad decisions after bad decisions anyway i ended up on the couch in a basement darn near homeless
couldn't feed myself fed my dog hardy's cheeseburgers put them in her bowl like i was
churching it up or something and that was my life that was my existence i got fired from my job i
was a bartender i got fired for being a bartender or fired as a bartender because i was an alcoholic
an alcoholic being a bartender by the way like if this is you don't do it that's a really bad idea
but i was sitting there just you know on paper nothing on paper no skills on paper just a mess
on paper a girl who's just lost everything on paper
then here's what happened
i had already known mike for a little while but we started hanging out together and he started
doing something that i call speaking life he started speaking life over me and into my life
and so what that means is he's he saw in me what you see today but he saw it back then when i was
a mess guys he saw it back then and he spoke it over me so he would tell me how brilliant i was
he would tell me how good i was at x y and z he would tell me he would he would call out my
greatness to me now in the very first times that he would do that i would be like okay bro you know
like what what are we um i don't know why you're saying these things that you're saying but like
that ain't me uh you got the wrong girl uh and that's where i mean that's where i was in life
right i was just like that's not even true i don't know why you're saying this to me but he persisted
he kept going he kept reminding me over and over and over again of who i am of who i really am
and eventually i started to see it i started to understand i started to see what he was seeing
and then i started growing into it so a lot of you guys have heard the story that i talk about but uh
there was a teacher that had a class of students and her class of students were doing really poorly
in tests and the principal came to her and said i don't we had to do something here because the
entire class is doing really badly so we need to do something here she did one thing okay she did
one thing different between this test and the next test that were like standardized tests one thing
what she did you guys is as her students came to class every day
she would welcome them in and she would speak life over them she would let them know how brilliant
they were she would let them know how capable they were she would let them know what what amazing
people they were how they how she was so proud of them and how they were so
smart and how they how they could do anything that they wanted to do they were just that good
and so they would they would come to class and they would hear this
their little minds would hear this
and then here's what happened next you guys the next standardized test that they took
the scores all went
not because of different teaching not because of different curriculum not because of
you know telling them they need to be better
but by calling out the truth in them and then they believed it and then they lived
up to it you guys here's the thing that we do as people we live up to people's expectations of us
we also lower ourselves to people's expectations of us do you see what i'm saying there
so the answer here and what i'm saying in all of this
is you need to surround yourself with people that see the best in you and you in return see the best
in them in my tight circle we're i mean it's just it's leap frogging it's i see the best in you you
see the best in me we call it out in each other like it's aurora like it's not toxic positivity
which is what counterculture wants to say oh don't be toxically positive listen i'm gonna
call out the golden you because what i know to be true is that you will live up to the gold
that i call out in you and that is not toxic and i refuse to have people tell me that that is toxic
it's how we make people better in a world that doesn't want people to be better
in a world that wants people to be quiet
in a world that wants people to just shut up and sit down i choose to call out golden people
i choose to make them better i choose to help them be the very best version of themselves possible
and so i suggest that we all do that and most importantly that you pay attention to who
you're spending time around so you have that done for you and so you can do that for them
we are in a crossroads right now we have to call out the gold in each other
we don't know what's down the road guys we have to call out the gold in each other
we have to make each other better better it is our responsibility to do so
now who do we stay away from i think it's probably obvious
stay away from the people that speak death you can speak life you can speak death too right
speaking death looks a lot like no you can't do that who do you think you are she's not gonna
make it this isn't gonna last da da death comes from very close friends and sometimes family
and then also strangers
the hardest thing to go through is those people closest to you speaking death over you
it's the hardest thing to go through it's very hard to be successful when you have people that
you love so much telling you that you can't do it or they don't believe that you can do it
now i'm not saying that you should hate those people i'm not saying that
i'm saying they need to be at an arm's length i'm saying they don't need to
have a whole lot of bandwidth if any they don't get any real estate in your mind
they don't get to live there there's a fun thing that happens whenever you get
successful i'm on the other side of it so i can tell you what's going to happen
on the the fun thing that happens whenever you get successful is those people start coming around
they start saying ah i always knew you were gonna be okay all right but still when they're in the
place where they don't get it and they're telling you you can't do it they're working from their own
limitations right i mean what we know about this is they're working from they don't they don't
think you can do it because they don't believe it can be done because they can't do it that's
human nature okay and they're they're spewing it all over you they have no idea what they're
doing they probably think that they're keeping you safe so god bless them i don't think that they're
trying to be malicious even but the truth of the matter is that you need to keep them away from you
and you need to only allow the people around you that are honest
that are trustworthy and that speak life everybody else can be an arm's length away
don't let them have access to you guys don't any five minutes in a day that some someone that's
speaking death over you has access to you can has the potential of ruining not just your day but
your week and how many productive efficient hours did you just destroy from that keep them away
guys okay i'm also just going to say this super duper quick and i'm almost running out of time uh
if you guys are not in hbr hbr is called home-based revolution
it's going through a name change right now too uh it is the thing
that i have created it's the blueprint that i created to show you to walk you through
hand in hand how to do what i've done so we've grown multiple income streams from home utilizing
stuff that we already knew and loved right five to ten hours a week is as long as it takes
and we've done very well for ourselves and this is what we're this is our focus is that every family
will be able to do this very same thing because the truth be told you're gonna have to
look at the writing on the wall you're going to have to figure something out for yourself
and right now it's about 85 percent of what it's going to be in the next couple of weeks so you
get like 85 off so the way that you jump in is you go to live in the dream with martha it's my
facebook business page message me the words let's do this rainbows and unicorns whatever you want
give you the details of the program the rest is history i love you guys bye