It has been a struggle,
getting back on my feet,
finding employment.
It's been a rough last three years.
I'm harassed on the streets on a regular basis.
I've been spit on,
I've been slapped in the face.
My glasses have been broken.
I've had somebody spray paint me with paint.
I've had somebody post on social media
that I should be shot to death.
I've really changed and I am changing as we speak.
A change just doesn't happen overnight.
I live in a Christian faith based home.
I'm very involved with my church community.
If I am sincere about wanting a change in life,
I deserve a second chance.
Coach Mike Bayer is here,
he's very dear friend of mine.
He's a life coach,
he's the founder and CEO of CAST Centers.
He's experienced and really loved by his clients.
And he focuses on helping his clients break free
of destructive patterns that aren't yielding results
that they want.
He's written a new book that's called Best Self,
Be You Only Better.
In fact it is a New York Times Bestseller
and has really been having some major impacts.
In fact they're starting to adopt this
into the school systems and working with school kids,
teachers, the school kids' parents.
I mean this is really having an impact
on our society right now.
So congratulations
on that Mike. Thank you.
(audience applauding)
Coach Mike I'm ultimately going to ask you
to help and provide some services for Michael here
because I don't want to just bring him here
and have him make what he considers
to be an apology,
I actually want to help turn this around.
You have an interesting concept in Best Self,
Be You, Only Better,
and it's the contrast between best self
and anti self.
Talk about that a little bit as it applies to Michael.
Thank you Dr. Phil.
So when we talk about being your best self
it's who you truly are at your core,
who you authentically are.
Which is honest,
which is all those characteristics
that you describe yourself when you got
out of being in jail.
Your anti self I'm going to name it.
We're going to call is Lie Michael or Liecal,
how about that?
L,i,e,c,h,a.e,l.
So Liechael is your anti self and that is the party
that keeps getting you into trouble.
And with you it's gonna be really tough
because you don't really know your anti self today.
It seems like you're pretty much ready to come clean
but you lack real insight into why you're doing
what you're doing.
And this party that keeps getting in the way
of you being your best self,
and so what we want to do is we want
to start to understand the characteristics
of what this is.
We want to figure out where this all started from.
You know usually when people gain a little bit
of insight they start to have
some light bulbs turn on.
Unfortunately so far I haven't seen
those light bulbs turn on for you.
Michael I think you're getting in your own way.
When I looked at your apology tape I have
to tell you I've spent a lot
of my career in deception detection.
And I went through here saw clusters of lie behavior
that are all through your apology tape.
Some of these freeze frames we've pulled out,
this steepling of your hands
when you're talking about what you want
and how you want people to understand.
This is one of the primary signs of arrogance
that is communicated through body language.
This is just blatant arrogance where somebody
just sits back and says well let me tell you.
When you say I want to be 100% Michael.
When you say that you're shaking your head no
while you're saying it.
It's awfully hard to manage all of the processes
of your body and this is unconscious.
I don't think you're even aware of some of this.
Mike you're gonna talk to him
about what we have to do to get his anti self
out of the way so he can be honest,
he can be truthful.