- Hey everybody, today we're gonna talk about
introverts versus extroverts, which one are you?
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But let's jump into this topic.
I know a lot of people throw these terms around
all the time, especially online.
People will say, "I'm an introvert.
"I took this test and I found out."
Or, "I'm an extrovert," or "Which one are you?
"Let me know!"
And that's why I think it's important for us to start
talking about where this really came from,
and these terms came from Carl Jung,
who's a Swiss psychiatrist,
and they're also connected to the Myers-Briggs Inventory,
or the MBTI, it's a personality type test.
So, if you wanna learn more direct from the people
who created these terms and studied these terms,
those are the two places that I would look.
Now, when we talk about introverts,
it's important to know that being an introvert
is not the same as being shy or having social anxiety.
I have videos about social anxiety.
I can link those in the description for you
so you can watch those for more information,
but being an introvert means that you prefer
to focus on internal feelings and experiences,
rather than on external stimuli.
Introverts often feel wiped out
after being at a party or a school event,
and they need to recharge for a bit by being alone.
Hello, me.
I find events extremely exhausting
and I have to kinda plug back in by myself in silence
to feel like myself again.
I think because people don't truly understand
what these terms mean, there are many
misconceptions about introverts,
and people assume that they prefer to be alone
and that they avoid social events at all costs,
but many introverts actually enjoy socializing,
and they can even be thought of as social butterflies,
which I know sounds crazy.
But their reasoning behind going out
may be different from an extrovert.
An introvert would see going out
as spending quality time with close friends,
or working to build closer relationships
with those they know,
and an extrovert would see it as a way to
meet new people, have a good time.
Introverts may also have smaller social groups as a result.
Since they prefer close, meaningful connections with people,
as opposed to knowing a lot of people less well,
they usually only have a small group of their true friends.
Introverts also tend to enjoy time alone,
and see it as a great way to spend the day.
I find myself, when I was researching this, nodding along,
being like, I enjoy walking by myself and spending time,
quiet time by myself.
It's so refreshing.
And so, that's kinda part of the introvert part of me.
But doing the thing that they want
without having to worry about anyone else,
they find it to be super recharging.
They don't wanna be alone all the time,
but introverts may enjoy a few hours of solitude every day.
And last, you may prefer careers or jobs
that are more independent, and don't involve
a ton of social interaction.
So maybe doing research, or being a writer.
Honestly, even being a YouTuber
can be something that doesn't, you know,
require you to interact with a lot of people all the time.
So, finding ways to get the quiet time when you need it most
can help you better manage all that life throws at you.
And don't let anyone tell you
that something's wrong with you.
There's nothing wrong with enjoying time by yourself.
Or let people tell you that you just need to socialize more,
you don't know what you're missing.
You are fine just as you are.
Many people in our lives may assume that
we're upset or angry with them when really
all we're wanting is alone time.
So take some time to explain this to those in your life
so that they can understand that
you just need time to yourself,
that that's part of who you are,
and you find it really recharging and refreshing.
Also, an interesting thing about being an introvert
is that you may prefer to watch someone
complete a task first before trying it on your own.
Extroverts get excited to try new things
and wanna go at it right away.
They don't care if people are watching
or what people think.
But introverts prefer to understand the full process
before diving in.
Now let's get into extroverts.
On the other end of the spectrum is where they lie.
These people tend to be really talkative,
outgoing, they feel energized
after attending a social event.
They can even struggle to do things on their own,
or to be alone for any period of time.
They prefer to be around others,
being the center of attention,
and working together on projects.
All of that is super fulfilling and exciting to them.
The good news about extroverts is that
they tend to have a lot more friends,
because they spend so much of their time
in social situations, and this is because
they feel energized by it and like to talk out
anything they're thinking or worried about.
Many extroverts say that, by talking it out with someone,
they feel more organized and able to
process through their thoughts.
Hello, me.
That's the interesting thing about
extroverts verus introverts is that most of us are not
at the very end of each spectrum,
we're somewhere in the middle.
And this is part of the extrovert profile
that I totally agree with and something that
I do all the time is to talk things through.
It helps me organize my thoughts
and process through something I'm
maybe mulling over.
It really just helps me feel better over all.
Extroverts also report that they love
to talk through new ways of thinking or doing things,
even if they disagree with the person.
They'll even strike up conversations
with complete strangers.
Extroverts also tend to be very approachable and friendly,
and as a result, make new friends easily.
You can see this trend, right?
They have a ton of friends,
they get excited about meeting people,
and people like to know them.
Many introverts can find extroverts
reassuring at a party, because maybe if you go there
and you don't know anyone, or your friend
that was gonna go there with you hasn't arrived yet,
an extrovert would be the first person to come up
and introduce themselves,
and try to make you feel more at home.
Also, extroverts don't really worry about
sharing too much personal information.
They tend to be really open about themselves.
Where introverts can seem shy and
hard to get to know, people find extroverts
easy to connect with.
Since we love to talk things out with anyone,
we can share a lot about ourselves
with people that maybe we've only just met.
And because extroverts spend a lot of their time
connecting with others, they can also tend to be happier,
and are less likely than introverts
to struggle with a mental illness.
But on the flip side, we can be more impulsive
and engage in more risky behavior,
so if you find yourself on this end of the spectrum,
just be aware of that.
The truth about introvert versus extrovert
is that it's a spectrum.
Like I said earlier, most of us,
roughly 70%, they estimate,
fall in between the two extremes.
Even Carl Jung himself said that
if someone was completely an introvert
or completely an extrovert, they would lose their minds.
It's just too much of an extreme.
Most of us are somewhere in the middle.
So if you feel that you can relate to
portions of both descriptions,
know that that's completely normal.
And over all, knowing what parts of each affect you most,
and how you can better manage it, for example,
if you need alone time, or if you need to
take a beat before you make an impulsive decision,
we can use our individual strengths
to deepen our connections and to improve our self-care.
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So, after learning what an introvert is
and an extrovert is, where do you lie on the spectrum?
What traits that I discussed
do you associate with most?
Let us know in those comments, I'm really interested.
I'm interested to see what the Kinon community,
where we fall on that spectrum in between,
because like I said, most of us are in the middle.
I hope you found this interesting.
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