Resistance is one of those words you're gonna hear a lot
in the healing circles and the self-help circles
and the spiritual circles.
Resistance is really, a word for opposition, right?
So, resistance means any oppositional force.
we can encounter resistance from the inside,
and we can encounter resistance from the outside.
And whether we're encountering it
from the inside or the outside
it always means that we are out of alignment
with somebody else, or something else
or inside, two parts of ourselves
or more, are out of alignment.
Disclaimer (pause to read):
Resistance is Not Always a Bad Thing
There are always negative consequences for not being in alignment.
Especially, when we make a decision or take an action
from that place of not being in a state of alignment.
For this reason, it is so important
when we meet with resistance,
to actually figure out what that resistance is about
and to come to resolution
so that we can come back into a state of alignment
before we make a decision or take an action.
To learn more about this in depth, you can watch my video titled:
Urgent! Deal With Your Resistance Before You Do Anything Else
All this being said,
there's a major misconception that people have about resistance;
This misconception is that resistance is always a bad thing,
that whatever is in resistance is the problem,
and that whatever is being resistant is always in the wrong.
Therefore, the resistance
is the thing that always must be released,
gotten rid of, or bulldozed.
You're gonna hear people say things like:
"Well it's just their resistance",
or you're gonna hear people say:
"Well, it's just my resistance".
You can hear in those words
the connotation that the resistance is always in the wrong, right?
This is not always the case.
It's easy to assume however,
and this is why people assume this:
Let's say that what you want is a lifelong relationship.
One that really lasts, one that's really successful...
And you're thinking a thought like:
"I don't know what the point is, every relationship ends anyway".
Or you're speaking the words:
"Nobody's gonna be interested in me,
I mean, let's face it,
all anybody wants today is a booty call"
Or the action you take
is instead of going out and meeting people,
you just stay at home all day long
in your apartment.
That is an example of a resistant thought,
a resistant word
and a resistant action.
So, that creates internally this oppositional force.
Now, it's easy to see that in this scenario
the resistance is the problem
because the resistance is what is not making it possible
for you to get what you want,
which is a long-term relationship.
However, resistance is not this straightforward.
The truth is that resistance is not bad or wrong,
it must be resolved,
but it always exists for a very important reason,
And sometimes it exists for a very good one.
For example:
Let's say that what you really want is a long-term relationship,
but, you're experiencing resistance to committing to that person.
That resistance to committing to them
may exist because you have been left by people in the past,
and you're so afraid of being left again,
that you're not really fully committing to the other person.
Even if this is somebody who will never leave you.
However,
let's say that you're in resistance
because a part of you actually recognizes
a lot of the red flags
that are present in this person.
Red flags that may indicate
that this is somebody who's not actually capable
of having a long-term relationship.
That internal resistance may just be alerting you to the fact
that you are about to go commit to somebody
that you really shouldn't be committing to.
So that you can grasp this concept deeper,
I'm gonna give you a few more examples
of when whatever is resisting,
is in fact, the one that is "in the right".
Let's say that you're about to go swim in crocodile infested rivers.
You will feel resistance,
this is resistance that should be headed,
instead of treated as the problem.
Or, for example let's say that you have to get somewhere fast,
you come to a crossroads and you want to go right,
but another person is there
who knows that the right side road is flooded and impassable,
when this person tries to block your progress down the right side road
you're going to perceive this person as being in resistance to you,
but, this external resistance you are meeting with
is more in alignment with your desires than you are,
because taking the right side road
means getting stuck.
Or, for example, let's say
that a man has codependent tendencies.
His current partner decides that she wants children.
Being codependent, because he automatically wants
that sensation of confluence with her
he says yes, I definitely think it's time,
I'd love to do this with you
and starts having unprotected sex,
but his actual authentic truth
that he won't look at,
is that he doesn't want children,
he just wants confluence with his partner.
That nagging feeling of "no" that he keeps suppressing
and the passive aggressive way he's always too busy,
or not in the mood for sex, when she's ovulating,
is resistance that actually represents his authentic truth.
Okay, so I'm gonna spell something out,
like, literally, spell something out for you about resistance:
Sometimes when we become aware of the aspects of us
that are in resistance to each other
we find that instead of opposing our true desires
they point to even deeper desires
and that going in the direction we were intent on going
was in fact the opposite of what was best for us.
We have this tendency
of identifying with one side of this resistance equation.
Resistance always takes two.
What I mean by that is that
let's say that I know on a conscious level
that I want to go to a party.
I'm gonna identify with the part of me that wants to go to a party
and then I'm gonna say
whatever part of me doesn't wanna go to a party
is the one in resistance to me.
The reality is that they are both in resistance to each other.
So, the part of me that wants to go to a party
perceives the part that doesn't as being in resistance to it.
But guess what?
The part of me that doesn't wanna go to a party
perceives the part that does as being in resistance to it.
And both are right.
Resistance takes two.
Resistance is oppositional force
that is created by two things
not being in alignment with each other.
If we genuinely want to be able to resolve our resistance
and find a state of alignment,
then we have to disidentify with both parts of any conflict
or any misalignment.
What that means is,
we can't identify with one aspect
that is part of this equation of resistance
and we can't identify with the other part.
We have to step totally back from that
and from that more objective place,
we have to very powerfully listen to both.
We have to become aware of the truth of both.
Resistance always carries important information.
We need to directly face, see, hear, feel and understand
both sides of the equation of resistance.
It's only by doing so that we can understand
where this resistance is coming from
and gain the information it contains
and achieve a more objective perspective
so as to be able to resolve the resistance
and reach a state of genuine alignment, instead.
There is always a why to resistance.
Resistance always exists for a very important reason.
And it's only if we understand this,
that we will be able to actually resolve resistance
and actually find a genuine state of alignment.
Oh, and by the way,
you should still be treating your resistance
as if it's valid and important,
even if that resistance exists
for a reason that's not necessarily in alignment with what is true
or what is real.
And I'm gonna warn you,
if you do not treat resistance in this way
and instead you meet resistance with resistance
by already making your mind up that it's bad or that it's wrong
or that it needs to change its stance
or that it shouldn't be there,
then you're not going to be able to understand
what that resistance is trying to convey to you.
You're not gonna be able to take in that powerful information
so as to arrive at a higher truth for you personally.
And you sure as hell are not gonna be able to find
a genuine state of alignment, instead.
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