We all love succeeding and wish to live rich happy lives, but it seems that at almost every corner
There's always someone trying to pull us down or make us feel bad
Every time we think we're just about to make it a brick wall drops in the way and we can't seem to break through it.
Life must just be so unfair to us or is it?
What if we were to embrace the concept?
For a moment that we are the ones who are getting in our own way of reaching our goals
The truth is you have so much more power over your life than you maybe giving yourself credit for
If you don't think so, you might want to consider these ten signs. You're subconsciously sabotaging yourself
One you struggle with impostor syndrome in
In 1978
psychologist Pauline Rose clance and Suzanne Ames
Identified the behavioral pattern of believing that one has only stumbled into success and hasn't actually earned any of their achievements as impostor syndrome
do you often feel that even though you got a perfect score in your test got hired for the job you applied for or
Achieved any other goal you had set your mind to it was just due to random luck and not actually because you deserved it
We all occasionally accomplished things without trying very hard
But this is rare. If you constantly think you're just getting lucky you might be suffering from impostor syndrome
- you're overly self-critical. Are you always putting yourself down?
Do you constantly focus on your flaws and issues rather than what you're proud of
We all have what's called the negative bias, which is meant to protect us from causing or experiencing future mishaps
But more times than not this backfires and just makes us feel bad about ourselves
for unnecessary and or illogical reasons
Being humble is virtuous, but constantly being negative and feeling sorry for yourself will only hold you back
Three, you procrastinate.
According to the dictionary
Procrastination is the act or habit of delaying or putting off something that usually requires attention
All of us have goals and finish lines
We want to make whether it be having a career of being a famous movie star or winning a video game tournament
But why is it we distract ourselves from making our dreams become realities in almost every case?
This is because of fear we're afraid of failing and would rather not suffer the embarrassment disappointment or any pain whatsoever
That would come with it. Sure
It might be a little easier to just binge watch a show or go scrolling on social media during your free time
But this probably isn't going to help achieve your dreams
For you compare yourself to others
You got a B+ on your quiz, but your classmate Jorge got an A your friend Stacey got complimented for her outfit
But you didn't what's odd is that you probably felt fine until you made either of those comparisons
Why is it that we spend so much time focusing on what others have rather than what we have
this concept was first officially analyzed by social psychologists Leon Festinger in
1954
Essentially he concluded that we compare in order to both reduce our uncertainty and help define ourselves
But unfortunately comparing isn't the best way to help motivate us
in fact
Most of the time it just makes us feel like we're not good enough
And the more we do it the more we feel we never will be
Five your life is disorganized
Does everything always feel really overwhelming and out of control?
We all go through times of complication
But if one attribute of your life is in disarray and not taken care of
It will seep into more aspects of your life and thus could lead to even more procrastination
This is a sign that you need to start prioritizing your time cleaning up the clutter and putting everything where it belongs
Six you initiate conflicts with those you love
Are you somehow always getting into arguments with your family or your friends frequently fighting with you?
Conflicts occurring in our lives one way or another is inevitable
But if it's somehow happening between you and your loved ones all the time
There's a good chance that you subconsciously for your intimacy as human beings
we are comfortable with what we find familiar and
Believe it or not if what we are familiar with is difficulty in turmoil then being at peace with those
We love may actually make us feel a little uneasy
This drives us to ignite more fights in order to get back into our comfortable area of chaos other times
It's because we fear rejection
So we begin a squabble before a companion has the chance to hurt us?
Regardless, this is very unhealthy behavior and will only continue to sustain the sabotaging of our lives
7 you lose your goals shortly after you achieve them
Have you ever received something you wished for only to lose it shortly afterwards
Did you finally get a relationship you wanted but broke up within a few months?
If this same problem keeps popping up time and time again in many areas of your life
This may be due to your beliefs and self-talk on some core level. You may not believe in yourself and think you are unworthy
8 you focus on problems rather than solutions as John Lennon once said, there are no problems only solutions
When something bad happens, it may surprise you to hear that. It's not actually a problem
That is as long as you don't perceive it that way
The truth is you have full rein to believe whether an incident that occurred is an issue or not
If you find yourself complaining or curling up in a ball every time something you don't want happens
This is without a doubt a sign you're sabotaging yourself
9 you're over indulgent now, this is an easy telltale sign
Do you find yourself snacking out of boredom? Even when you're not very hungry. Do you often stare at videos watching one after another?
Even when you don't think they're interesting or entertaining
There's nothing wrong with watching shows or eating tasty food
But when we do this merely to distract ourselves, this is yet another sign for procrastinating and therefore continuing to sabotage ourselves
10 you question whether you have a purpose in life
When we're not working towards what we want in our lives. We might start asking the big question
What's the meaning of my life? Is there a point to anything? I'm doing am I who I'm meant to be?
Life is what you make of it and lots of these questions simply don't have logical answers you find
Pondering these thoughts will usually just lead you to overthinking which is such a waste of your time and energy
Do you think you're sabotaging yourself? Have you identified with any of the points shown in this video?
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