singer John Mayer has a song called
daughters that discusses the importance
of fathers being there for their
daughters Mayer wanted to emphasize the
message that daughters have to be
nurtured well in their childhoods
because those actions will affect the
relationships they have when they become
adults but not every girl gets the
treatment they hope for some of them
grew up with hardships and only
understood the unstable fragile love
they received from the person they
called their dad here's six types of
unhealthy father/daughter relationships
number one the lost father the lost
father is someone who is physically
present in their daughter's lives but
abandons her emotionally
he never praises her daughter for her
accomplishments or notices the changes
that she's going through as a result
daughters with a lost father often feel
confused about their self-identity and
have trouble identifying their strengths
and talents they also typically suffer
from low self-esteem issues and usually
look for the love and affection they
crave in the romantic relationships
number two the abusive father the
abusive father often has unstable moods
and exhibits unpredictable destructive
behavior he usually has a hard time
controlling his anger and takes his
stress out on his daughter which results
in verbal physical or sexual abuse the
abusive father only cares about his own
needs and fails to treat his daughter
right daughters of abusive fathers often
grow up with no true identity they are
fearful timid and prefer not to be
noticed by others in romantic
relationships daughters of abusive
fathers expect to be mistreated by their
partners and struggle with vulnerability
and intimacy number three the pampering
father the pampering father is the
opposite from the abusive father whereas
the abusive father takes the pampering
father gives he doesn't set healthy
boundaries and treats his daughter like
a princess consequently she often grows
up being manipulative and self-absorbed
in romantic relationships daughters of
pampering fathers usually seek to be
served and puts her needs first over
their partners pampering fathers have a
hard time saying no and allow their
daughters to be spoiled they worry about
being mean and controlling and thus
mistake their giving nature to be
supportive when they fail to teach their
daughters to treat him with respect
number 4 the toxic father the toxic
father creates a codependent
relationship with his daughter he often
exercises helicopter parenting and has a
hard time letting go of his daughter as
she grows up even when she's capable of
taking care of herself
he clips her wings off so she can rely
on him for support the toxic father
fails to teach his daughter the proper
life skills she needs to grow
he often domineers and makes decisions
for her thinking he knows what's best
for her as a result daughters of toxic
fathers have a hard time living
successful independent lives
number five the ruined father the ruined
father constantly relies on his daughter
to survive he may suffer from an
addiction severe depression or be
unemployed and meets his daughter by his
side in order to function
he often guilt trips his daughter into
doing favors for him which can lead to
bitterness and anger down the road as
she tries to make it out on her own
without having to look out for him the
daughters of ruined fathers tend to be
selfless and have a hard time setting
healthy boundaries with others because
they had to play the role of a caretaker
all their lives as they reach adulthood
they may enter relationships where they
end up baby or giving their partner
special treatment without receiving the
same love and attention number six the
anguished father the anguish father
constantly lets his daughter down as a
result she reacts to his perceived
faults failures and in differences with
rebellious behavior and unhealthy
lifestyle choices such as eating
disorders or risky sex to demonstrate
what's bothering her daughters of
English fathers take part in unhealthy
choices
hoping that their self damage will
influence their fathers to stop or quit
their own bad habits they are willing to
hurt themselves because they don't know
how to address the concerns they have
for them that will reach them
although daughter's of English father's
might feel like they are free to do as
they please in
reality they are actually trapped by the
feeling they have towards their fathers
that are strongly expressed in their
reactions and behavior which type of
unhealthy father-daughter relationship
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