Hello my wonderful friends! Today's video is on how to find your soul mate. And guys,
every Christian needs to know this. If you are really struggling to meet a good woman,
if you are tired of never having a serious relationship, or if all of your relationships
are dead end and bad and you're just sick of it pay close attention. You are going to learn how
to find your soulmate. You're also going to learn what stops so many people from finding
theirs. So do make sure you watch to the end because each of these tips is very important.
Before we dive right in if this is your first time watching one of my videos, welcome! My
name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men. I teach you how to stop wasting your time and
energy on bad relationships by learning the skills you need to instead get your dream girl and your
dream relationship. I'm a certified coach so what I teach you comes from science and not mind games.
Make sure to subscribe, ring the notification bell, and give me a big thumbs up. With that
let's dive into the first thing you need to know about how to find a soulmate. And the first thing
is that you find your soul mate by being her soulmate. I want to be very clear about something.
I totally believe in soulmates. I really do. It looks very different though from what most people
think a soulmate really is. For most people a soulmate is kind of like a cheesy hallmark
movie. Don't get me wrong, I love me a good cheesy hallmark movie. But most people think
you just walk into the store one day and you accidentally bump into each other and
poof, it's your soulmate and you found them and it was fate and it was meant to be.
And the truth is that's not actually how it works. The belief in a soulmate is very common among
Christians. And I say this as a Christian, you guys. What most Christians don't know though is
the whole concept of a soulmate is not biblical, it is actually anti-biblical. When most people
talk about a soulmate they are talking about someone who completes you. I'm sure you've heard
the line "oh, you complete me," right? We've all heard it. That is actually anti-biblical. Because
as Christians, we know and we believe that the only one who can truly make us whole is Jesus
Christ, right? So that concept of a soulmate is flawed because another human being can never make
us complete. So what is a soulmate? A soulmate is that special, amazing someone who absolutely
loves you. They see into your soul, they see your flaws, they see your strengths, they see it all,
and they love you. They are that shoulder to lean on, that shoulder to cry on, your biggest
supporter. That definition of a soulmate is very real. The important part is in order for you
to attract that type of person you need to also be that type of person. It's not just fate, you
walk into the grocery store and 'ah!' angels sing and you fall in love and it's happily ever after.
Being soulmates is more of a decision than it is an event. I've honestly said this a million
times. If you've taken my program you have most definitely heard me say this, right guys?
The best way to get your dream girl is to be her dream man. It is as simple as that. And it's about
doing that in a way that stays true to you. It's never about pretending to be someone you're not.
But the whole key to getting your dream girl is to be her dream man. That's what my whole program
is about, is becoming that dream man and showing her that that's who you are. Because the truth
is you already have a lot of the quality she's looking for, but if you don't know how to show
her that it's not going to matter, is it? So instead of thinking it as finding your soulmate,
you create that type of relationship by who you are. The two of you create that relationship by
being the soulmate for each other. Have you ever heard that you find the right one by being the
right one? It's this exactly. So are you tired of struggling to meet your soulmate? Are you tired of
those dead end relationships that go nowhere and are incredibly heartbreaking? And are you tired of
just never having a serious relationship? If any or several of those are you then this is what you
need to focus on: You learn the skills that you need, you learn the game plan so you know how to
execute those skills, and that is how you get your dream girl. And that's how you get your dream girl
without wasting a ton of time. Because it can be very overwhelming to try to piece it together,
right? Would you like my help with this? So many of you have been asking me lately how you can
get coaching from me. My program is where you get coaching from me, and the first step is to watch
my free masterclass. You'll learn more about that there. Be sure to check it out through the link
in the description below. There's also a link in the pinned comment. And the best part is guys, my
black Friday and holiday sales are live right now. So when you watch that free masterclass you will
get access to that special price. So check it out through the link in the description below. It's
time to make finding your soulmate easy, don't you think? Be sure to check it out and I'll see you
over there. Okay, the next thing you need to know about how to find a soulmate is that love is kind
of like being an architect. Let me explain. Let's pretend it is your dream job to be an architect.
You want it so bad, you want it with every fiber of your being, you want to be an incredible
architect. So you go from company to company trying to get them to hire you as an architect.
But when they look at your resume it's not very impressive, because you didn't go to school for
it, you've never done any work in this area, you really have no idea what you're doing.
Are they going to hire you? No, they're not going to hire you. Or let's pretend instead that it is
your dream to become an architect. So you get the schooling you need, you get the work experience
you need, you become really good at it. Are they going to hire you now? Of course they're going
to hire you now. When you can show them that you are the ideal person to fit that role for them,
yes, they are going to hire you. The same is true with soulmates. So do you get rejected a lot? Do
you struggle with being ghosted and struggling attracting the right types of women? If yes,
this is key. Make sure you also watch this video on rejection. It will help you as well.
And realize, guys, I gotta be honest with you, God is always going to do the heavy lifting in
every area of our life, he just is. That makes sense, right? But he's not going to put in
all of the effort for you. You need to show him that you are also willing to put in your effort
or it's kind of a little bit disrespectful really. For instance, when Jesus turned the
water into wine he had them fill it up with water first. Was that because he couldn't fill it with
wine on his own? Of course he could. But instead they had to take action and show their faith.
Moses had to raise his rod before the red sea parted. As a matter of fact
he had to be standing at the red sea and have come all this way before the miracle happened.
The Bible is full of examples of people who had to act in faith and then God created the miracle.
Speaking of which, I want to hear from you in the comments. Can you think of any other examples of
that? Please tell me in the comments. I would love to hear about it. Also if you want more videos on
how to find your soulmate be sure to comment "soulmate!" down below so I know to make more
on that. Bottom line, guys, God will always do the heavy lifting, He does expect us to do our
part. Just like the architect, if you want to be a good architect you have to go to school,
you have to learn what you're doing, and then you get the job you want. Okay, the next thing I want
to teach you about how to find your soulmate is probably going to surprise you. It is far
more romantic if your soulmate is based on choice rather than fate. Do you know what's really cute?
Knowing that she could have picked any man on this planet but she picked you because she wanted
you. That's incredible, right? That's an amazing feeling. What doesn't feel so good is "well, I had
to marry you because that's the person God chose for me." That's not romantic at all. If there's no
choice, then does it really matter? This actually causes so many relationships to fail miserably and
causes so many people to miss out on what could have been their soulmate. This belief of "well,
God picked one person for me and it's that one person." This causes a lot of people to end up
with someone that God never chose for them and then they blame God for it. Or they get really
lazy in the relationship "well, God said that we should be together so it's just going to work."
And it causes the relationship to turn toxic and that's not what you want, is it? So what is really
romantic, what is really sweet and adorable, is knowing that she could have chosen anyone but she
chose you. Which is why as long as you're learning those skills and you have that game plan, getting
your dream girl is really simple. Because when you are the obvious choice you have no competition.
The next thing you need to know about how to find your soulmate is that people who believe in the
one and only, believing that there's only one soulmate, only one person out there for them,
they actually tend to be less happy. Research shows us that they don't enjoy life as much. And
the truth is if you think about it, if you are waiting to find that person who completes you,
you can't ever really be whole because you are always chasing finding that person that doesn't
actually exist. So many people who are needy, this is their problem. So if you struggle being needy
pay close attention to this. Like I mentioned earlier, a human being can never fill that in us.
This causes people to sabotage themselves. Instead of becoming the soulmate for their soulmate they
instead just chase a soulmate and it never works. This also causes a lot of people to abandon ship
so to speak. They meet someone who could totally be their soulmate but because they think "well,
if it's destiny it'll just be perfect and it'll work out wonderfully." Because they believe that
if anything rocky happens in the relationship, if anything they need to work through happens,
which is normal, they abandon ship. "oh, you must not be my soulmate," and they go and they find
someone else. But it doesn't work with them so then they go find somebody else. And this
can lead you to have a whole bunch of dead end relationships. So yes, soulmates are very real.
That type of relationship where you're crazy in love with each other, it happens every day. There
are so many couples who are crazy in love and the reason they're crazy in love is because they
became the soulmate for their soulmate. How do you do this? How do you avoid looking forever and
never finding your soulmate? You learn the solid dating and relationship skills you need and then
you have a game plan of how to use those skills. And again, would you like my help with that? If
you would, the first step is to watch that free masterclass. There is a link in the description
below and a link in the pinned comment. Let's sum up, shall we? When it comes to knowing how
to find your soulmate the first thing you need to know is that you find your soulmate by being
her soulmate. Like I say in my program all the time the key to getting your dream girl is to be
her dream man. You do that and it's easy because you're the obvious choice, right? Next, remember
that love is like being an architect. If it's your dream to be an architect but you have no idea what
you're doing, you're not going to get the job no matter how many prayers you pray. But if instead
you show God you're willing and you're willing to do your part and you trust Him and you go through
the process of actually learning what you're doing, now God is obviously going to help you
get that job. So just like Moses had to raise his rod we have to do our part and then God steps in
because He's a loving God who wants to help you. You just got to show Him that you have enough
respect for Him to do your part too. The next thing to remember about how to find your soulmate
is that it's far more romantic when it's choice rather than fate. Wouldn't it be adorable if
she could have had anyone on this planet but she chose you? That's pretty amazing, isn't it? Also,
remember that those who believe in the one and only and that there's only one person for them,
their one and only soulmate, they tend to be less happy and frankly have less happy
relationships. That's not what you want. This is why again it's important to remember
that you find your soulmate by being her soulmate. If you want my help with that, I would absolutely
love to help you with this. The first step is to watch the free masterclass through the link in the
description below. Thank you so much for watching my amazing friend! If you learned something new
be sure to give me a big thumbs up. And if you have not yet be sure to subscribe and ring the
notification bell. I want to hear from you in the comments. Would you like more videos on how
to find your soulmate? If you would, be sure to comment "soulmate!" so I know to do that for you.
Do you have a friend who's been struggling to find his soulmate too? If you do, please
share this with him. And I would love it if you would shout it out on social media. If we're not
yet friends on social media, there are links for that in the description below. Thank you so much
again my amazing friend and have an amazing day! [blooper beep] Okay, I got too many things going
on in my head, can you tell? I'm like talking to myself. It's creepy. Hello my wonderful friends-
I totally spaced out there. Okay. Hello- [laughter]
It's not this hard. I've only done it half a million times. Don't get off on a tangent.
Focus Melannie, focus. I'm trying really hard.
That's how you focus. [laughter] I can't even do it.
Okay, I just got really hyper. Let's calm down.
[laughter] I don't know why, I just got really hyper. Okay.
It's not even Christmas candy because I haven't had any so... [laughter]
Okay, yes. And that's how you get my- your soulmate.
My soulmate? That's how you- What? [laughter]
Wow, I am on one today. I don't even know why. Oh, yes I do. Funny story guys,
I let my oven on fire today. Not on purpose, but it was fun, so now my nerves are like "ah!"
Don't worry, everything's fine, it's out now. [laughter] I'm tired. [laughter]
And I get weird when I'm tired. Okay, moving on.
But my hair looks really good, so, you know. You lose some, you win some. It's
fine. [laughter] Just kidding. Okay, calm down. I'd rather laugh than cry. It's fine. Okay.