guys i really don't know what to do
about fiona yeah that's a hard one i
don't want to just end a friendship but
it's been level 10 chaos lately i know
what to do behold the decision maker as
old as time a good old-fashioned pros
and cons list begin
we've been friends since high school
okay history pro
she's really fun to hang out with
one-on-one okay pro fun except for when
she's in a group setting she becomes an
entirely different person especially if
there's a guy around it's like you don't
even exist con competitive for attention
yeah it's also weird that she hooks up
all of her friends with these guys
who've had crushes on her that she's
just kids around yeah what's with that
it's like she wants her friends to date
men who've had an affinity for her what
do we call that like a need to feel
superiority compared to the other women
in her life in a sexual space
internalized misogyny vidcon big con but
she can be very giving okay so a pro
generous but her generosity is based on
stealing are you saying that because all
of her boyfriends have been meant she's
stolen from relationships con stealing
no
i'm talking about the international
women's day gifts oh you mean those
customized earrings she gave everyone
those were so sweet and thoughtful yeah
that was my idea i told her i was gonna
do that for you guys and she straight up
stole it and did it oh my god okay
underline stealing but her intentions
were good i was just really upset by it
okay pro well-intentioned right i mean
the path to hell is paved with it but
what else she has a cult
a cult
yeah
she runs a cult i guess
okay uh well i really don't know if i
should classify that as like a
pro or a con because that really does
depend on how the cult is utilized it's
definitely a pro for her and it could be
a pro or a con for us depending on how
she wields it okay let's call that
neutral it's called neutral right cult
it's in neither category and then it'll
shift based on the cult's collective
movements and actions i'm also loving a
female cult leader cults are so male
dominated right and i get it like all
cults are technically bad but feminism
means that we should have equal
opportunity for evil for women
absolutely you guys
sorry sorry i'm really stressed out here
i love her but the friendship isn't
nurturing anymore and there's just so
many issues piling up that i don't even
have clarity on how to feel anymore okay
you know what let's just say let's say
the pros and cons list right okay
let's go back to the brass tacks i have
one question for you one question that
will assess how much you can trust her
how safe you feel with her and whether
or not she should be in your life moving
forward
and that question is
would you trust her alone with your
boyfriend no okay well i think well
looks like you have your answer if you
can't trust her to act with integrity
around a partner because she has a
problematic nature and a need for male
attention and validation then yeah
you're right i think i'll call her and i
have a talk with her to end the
friendship as much as it pains me to
lose her the pain of continuing to have
her in my life is so much greater maybe
well maybe maybe you should ghost
yeah given she's a cult leader
right yeah you don't want the cult to
come after you that would definitely
shift it into the con category yeah that
that's a big con
pro there could be a reality show that's
true pro reality show reality show like
that reality show but another potential
con
death
yes you could have a murder documentary
if you do die yeah if i die
then i could have a murder documentary
that would be cool oh my god reality
show murder doc infamy yeah infamy yeah
infumbi is a pro
could be on netflix oh my god netflix
maybe maybe daddy netflix okay well
looks like it's pro okay i think we got
a plan made our choice i think it's a
pro it's a pro this really helped okay
let's hang out with her she call her
yeah okay
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