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- Hi guys, I'm Bajo, and I'm here to talk about the stuff
that goes on in your head when you
deal with difficult situations in your life.
Now we all like to feel good, obviously,
like topping the leader board in a game,
or the feeling of being liked by other people,
or the feeling of doing well in sport.
I assume, don't really know what that one feels like,
but you get what I mean.
But what do you do when you're not feeling so great?
You know, like if you're angry, or pissed off,
or worried about something, or sad,
or just generally confused, like when I play sport?
Some feelings can really bring you down,
and that's why you need to have strategies
in place to help you get on top of them.
Take anger for example.
Don't get me wrong, being angry sometimes is totally normal.
It can even be helpful.
It can protect you, give you motivation,
or help you stand up for yourself.
But when your feelings of anger get out of control
that can really affect relationships,
and schoolwork, and sport, or other activities.
There's lots of reasons why people get angry.
Have you ever been in any of these kinds of situations?
- I get angry when people don't listen.
- I get angry when someone does something
that I've told them not to.
- When people lie to me.
- Or say things behind my back.
- I get angry when an umpire makes a bad call.
- When your parents get on your back.
- Getting bullied. - When people put me down.
- When people tell me what to do.
- When people talk about my parents.
- When someone gets in my personal space,
I know that I'm naturally inclined to get
a little bit insecure and aggressive.
- I get angry at stupid things sometimes.
- When we're getting angry, our bodies warn us
with all kinds of physical signs.
It's important to pay attention to
what your body is trying to tell you.
Maybe you've experienced some of these warning signs before.
- When I'm angry, my heart beats faster.
I can't really think straight.
- I clench my teeth.
- My breathing gets faster.
- When your fists clench up.
- I feel my head becomes incredibly cloudy.
- All I see is black.
- I get the butterflies and my
adrenaline would start to pick up.
- Takes over your thinking.
- I feel like I'm going to boil over.
- I feel like I'm going to explode.
- You're about to burst sometimes.
- It feels like you have no control over yourself anymore.
- Feels like I'm going to lose it.
- I'm going to want to smash or hit someone.
- I want to break something, I just want to let it all out.
- Even though being angry isn't necessarily a bad thing,
how we express that anger is what
could cause us big problems.
Inappropriate expressions of anger,
like violence or aggression,
can really stuff things up for you.
So, we need to learn to how to identify our feelings
and be aware of what our bodies are trying to tell us.
Then it's about responding to those feelings
in a way that's helpful and productive.
Here are some things you can try.
Get to know your angry side,
like when your body gets tense
and your stomach feels tight, and your heart
starts beating faster and faster.
Concentrate on relaxing your muscles
and getting your breathing back to normal.
Slow things down so you have time to think about
how you can prevent the situation from getting any worse.
Walk away from the situation if you can.
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Especially if you think you might act in a way
that hurts you or someone else.
Count to ten in your mind.
That gives you enough time to stop and think,
and it might stop you from saying
or doing something you'll just regret later.
Sometimes it's hard to deal with
feelings like this on your own,
especially if they are really intense
and go on for ages and ages.
It's okay to talk to someone.
Actually, that's the smart thing to do.
So who are the best people to talk to
if something is bothering you?
- Friends.
- My best mates.
- My friends are really good. For example,
they know I've got that fiery temper
and so they know to step in because of us
and before and I've told them before,
hey, if something happens,
you've got to help me out here.
- School counsellor.
- Social worker.
- Your GP.
- Headspace.
- Eheadspace.
- They'll be able to help you in ways you didn't even realise.
So it's just a matter of walking in the door,
or getting online and going on to eheadspace,
and start by asking that question about,
you know what, I might need a little bit of help here
because I'm not 100% happy at the moment.
- There will always be things that
have the potential to make you mad.
I rage quit games almost on a daily basis.
But don't let anger control your life.
Try to deal with difficult feelings and situations
by taking notice of what your body is telling you
and thinking through your response.
That's the best way to play it. Bajo out.