hi it's Linda Rainer career strategist
and creator of stand out and get hired
guiding you to pursue the career that
you're meant to do so in today's video I
want to talk to you about the topic of
authenticity and not caring about what
other people think especially when it
comes to making your own career choices
so if you're someone who wants to have a
meaningful and fulfilling career one
that you're excited to get at for every
morning then you definitely want to pay
attention to this video and the tips I
have to share so why is it important to
be authentic when it comes to your
career well I mentioned the first reason
and that is to have a meaningful
fulfilling and exciting career that you
actually want to get up for every
morning that's the obvious reason the
second reason is so that eventually you
don't ever have the regret of not going
after the career that you really wanted
to do so Broni where is the author of
the book the top regrets of the dying
and she was a former palliative care
nurse where she looked after patients
who were in their last 12 weeks before
death and she had a lot of interactions
and conversations with these patients
and the number one regret was I wish I
had the courage to live a life true to
myself and not the life others expected
of me we don't ever want to one day be
on our deathbed and literally tell
ourselves I wish I didn't listen to what
other people expected of me and just
listen to myself this is the time this
is the opportunity for you to start
listening to yourself and the way to do
that is see more of your authentic self
and I'll guide you through that all
right so here are six reminders that
I've come up with for myself that work
for me that will also hopefully help you
to stay grounded and authentic on a
daily basis reminder number one tell
yourself I have preferences and I'm not
afraid to embrace them so for me for
example if there is something that I
don't agree with or I don't like then
I'm not going to pretend that I do agree
with it or that I do like it and if
there's something that I really like or
that I prefer that I'm excited about
then also enthusiasm towards it and if
I'm indifferent towards something then
I'll be indifferent I'm not afraid to
express my feelings what I'm promoting
is to not suppress your feelings just be
completely on
and transparent with who you are you
don't really have to hide that people
are going to be attracted to you in your
career in your business because of the
fact that you're naturally authentic
because of the fact that you're honest
and you're genuine and that's what you
have to hold on to I'll talk about it's
important to know what your preferences
are meaning what you like what you don't
like because if you don't have any idea
then you're never going to find a career
that matches what you truly genuinely
want so get clear on what your
preferences are and embrace them and
express them freely reminder number two
tell yourself I listen to my gut
trusting in that inner voice that
intuition of yours is actually vital in
order to have an authentic career I know
that that's true for myself because
whenever you're faced with a decision to
make a choice that you have to make if
it's to switch into another industry or
if it's to start your own business and
you're not sure of how to do it or you
know what steps to take next listening
to that inner voice will give you the
answer and I know that it worked for me
so for example whenever on faced with a
decision to make in my business I need
to really process it what I'll do is
I'll set aside some quiet reflection
time so I'll grab a journal grab a piece
of paper and literally I'll just start
writing down the ideas thoughts the
feelings that I have regarding this
specific decision that I have to make so
you know it's about really allowing
yourself the opportunity to process how
you're feeling and really to understand
what it is that you really want and from
there the right choices will be made and
the decisions will come so as long as
you can learn to tap into that gut
feeling that inner voice of yours then
you know that your authentic career is
really within reach because you're
taking the right steps to getting
towards it reminder number three tell
yourself I set boundaries having
boundaries means that you're aware of
your own energy and your own energetic
space and it also means that you value
your energy and you're not willing to
drain yourself by constantly giving to
others in order to even have the energy
to be authentic with yourself and with
other people you need to be aware of
your own energy you need to know how
you're using it so if you're constantly
yes and you're constantly giving giving
giving without even thinking of yourself
in return and you're absolutely going to
be drained and that means that you're
going to have nothing left no piece of
energy left in order to be true to who
you are and give yourself what you need
so it's extremely important to set and
get clear boundaries and you communicate
that with those around you and you're
not doing this in an aggressive pushy
bossy way it's not what I'm advocating
it's all about honing in on your own
inner power and being true to yourself
and knowing what you can handle and what
you can't and I know that this will be
really key in helping you to develop and
find and create the authentic career
that you're looking for reminder number
four tell yourself I know what I want
when someone asks you what do you want
in your ideal life or career a lot of
you may say well the easy answer is yeah
I don't know what I really want and
sometimes people use that as a cop-out
you may use that because you really
don't know and therefore you want to end
the conversation so you'll say I don't
know but if you keep using that as your
reply to what you really want in your
life guess what you're never going to
know you're never going to figure it out
so think of it this way imagine that you
were stranded in the middle of the ocean
and there were two lifeboats so you had
to get on there was the I don't know
boat and there's the I'm going to figure
it out both the I don't know boat
literally just spins in circles goes
round and round in the middle of the
ocean and then be all figured out both
actually head somewhere doesn't know
where it's going to go it doesn't have a
full map it doesn't have a full journey
of steps laid out however it is willing
to move it's willing to move forward and
it's going to figure it out it's willing
to go somewhere so which boat you really
want to be on you know honestly where
are you sitting at right now and if you
tell yourself you know what I want to
get on that I want to figure it out both
then that's great so once you're in that
boat then now ask yourself what is one
thing and that's it just one thing that
you know you want from your ideal career
or life what do you want if it's to say
I know I want to work for myself or if
it's to say I know I want to be part of
a great team or if it's to be part of a
bigger social cause a bigger purpose
great that's your first hint being the
investigator take that first clue and
start working with it and then start
taking the steps as you're on that boat
to keep moving forward and keep heading
into the direction of where you
eventually will want to be when you need
to start telling yourself you know what
I do know what I want it's just I don't
have the full picture but I know this
and increments of it and I'll start to
piece the puzzle together I'm willing to
take it one step at a time
reminder number five tell yourself I
have fears and I express them we all
have fears when it comes to this instead
of allowing those fears to really live
and possess you and overtake your entire
life choices it's time to really put
them down on paper when you can actually
write them down as plain and simple as
they are you'll realize that fears are
nothing other than just scary thoughts
thoughts that you've allowed yourself to
believe because when you can acknowledge
and understand your own fears you can
understand other people's fears because
truthfully as humans we all have very
similar fears you know they may look
slightly different in shape or form but
the underlying reason for why they exist
is the same and so when you can connect
with other people from that point of
view that's only going to help people to
connect with you better and you are able
to understand others as well and that
will hopefully help you with building
that business and career that you will
absolutely love which leads us into our
final reminder number six I am willing
to discover and let go of useless
thoughts or beliefs and embrace ones
that serve me and lift me up you need to
realize and acknowledge that you are
constantly evolving and you're
constantly changing and that you're open
to constantly evolving and changing at
the same time and if you can start to
acknowledge the useless thoughts that
sometimes running your heads that are
stopping you from going after what you
really want and replacing them with more
uplifting thoughts and more encouraging
thoughts and really being motivated and
positive about your journey that's part
of the process of becoming authentic
part of the process of being genuine and
being honest with who you are and
yourself and with others so now I have a
question for you out of all the six
reminder
which one really resonated with you and
how let me know in the comments below
I'd love to see your responses and if
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