THERE WAS A HEADLINE THAT CAUGHT MY ATTENTION TODAY.
IT WAS WRITTEN BY THE NEW YORK POST A SOLO COURSE TAKE IT
WITH A GRAIN OF SALT BUT IT WAS A PROFILE OF SOME NEW
YORKERS AND THEIR DATING HABITS AND THOUGHT IT WAS TITLED
WHY I WON'T SAY HOT WOMEN ANYMORE.
I WAS CURIOUS ABOUT IT I PROCEEDED TO READ AND I'M
GLAD THAT I DID BECAUSE SOME OF THE QUOTES IN THIS ARTICLE
WERE INSUFFERABLE.
LET ME GIVE YOU SOME EXAMPLES THAT IT STARTS OFF WITH A
40-YEAR-OLD GENTLEMAN BY THE NAME OF DANIEL ROSHKIND.
HE IS A SUCCESSFUL GUY AND I WOULD SAY OF AVERAGE LOOKS
AND THE ONLY REASON I SAY THAT IS BECAUSE IT IS RELEVANT
TO THE STORY.
LET ME SAY WHAT HE FEELS ABOUT HIMSELF AND WHAT HE FEELS ABOUT
WHO HE IS STATED IN THE PAST AND WHO HE PREFERS TO DATE NOW.
HE SAYS I COULD HAVE DATED ANYONE.
HE'S NOW 40 AND AN UPPER WEST SIDE OR WITH A MUSCULAR
BUILD IN A FULL HEAD OF HAIR.
THAT'S HOW HE WAS DESCRIBED THAT I MET SOME NICE PEOPLE BUT
REALISTICALLY I WENT FOR THE HOTTEST OR YOU COULD FIND.
DAN ROSHKIND USED TO DATE MODELS, BUT HE'S HAPPIER NOW
THAT HE'S ENGAGED TO A MERELY BEAUTIFUL WOMAN, CARLY SPINDLE.
WHAT IS MERELY BEAUTIFUL?
WHAT IS THAT MEAN?
WHAT?
WHO SAYS YOU KNOW WHAT?
THIS IS A GREAT ARTICLE TO BE A PART OF.
I'M GONNA GO AHEAD AND THROW MY SIGNIFICANT OTHER
UNDER THE BUS AND MAKE HER THINK SHE IS NOT ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH
OR AT LEAST NOT AS ATTRACTIVE AS THE WOMEN I USED TO DATE THAT
I'M GONNA SETTLE FOR HER BECAUSE SHE IS A GOOD PERSONALITY.
YOU LOOK THEM UP BECAUSE HE IS MEDIOCRE AT BEST.
I REALLY HATE COMMENTING ON PEOPLE'S LOOKS BUT IT IS
JUST THE WAY THE HE REFERS TO HIMSELF, YOU WOULD THINK
THEY HE IS A GOD AND IT IS THE MOST ABSURD STORY.
I CAN'T EVEN BELIEVE THIS.
ANYWAY.
I DON'T LIKE THAT PICTURE BECAUSE THAT PICTURE MAKES
HER LOOK LIKE A LITTLE CRAZY BUT THAT IS NOT THE BEST
PICTURE FOR HER BECAUSE I KNOW THAT SHE IS FINE.
SHE'S BEAUTIFUL.
YOU CAN SEE THE DEFINITION IN THE SHOULDER, PECTORALS.
SHE'S FINE.
THEY GOT THE PICTURE WHERE SHE LOOKS
A LITTLE OFF TO SUPPORT THIS WHOLE NARRATIVE.
SHE'S GOT MICHELLE BACHMANN ON THE COVER OF NEWSWEEK EYES.
LET ME BE CLEAR ABOUT SOMETHING AND I AM BEING GENUINE AND WHAT
I'M SAYING AND I DON'T KNOW, MAYBE YOU DISAGREE WITH ME.
SHE IS NOT THE ONE WHO WON IN THIS SCENARIO, YOU ARE THE
WINNER.
SHE IS GORGEOUS AND ANYWAY, LET ME CONTINUE.
HE SAYS
BEAUTIFUL WOMEN WHO GET A FAIR AMOUNT OF ATTENTION GET
FULL OF THEMSELVES.
BECAUSE YOU'RE NOT, YOU'RE VERY HUMBLE GENTLEMAN THAT
THEY SHOULD BE SO LUCKY AS TO HAVE MY ATTENTION.
I HAVE A FULL HEAD OF HAIR.
BY THE WAY, THERE ARE INSEPARABLE WOMEN LATER ON
IN THIS ARTICLE AS WELL.
BEAUTIFUL WOMEN TO GET A FAIR AMOUNT OF ATTENTION GET
FULL OF THEMSELVES.
EVENTUALLY, I WAS DREADING GETTING DINNER WITH THEM
BECAUSE THEY COULDN'T CARRY CONVERSATION.
SO THE STEREOTYPE THAT IF YOU ARE AN ATTRACTIVE WOMAN,
YOU CANíT CARRY CONVERSATION.
YOU KNOW, HE'S
GOD'S GIFT TO HUMANITY AND HE UNFORTUNATELY HAD TO SUFFER
AND SETTLE FOR SOMEONE WHO'S NOT AS ATTRACTIVE AS WHAT HE
WOULD'VE PREFERRED BUT AT LEAST SHE CAN CARRY A CONVERSATION.
HERE'S WHAT HE SAYS THAT I CAN'T TAKE IT.
IT CONTINUES.
WEíRE LOSING ANNA.
SOMEONE TIE HER DOWN.
HERE'S WHAT HE SAYS ABOUT HIS FIANC…E, HE IS ENGAGED TO HER.
SHE IS A SOFTER BEAUTY, SOMEONE YOU CAN TAKE HOME AND
CUDDLE WITH, AND SHE'S VERY ELEGANT.
SHE'S 5í2î, SO SHE CANíT BE A RUNWAY MODEL,
WHAT A DICK.
BUT I THINK SHE'S REALLY BEAUTIFUL AND IS PRETTIER
THAN ANYONE I'VE DATED THAT SO TRIES TO SAVE HIMSELF IN
THE END BUT STILL, WHAT?
WOW.
I DO BELIEVE SHE'S PRETTIER THAN ANYONE HE'S EVER
DATED, BUT WHEN I LISTEN TO WHAT HE SAID OR WHEN I READ IT,
I WAS LIKE OBVIOUSLY HE DOESN'T KNOW THE LAWS OF ATTRACTION.
HE IS SHALLOW, SUPERFICIAL, SO COURSES GONNA ATTRACTIVE
SORTS OF PEOPLE.
KNOW, BUT HE'S GROWN-UP AND HE'S DECIDED YOU KNOW,
COST-BENEFIT ANALYSIS.
ALL GO FOR THE LESS ATTRACTIVE PERSON, AND HIS EYES LESS
ATTRACTIVE PERSON.
I CAN'T DEAL WITH THIS GUY.
NOW LET'S GO TO BENEDICT BACKFIELD, A BROOKLYN
WRITER AND HERE'S WHAT HE HAD TO SAY.
MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, PEOPLE WHO ARE BETTER LOOKING ARE LESS
LIKELY TO PURSUE ADVANCED DEGREES, OR PLAY AN INSTRUMENT
OR LEARN OTHER LANGUAGES, SAYS BENEDICT GOLD,
37-YEAR-OLD BROOKLYN WRITER WITH A DOCTORATE IN PHILOSOPHY
AND THE BODY OF AN ADONIS.
HE DOESN'T.
BUT HE'S QUICK TO NOTE THAT HE'S NOT JUST A GREAT SET
OF ABS, HE ALSO PLAYS THE VIOLIN AND SPEAKS SEVEN LINKAGES.
40 TALKING ABOUT?
IF YOU'RE AN ATTRACTIVE PERSON AND YOU HAVE THESE TALENTS
WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THAT JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE'S
ATTRACTIVE, THEY SHOULD IMMEDIATELY BE STEREOTYPE
TO SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T KNOW THE LANGUAGE OR HAS ANY TALENT.
THIS IS CRAZY.
I WONDER IF HE CAN SAY DOUCHE BAG AND ALL OF THOSE LANGUAGES.
AND SPEAKS SEVEN LANGUAGES.
IT'S DOUCHE BAG, DOUCHE BAG, ETC.
GO TO A WOMAN BECAUSE AS I MENTIONED, THERE WERE WOMEN
IN THIS ARTICLE THAT WERE JUST AS BAD.
MEGAN YOUNG IS ONE OF THEM.
SHE SAYS IS A PERSON WHO HAS ALWAYS BEEN COMPLIMENTED ON
MY STUNNING BEAUTY, I'VE BEEN SEARCHING FOR A HOT GUY TO
MATCH THAT LABEL THAT I'D ALWAYS BEEN GIVEN.
BUT AFTER DATA OR TWO, THOUGH HAVE PROBLEMS HANGING OUT
WITH YOU AND THEN WE'LL GHOST.
HERE'S A PICTURE OF THE GUY SHE IS WITH NOW AND SHE JUST
KIND OF TALKS ABOUT HIM LIKE HE IS NOT GOOD-LOOKING.
HE SUPER GOOD-LOOKING.
AND THAT PICTURE OF HER SHE LOOKS LIKE ONE OF THOSE
MOMS FROM THE SHOWS WERE THE DAUGHTERS OF DANCERS.
THE DANCE MOM SHOWED THAT
WATCHES STEP HERE, I LOVE THAT SHOWED THAT
YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING?
YOU'RE RIGHT THAT
ABOUT GOOD-LOOKING, BUT THIS NOTION.
THE WAY SHE'S DESCRIBING HER RELATIONSHIP, SHE MAKES IT
SEEM LIKE SHE'S A SUPERMODEL AND THAT HE IS THE MOST AVERAGE
LOOKING GUY THAT YOU GUYS ARE COMPARABLE ATTRACTIVENESS.
WHAT'S GOING ON?
THIS IS WHAT SHE SAYS ABOUT HIM THAT HE'S NOT A MODEL, BUT
HE SO MUCH MORE ATTRACTIVE IN WHO HE IS AS A PERSON.
IT MAKES UP FOR HIS STUPID FACE.
HIS TERRIBLE GROSS UGLY FACE.
I'LL SHARE THIS STORY AND I FEEL VERY VULNERABLE WHEN I TELL
BECAUSE IT'S THE TRUTH I WENT TO KOREA AND PEOPLE KEPT
STARING AT ME AND I FELT A LITTLE WEIRD.
I ASKED ONE OF THE WOMEN I WAS WITH HER TO WORK, WHY DO
PEOPLE KEEP STARING AT ME?
AND SHE WAS LIKE A NEBULOUS WITH THE?
BECAUSE IN KOREA, YOU'RE CONSIDERED UGLY.
YOUR TALL AND YOUR DARK INTO THEM, THAT'S AN ATROCITY.
YOUR LIKE KING KONG OR GODZILLA.
I REALLY JOKE ABOUT IT.
SO I WENT TO ISRAEL LAST YEAR AND THE MEN WOULD KEEP
TALKING TO ME AND SAYING OH MY GOD, YOU'RE SO BEAUTIFUL.
MY POINT IS IT'S ALL RELATIVE.
IT DEPENDS ñ THE FACT THAT YOU THINK YOU ARE A GLOBAL BEAUTY
AND THAT YOU ARE THE STANDARD OF BEAUTY IS THE REASON WHY WE HAVE
SO MANY YOUNG WOMEN WHO HAVE EATING DISORDERS AND ARE TRYING
TO DISTORT THEIR FACES BECAUSE THE STANDARD OF BEAUTY THAT
KEEPS BEING PUSHED ON PEOPLE AND THEIR CRAZY.
NOT CRAZY, SICK.
NARCISSISM IS AN ILLNESS THAT NORMAL PEOPLE DON'T WALK
AROUND THINKING STUFF LIKE THIS.
WE DID A STORY ON POP TRIGGER ABOUT THIS AND THERE WAS A
WHOLE LIST OF THE IDEAL COUNTRY TO COUNTRY AROUND THE WORLD
AND IT WAS SO VERY DIFFERENT.
I JUST THINK THAT ASIDE FROM WHETHER YOU CAN GO BACK HOME TO
YOUR WIFE AT THE END OF THIS, YOUR FIANC…
OR WHATEVER AND SHE
CAN LET YOU SLEEP IN THE BED TONIGHT, PEOPLE IN THIS ARTICLE,
EVERYTHING YOU'RE SAYING JUST SOUNDS SO COMPLAINING THAT YOU
HAVE THIS THING AND YOU WOULD RATHER BLAME ANYONE ELSE IN THE
WORLD FOR YOUR FEELINGS IN THE ROMANTIC ARENA EXCEPT FOR YOU.
EXCEPT THAT'S A GOOD POINT THAT
IS NOT ME, IT'S BECAUSE BEAUTIFUL WOMEN ARE TERRIBLE.
NO, JUST FIND SOMEONE WHO YOU THINK IS HOT, WHATEVER THAT
MEANS, AND JUST DATE THEM.
ATTRACTIVE PEOPLE IN GENERAL, BASED ON WHATEVER WE CONSIDER
ATTRACTIVE, WE GIVE THEM THE LABEL OF NOT BEING INTELLIGENT
WHICH IS A LIE.
YOU WATCH THIS SHOW DAILY, YOU SEE THESE
ATTRACTIVE PEOPLE AND THEY ARE INTELLIGENT AND WELL SPOKEN.
IíM BEING REAL HERE.
WE CAN JUST BE HONEST ABOUT IT.
YOU HEAR IN COMEDY ALL
THE TIME THAT THE MORE ATTRACTIVE THE COMEDIAN IS,
THE LESS LIKELY THEY ARE TO BE FUNNY BECAUSE ATTRACTIVE
PEOPLE DON'T HAVE STRUGGLES IN LIFE.
THEY DON'T HAVE PROBLEMS.
LISTEN, IT TAKES ALL KINDS.
I WOULD SAY IN BASKETBALL, OR ANY SPORT, THERE'S PEOPLE
WHO HAVE MORE PHYSICAL TALENT.
IN MY SEVEN AND EIGHT-YEAR-OLD BASKETBALL LEAGUE THERE WERE
PEOPLE WHO WERE JUST FASTER BUT THEN THERE ARE THE ONES WHO ARE
FASTER AND WORK AT IT AND PEOPLE WHO ARE FASTER AND DIDNíT.
I DO
BELIEVE THAT IF YOU ARE CONSIDERED ATTRACTIVE, YOU HAVE
AN OPPORTUNITY TO EITHER JUST REST ON THAT
AND SOME PEOPLE DO.
OR DEVELOP WHATEVER OTHER SKILLS OR PERSONALITY THAT
YOU WANT TO DO.
I DON'T WANT ANYONE TO THINK THAT I'M THE SELF-RIGHTEOUS
PERSON WHO NEVER STEREOTYPES.
I STEREOTYPED THE HELL OUT OF MY HUSBAND WHEN I MET HIM.
HE WAS A PROFESSIONAL BASEBALL PLAYER.
HE'S HOT.
HE IS HOT.
I FOLLOW HIM ON INSTAGRAM.
I ASKED HIM, ONE OF THE FIRST QUESTIONS WAS ARE YOU
INTERESTED IN NEWS AND POLITICS?
HE SAID NO AND I SAID WHAT ARE YOU INTERESTED IN?
HE SAID SPORTS.
I IMMEDIATELY ASSUMED HE WAS DUMB.
THAT WAS THE
MOST UNFAIR STEREOTYPE THAT I COULD GIVE HIM BECAUSE HE ENDED
UP BEING SO CREDIBLY SMART AND CHARMING AND LOVING.
AND OR CHEMISTRY THAT IF I HAD JUST FOLLOWED THAT RIDICULOUS
STEREOTYPE I HAD MY HEAD THAT I WOULDN'T HAVE ENDED UP WITH
HIM AND I WOULD'VE BEEN ASHAMED THAT WE ALL FALL VICTIM TO THAT.
TRY NOT TO DO IT.
TRY TO COURSE CORRECT AND GIVE THAT PERSON AN OPPORTUNITY
TO PROVE THEMSELVES.
BUT DON'T YOU THINK IF SOMEONE WENT THERE SOMETHING
ROUGH AND CAME OUT THE OTHER SIDE OF IT, I DO FEEL LIKE IF
SOMEONE WENT THROUGH A CHARMED LIFE AND A CHARMED EXISTENCE AND
NEVER WAS CHALLENGED BY ANYTHING.
I DO FEEL LIKE THAT PERSON HAS
THE SCARS GIVE CHARACTER.
AT THE SAME, BEING LIKE OH,
PEOPLE WHO DON'T HAVE OR NEVER GO THROUGH ANYTHING
NEGATIVE ARE BY DEFINITION WORSE BY THE ONES WHO WENT
THROUGH HARDSHIP AND CAME OUT ON THE OTHER SIDE?
MY GIRLFRIEND WAS IN BAND.
I FEEL LIKE THAT WAS ENOUGH TO MAKE HER A NERD AND HAVE TO
BATTLE THROUGH.
I THINK EVERYONE DOES THEIR CHALLENGES.
I DONíT THINK
ANYONE HAS A CHARMED LIFE EVEN IF IT APPEARS TO BE SO.
EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN STRUGGLES TYPING SOCIAL MEDIA KIND OF
DISTORTS WHAT THE REALITY IS FOR THE MAJORITY PEOPLE.
THE VAST MAJORITY OF PEOPLE ARE NOT GOING TO SHARE THE
STRUGGLES ONLINE.
THEY ONLY SHOW THE ONES THAT THEY WANT TO BRAG ABOUT
THAT THE THINGS THEY HAVE SUCCEEDED INSIDE GREAT THINGS
THAT ARE HELPING AND THEIR FAMILIES THAT WHATEVER IT IS.
NO ONE IS TALKING ABOUT MY PARENTS ARE DIVORCING.
SOME PEOPLE DO ON SOCIAL MEDIA AND IT'S ALWAYS REALLY
AWKWARD THAT MOST PEOPLE DON'T AND I THINK THAT GIVES YOU
A DISTORTED REALITY.
I FEEL LIKE THERE IS A ROOM FULL OF SUPERHOT WOMEN WHO
ARE READING THIS ARTICLE AND GO, YEAH, ALL THESE RICH DOUCHE
BAGS DON'T EVEN ASK QUESTIONS ABOUT MY PERSONALITY THAT I
WANTED TO TALK ABOUT MY QUANTUM PHYSICS DEGREE, BUT THEY
DIDN'T EVEN THINK TO ASK BECAUSE THEY ARE DOUCHE BAGS.
I AGREE WITH YOU TOO AND I AM REALLY BIG ON THAT SPECIFICALLY
SOMEONE WHO COMES FROM A LOW WERE SUCH SOCIOECONOMIC PLACE,
IT'S A BIG DEAL FOR ME THAT JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE STRUGGLED
DOESN'T LOOK LIKE YOURS, DOESN'T MEAN IT IS AS VALID.
THEIR PEOPLE I KNOW WHO GREW UP REST AND GROW UP IN A HOUSE WITH
PEOPLE WHO ARE MOLESTING THEM OR THEY WERE BEING NEGLECTED.
DRUG OR ALCOHOL ABUSE.
THERE'S ALL KINDS OF THINGS PEOPLE COPE WITHOUT THE POINT
OF THE STORY IS DON'T STEREOTYPE AND ALSO TAKE A QUICK MOMENT TO
REFLECT ON YOUR SELF AND THINK ABOUT YOUR OWN FLAWS AND WHAT
YOU CAN DO TO IMPROVE THAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP
THAT IT IS NOT ABOUT LOOKING FOR SOMEONE WHO IS LESS ATTRACTIVE.
IT'S ABOUT LOOKING FOR SOMEONE YOU CAN COMPROMISE WITH AND
HAVE A PARTNERSHIP WITH AND THAT IS WHAT YOU REALLY HAVE IN
A RELATIONSHIP.
IT IS SUPPOSED TO BE A PARTNERSHIP, NOT A
VANITY CONTEST.