[music playing]
[children screaming]
ANTHONY: Knock it off. Hey.
[screaming continues]
(STERNLY) Deuce.
I'm Anthony Garcia, and this is my wife--
Bethany.
I'm 24 years old.
ANTHONY: I'm 23.
We met in high school.
He was 15 and I was 16.
She was a senior, and I was a sophomore.
OK, no, we don't need to tell people that.
- So-- - No.
I was dating a senior when I was a sophomore.
He just thinks he's so cool.
Oh my God.
And then I look like an idiot.
ANTHONY: We have four kids, all under the age of 6.
[chuckles]
ANTHONY: Our first daughter, Brooklynn,
she's very independent.
BETHANY: Hey, Brooklynn, stop.
Our second daughter, Harlym--
ANTHONY: She's your typical girly girl.
[screaming]
BETHANY: Deuce is bananas.
Don't hit me.
And then our baby is Bronx, and she just turned 1 last month.
When I started my blog, it was just a hobby.
And now it's making, like, five figures for one Instagram post.
And that supports our family.
I love working from home, but the kids are
constantly jumping all over me.
[baby crying]
ANTHONY: So I became a stay-at-home dad.
But it has been difficult.
[groaning]
BETHANY: When Deuce was 6 weeks old,
he had a cranial vault reconstruction.
ANTHONY: Essentially, he was born without a soft spot.
BETHANY: So they take out the top of his skull,
reconstruct it, and put it back in.
Now he's doing really, really good.
Time to take a nap.
(SHOUTING) No.
But finding out he had craniosynostosis,
we babied him.
BETHANY: Now he's just wild.
[clunk]
[crying]
He doesn't have respect for me.
Stop hitting me.
And he cusses all the time.
ANTHONY: Go pick those LEGOs up, man.
No, [bleep].
ANTHONY: Hey.
I don't want to say we're in over our head,
but we're in over our head.
[screaming]
My fear is I don't know what to expect.
[crying]
I had a real frank conversation
with Bethany and Anthony today.
Both parents were very receptive to what I was saying.
They're willing to accept, learn, and change,
moving forward, what ultimately is
going to benefit their family.
All right, so the reason I have you back to back
is because I'd like to give you both the courage to ask
each other questions that you've felt afraid to ask one
another because of the reaction you may have
received from the other one.
Anthony, I'm going to ask you to go first with your question
to Bethany.
Oh, man.
I don't think I have any questions.
[suspenseful music]
JO FROST: Bethany, I'll hold it of you to ask the question.
Why do you resort to name-calling
when you're frustrated?
ANTHONY: I don't know.
If you have, like, a stupid idea, right, like,
if it doesn't make sense in my mind,
it's like, well, you're an idiot because you thought that.
JO FROST: You have to be aware that speaking
this way to Bethany is abuse.
I mean, I'm not physically harming you.
JO FROST: It's still abusive behavior.
You might not be physically leaving bruises on her arms,
but emotionally you are leaving her heart bruised.
Every time you do that in front of your daughters,
you teach your daughters exactly the type of man
that they should be with.
And when Deuce looks up to you as a father, he says,
oh, that's how I treat my mother,
and that's how I should treat every woman I am with.
You're better than this, Anthony.
Your son will be raised to see a father who loves his mother.
OK.
[gentle music playing]
I'm the same person that I told myself I never would be.
And so realizing that, just, it's a horrible feeling.
From this day forward, I'm going to do everything in my power
to change the narrative, to change who I am, who
my wife sees, who my kids see.
It's time to break the cycle.
BETHANY: Yeah.