What are narcissists actually
thinking about you that you don't
even realize that they're assuming about you?
I'm gonna reveal those things in this video,
so you're not gonna wanna miss this.
Yeah. Stay tuned.
Hey, I'm Rebecca Zeung,
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So in this video,
I'm gonna reveal four assumptions
that narcissists have about you
and you're gonna definitely
wanna watch all the way to the end
because I'm gonna give you four of them.
Obviously, you know, you wanna make sure you have all of them.
they actually believe that you are
going along with everything
and reason why is
because right from the beginning,
they were love bombing you and charming you.
I mean, remember when they
first came along?
You believed that they
were the most charming,
most charismatic, most personable
person on the planet
and they were very very good
at getting you to believe that
“I heard this story this weekend about
this guy who had charmed this family.”
I mean, it was a crazy story of this guy
who was able to actually charm not just the daughter,
but the parents
and like within a month or two
had the parents paying for his education,
paying for his apartment,
the father was actually a
really well known author
and speaker who would speak all over the country.
He had charmed the dad
into traveling with him all over the country.
He had charmed the daughter's mom
into paying for vacations for him.
I mean, seriously, was so charming,
personable, and charismatic that he
had all kinds of people believing
that he was really really pretty incredible
and so, yeah,
What's an assumption that narcissists have?
That you're totally naive
and buying into all of their lies.
More on love bombing in my video
on love bombing.
You can definitely check that out.
But one of the things that they believe
is that you are totally naive
and that you're gonna continue
to buy into all of their lies
and why wouldn't they?
because they're really
really good at manipulating and
really really good at charming
and you know, one of the things
that I say all the time is not to be
so hard on yourself
when it comes to that
because they've been working on that
particular skill their entire lives.
I mean, that's the one thing that
you really have to understand
is a skill that they've been honing
since the very beginning of their lives.
This is survival for them.
You know, I always refer to
Malcolm Gladwell's book, THE OUTLIERS where he
talked about how to achieve mastery in something,
mastery at a skill.
It took ten thousand hours
and he talked about how
the Beatles went to Germany
and they spent all,
you know, three or four years whatever it was
in these underground clubs practicing
and then he talked about how Bill Gates
had access to this lab to practice
coding as you know,
a kid when he was fifteen years old
to learn computer skills
for a few years when he was in high school.
That's nothing.
Like nothing compared to what narcissists
have been doing their entire lives.
They've spent their entire lives
honing honing honing
their skills on reading people,
learning how to manipulate,
learning how to chunk.
This is survival for them.
So yeah.
They're really really good at it
and yes, they believe that you're totally naive
and that you're gonna buy into their lies
because they have been conditioned
you from the beginning.
They have been grooming you from the beginning.
They've been love bombing
you from the beginning.
So that is one assumption that they have about you.
they take that as weakness.
They use that against you.
They end up taking advantage
of your openheartedness,
your kindness and they use that to the fullest
extent that they possibly can.
To the point that at some point
you end up feeling used
and abused and taken advantage
of and drained and all of those sorts of things.
But they also, you know,
tthey see that as weakness.
They see that as a person who's weak
and a person who isn't a strong person.
They see that as a person who's weak.
I mean, yeah,
they see that as kindness or whatever
but they really kinda see
it as a person who's weak,
who doesn't know how to survive in the world
and that sort of thing,
you know?
and who doesn't really see how the world works
and that sort of thing.
You know, like whose eyes aren't really open.
They mistake it for that
and you know, your eyes are definitely open,
at least now.
Right?
Not anymore are you so naive.
I'm gonna have you put in the comments right now,
NOT ANYMORE
because your eyes are now open.
You know what you're dealing with.
So I want you to put NOT ANYMORE
in the comments right now.
So that's number two.
They assume that everybody is actually.
I mean, they they really kind
of assume that everybody's
operating on this viable level like they are.
I mean, they kind of that whole idea
of a doggy dog world
and everybody's kind of out for
their own chips and everybody's kind of get their own stuff.
They kind of assume that everybody
is sort of operating
that way and that everything's transactional.
They just kind of assume that everything you
do and everything you say has an agenda
and that nobody really does anything
just to do something for somebody else.
Like what is it that they want from me?
Nobody really does anything just to do something nice
for somebody else.
They really do a assume that
everybody is operating the way that they are
and it's kind of sad in a way.
But you have to understand that
that's where they're coming from.
So when you do see that,
then you know.
You can understand them better
and especially when you're going to negotiate with them.
You know, it's really really important
to understand their psyche
when you are negotiating with them,
managing them, dealing with them,
communicating with them.
These are really really important skills.
So that's number three.
I have a whole video on this.
Why narcissists assume you're never gonna leave?
and this is a business relationship
or a personal relationship,
By the way, I was in a
narcissistic business partnership
with a covert narcissist.
It was heinous and horrible
and one of the worst experiences of my life.
But from that experience,
I started making these videos
and I started doing all of this work.
You know, I've had millions and millions
of views here on YouTube
and I've, you know, started my whole SLAY program
and helped a lot of thousands of people from it
and from it came a good a good thing,
you know.
I've helped a lot of people from it,
but I will tell you this,
they assume you will never leave
which is so crazy to me because,
how do they think that they can treat people
so horribly and yet think that you would
not want to get the hell out of there.
But that's the case.
You know, they really don't see it.
But, you know, I guess they just believe
that they've conditioned you to the
point that you're gonna continue
to put up with their BS,
but it is what it is
and you just have to understand that
and sometimes you can use that
to your advantage by the way.
You know, when they're all in that hoover state,
like don't leave me.
You know, I'll do anything sort of a thing.
You know, there are times that you can
maybe use that to your advantage.
if you know what I mean.
Anyway, that's number four.
They assume that you will never leave.
They assume that you're gonna
continue to just hang in there.
As I said, I do have a video on
why the narcissist think you’llnever leave.
You could definitely check that out.
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