- Hey playa, as we come to the end of 2019.
Over all, I'd say it's been a pretty good year
for this channel.
First off, we hit 150,000 subscribers
which I think is an awesome milestone to make.
That means there's more than 150,000 of you out there
wanting to learn and grow.
Next, my book Embracing the Awkward
which came out last year has sold
well over a thousand copies.
That means there are a thousand or more of you out there
reading about my childhood.
Things I went through, the struggles I had.
And learning for yourself how to navigate those challenges.
Plus, over all we've built an amazing community
over on Discord that just keeps growing day by day.
We're nearly 300 members.
Those are people that want to communicate with each other.
That are working towards being their best selves.
And looking for other people to socialize with,
to interact with, to bounce ideas off of.
And it's a great place just to make friends.
Not to mention the fact that I've been taking
Patreon way more serious this year.
Sitting down and talking to you guys every single month.
One on one through video chat has been
an amazing experience for my growth and for yours.
So, if that's something you're interested in doing.
Talking to me one on one,
Patreon is the best way to do that.
But on top of all of that, I do want to say this.
Over this last year I think I've produced some videos
that have been really helpful for you guys.
And I wanted to walk you through the top 10 advice videos
that I put out this year.
So that you could reflect on them.
If you missed them, you could watch them over.
And you can get yourself prepared for 2020, let's do this.
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Starting off at number 10 here.
I think this is where a lot of people tend to struggle.
That initial interaction with their crush.
People don't really know how to talk to their crush
for the first time.
So I put together this video breaking down
how to do it right.
You want to be social with someone
that you're less intimidated with.
Just to get things going, just to feel warmed up.
In doing that, it'll make is easier for you
to just get into the flow of having a conversation.
You'll feel a little bit more relaxed.
A little bit more at ease knowing
that you've been social with someone.
So, once you've kind of broken that ice
and asked someone questions and talked to them.
Talking to your crush will seem a little bit easier.
Coming in at number nine.
Have you ever struggled to maintain a friendship
with your crush when you really had feelings for them?
Sometimes it's the hardest thing that you can do
because you feel like you're pretending to be their friend
when deep down you have these feelings
that you just want to put out there into the world.
How do you manage that?
Well, this video explains exactly what to do.
You're probably better off not being friends with them.
Focusing on other people.
Letting your friendship with them start to dwindle
and start to fade in the background.
Not prioritizing them in your lives
because the more that you do,
the more you're gonna long for them.
So, you need to start pulling away slowly
so that you can start to develop on your own.
Coming in at eight on the list
might be something you don't want to face head on.
But it's important to actually ask this question.
Why does your crush like someone else and not you?
What are you doing wrong?
Or better yet, what can you do right to win over your crush?
This video tells you how.
It's totally possible that your crush
might be in a situation where multiple people like them.
But they're just kind of waiting for the right person
to step up, to be confident and to ask them out.
Don't allow other people to take your opportunity.
If you really like your crush.
If you really want to be with them,
then you have to seize the moment.
You need to start acting.
You need to start taking those small steps
by talking to them.
Getting to know them better and asking them to hang out.
Video number seven on this list is actually the flip side
because in this video someone wants to pursue you.
Someone likes you and you want to let them down easily
while you guys can still be friends.
You don't want to do it in a mean way.
It's a complicated situation
but this is how to reject someone nicely.
I think the first step is to kind of focus on being honest.
The last thing you want to do is lead them on.
Is to give them mixed signals.
Is to make them think there's a chance
when you no outright that there isn't.
But what does honesty look like without being mean?
Without saying something like I don't like you,
leave me alone.
Well, instead you might want to phrase it like this.
Ah, sorry about that.
Video number six tackles exactly that challenge.
Thinking about your crush all the time.
What does it mean?
Should you pursue them?
Should you not pursue them?
Why are you thinking about them?
These are my honest thoughts.
If it was a romantic dream maybe you want
to ask them to hang out and get to know them better.
And see if you can develop something with them now.
If it was just a fun dream that they just
kind of were a character there.
You might want to ask them to hang out as a friend.
To just spend more time getting to know them.
You lose nothing from reaching out to them
and building a better connection.
Especially since they're on your mind.
Coming in at number five on this list.
Tell me if this sounds familiar.
Coo, yep, LOL, ha ha, awesome, nice.
Those one word answers can really get under your skin.
First off because they don't really give you much
to work with when talking when talking
to someone that you like.
And second, how do you respond to them?
Well, this video tells you exactly what to do.
If you're starting the conversation with
something very basic like hey, what's up?
How's it going?
And you're hoping that your crush
is gonna fill in the gaps there.
All you're basically doing is passing the ball over to them.
You're not actually starting the conversation
because the real response that has to be given
has to come from them.
Meaning by you saying something like what's up?
Now they have to formulate what's going on.
They have to come up with something to talk about.
So you haven't really started anything,
you just passed it along.
Quick question, what did you get on your last exam?
Were you happy with your grade?
Because video number four breaks down
how to get better grades fast.
If you're someone that's struggling to get better grades
so you don't get kicked out of school
or your parents don't get angry at you for failing.
That video os the one you need to watch.
Another resource might be your teacher.
Simply walking up to your teacher at the end of class
and letting them know that you're struggling
with materials that you're studying is gonna do two things.
One, it's gonna allow them to be
a little bit more sympathetic towards you.
They're gonna realize that you're trying your best here
and they may not be as harsh in grading you.
And then two, they may have access to resources
that you didn't even know about.
They may tutor you themselves,
they may know about tutor groups.
Or they can recommend a tutor that can really help you.
Video number three is one I didn't expect
to get so much engagement from you guys.
Who knew that so many of you had celebrity crushes
that you wanted to get closer to.
So you've already sent them DM's.
You've already joined their live streams
and commented on their pictures.
Why won't they notice you Sempi?
Well, in this video I break down the sly way
to get into their inbox.
To get them to pay attention to you
and finally get a response back from them.
So right before we get to the DM thing.
What you're gonna want to do is to set up a scenario
that can potentially lead to you getting
a response to them through a DM.
And a good way to go about doing that
is to create something and to tag them on it.
Whether it's fan art, whether it's a post about them.
Something that you kind of show that you're inspired by them
and you're tagging them so that
they can see that inspiration.
Video number two is at that spot because
most of you guys are sending boring text messages.
You're not creating engaging conversations
that your crushes want to be a part of.
Instead, you're just asking very basic questions.
What do those basic questions
and the mistakes you're making?
This video tells you what it is.
Asking someone something like hey, random question.
What's your favorite animal?
Or you won't believe what happened to me
when I got home from school today.
Is a good way to kind of inject a little bit of curiosity
on their part into that conversation.
And it totally beats out the boring
and simple hey, how are you doing today?
And number one on this list.
Of all the videos I put out in 2019,
this has been the most watched.
And that is how to start an interesting
text conversation with your crush.
If you're starting conversations that just aren't fun,
aren't engaging, aren't peaking their interests.
If you're only sending them big blocks of text
that don't really lead to anything.
You need to change up how you're texting them
and as most people have left comments
and liked the video and interact with it have said.
The things I say in this video work.
So, this one is definitely one that you need to watch.
For example, let's say the two of you
share a class together.
So, you both have to do the same homework.
Take the same tests, deal with the same teacher.
You might want to start that conversation
by making a joke about the teacher.
Or saying that homework sucks and ask them
if they did it yet.
Having that kind of baseline where the two of you
can connect over something is gonna probably
get a response from them.
But you don't want to just leave it there.
That's the problem that most people make.
And although 2019 has been a
pretty good year for the channel.
That doesn't mean it's been the easiest year for you.
I know you've dealt with your fair share of hardships
and struggles this year.
Times you've felt in over your head.
Which is why I think you should definitely
check out the playlist right over here.
Those are the top 10 videos of 1019.
Those are gonna help get you up to speed
and prepared for the new 2020 year.
Also, if you want to become a patron of mine.
To talk to me every single month through video chat.
Just to talk about what's going on in your life.
To come up with a strategy plan
or just have someone to talk to.
Patreon is the best way to do it, check out the link there.
And on that note guys, I will catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.