- Hey Playam
Have you ever spotted your crush in the hallway
of your school and you want to walk up to them
and talk to them but you didn't know the right thing to say
you didn't know when the right time to approach them was
or they were surrounded by friends and it just felt awkward.
Don't worry.
In this video I'm gonna share a few solutions
as to how to approach each of those situations.
How to walk up to your crush in the hallway.
How to start a conversation with them.
And how to make it go well.
Stay tuned.
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Now the hallway of the school
can be a very siloed environment.
People are using it to go to and from class
they stop to chat with their friends
they stop to go to the bathroom and get a drink of water.
So not everyone is in the mindset of talking to new people.
Having people approach them and start a conversation.
So, that kind of puts you at a disadvantage.
Well, does that mean you shouldn't approach them
in the hallway of your school?
No.
But here's why.
Because it's such a casual environment
your crush is not going to be expecting
a long and deep conversation.
So, you can keep things pretty simple
whenever you talk to them here.
First things first though,
if you want to start a conversation with your crush
you're going to need to approach your crush.
So I would recommend using
the three-second rule.
And basically what that is is
upon seeing your crush
give yourself no more than three seconds
to walk up to them and talk to them.
If you spend any longer standing there thinking about it
you're gonna over think it.
You're gonna believe everything's gonna go wrong
and you're not gonna do it.
So, you need to just start walking over to them
in three seconds.
Not like running over to them in three seconds
I mean telling yourself okay there they are
One.
Two.
Three.
Go.
As soon as you start walking
that moment gets insanely real
but stick through it.
Walk up to them and just say hello.
Now, as a side tip
one thing I learned over the years
is that approaching someone head on
can seem a bit intimidating.
Standing there and seeing someone walk directly towards you
can feel a little weird.
So what I would recommend doing is
wait 'til the person's turned to the side
or walking and try to stand along side them.
If they're walking a certain direction
try to walk along in that direction with them
standing next to them
and start the conversation like that.
That way it looks like both of you
are just kinda casually walking and strolling
rather than you directly approaching them.
And if you're curious about
what you should talk to them about.
Don't worry.
At the end of this video I'm going to link up
my conversations starter guide.
The 20 ice breakers that you can use
just to kind of get into the flow of a conversational person
so you don't freeze up and not know what to say.
So stay tuned for that link a little bit later.
Now what tends to hold a lot of people back
from approaching their crush in the hallway
is their group of friends.
People hang out with their friends in the hallways.
So if you want to talk to your crush
you're gonna have to break through that barrier
and that can be a bit intimidating.
Now just because your crush is with their friends
doesn't mean it's impossible to talk to them.
But you need to get out of that mindset
that you want to talk to them one on one individually.
You might have to approach the group
and start a conversation with all of them
in order to get to your crush.
I've talked about this in previous videos
all about approaching a group of people.
And what you really want to do here
is start with a question.
Address the question to the whole group
so that everyone can share their answers and responses
including your crush.
If you can successfully carry a conversation
with everyone in the group
then it's gonna be way easier for you to talk to them
one on one whenever you spot them in the hallway.
All you have to do now is say hi, make eye contact, smile.
And just keep those little flows going.
And the same thing goes for your crush.
Whenever you spot them walking in the halls
now you have the opportunity to say hi to them.
To make that a normal thing
so that you're no longer a stranger to them.
And what I would consider one of the most important pieces
to this whole equation
is to end with some type of call to action.
That might be at the end of the conversation
with your crush or with the whole group of friends
letting them know hey you guys seem pretty cool
let's do this again.
Or if you're talking to your crush individually
ask them for their number, their Instagram, their SnapChat
or even to just hang out.
Now for those stronger asks,
you might want to save those
for two or three conversations in.
Remember, the whole point here really is
to normalize conversation with you and your crush
whenever you guys are in the hallway.
To make it so normal that whenever you spot them
maybe they come up to you and say hi.
Maybe you walk up to them and say hi.
But you guys always acknowledge each other.
No longer will you have to walk past one another
not knowing about the other person.
You really wanna kind of demolish that
start something new
and really make it normal
that you and your crush are cool with each other.
But what do you think though?
What's holding you back from just saying hi
and starting a basic conversation with your crush
in the hallway.
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
Remember though, the learning doesn't end here.
Like I said, check on my
20 ice breaker conversations starters guide.
I break down different things you can use
to start conversations and how to keep them going.
And definitely check out the playlist below that.
You can tap either of them on the screen right now
to learn more about carrying conversations.
Making it easy to start them
and how to successfully have them.
On that note, I'll catch you guys tomorrow.
As always
love and peace.