Negative thinking is a major problem.
If you're trying to be successful or happy,
you have no room for negativity.
Big thinking gets rid of negativity,
dreams and visions gets rid of negativity.
Now, what you cannot do is bury yourself
by using your success compared to other people.
See, success is not how far you got.
Because somebody always further than you.
Success ain't how far you got.
Success is how far you got from where you start.
Life will push, squeeze, pressure,
and attempt to make you bend at the knee.
Some become a victim to life.
Things happen.
Pain, heartache and loss.
We can either be the victim
or the victor to these situations.
So, until your mind is open to the possibilities
that I can do this,
you would never be able to do it.
Once the mind starts to believe it can be achieved,
it then, only then, does it start to break down tactically.
How we can do this.
Until then, you're gonna always lose.
For me to understand,
for me to be better,
for me to be stronger,
I must learn to suffer a little bit.
I must learn to struggle a little bit.
I cannot reap the rewards of success.
Without understanding about struggles.
If you want to go somewhere
that only you would go,
if you want to create something new
and really live a life
that was meant for you,
because it's literally crafted by you,
you have to take the first steps on faith.
If you have a dream, don't just sit there.
Get your ass up and make something happen.
Sometimes you just have to move.
Do something, make a call.
Reach out to someone.
Google something.
Learn something new.
Set up what you believe in.
Lay out the power you have.
Actually lay out the power
that you have always had.
Use this, become this and have this.
Your power can take you,
put you on your path to your success,
to the place where you succeed.
You have and you always will have this,
this potential to improve,
this potential to adapt
and this potential to change.
This is what you've been working for.
Go on and receive that.
Trying to get insight and see life
as a puzzle and your goal in life
is to seat the adventures
that piece the puzzle together.
Who are you?
You're the thing that transforms who you are.
Now you're also who you are,
but on top of that, you're the thing that transforms who you are.
You are the thing that is, and you're the thing that becomes.
And you should put the thing that becomes
at a higher place than the thing that is.
That means you also have to allow yourself to shake off those things about you,
that you might be pathologically attached to
habits and people for that matter, ways of thinking, all of those things.
You have to allow yourself to shake those off,
and that's more like a burning.
That's why the Phoenix is, that's why the Phoenix is the symbol that it is.
Right?
It's old and it.
Deteriorates, it bursts into flame and then it's reborn.
It's like, well, do you wanna be reborn?
It's like, that's not the question.
The question is, do you wanna burst into flame?
And the answer to that generally is no.
But that's the wrong answer.
The right answer is you let all that nonsense burn away
and you know, and you might say, well, I don't know
what I should leave behind.
And the answer to that is, that's a lie.
You know, some of the things that you should leave behind you,
all you have to do is ask yourself.
You'll come up with a list instantly of a hundred stupid
things that you're doing that you know you could stop doing.
Some of them maybe you don't know you could stop doing.
It's like, well, fine.
Leave those alone for now.
But there's a bunch of things you perfectly know well
that you could stop doing that would improve your life.
And so do that.
See what happens.
That's a good, that's a good idea.
What's really interesting.
Is self value.
Real self-worth comes from doing hard things.
We keep talking about self-love.
We keep talking about loving yourself, believing in yourself.
That happens naturally when you go through something difficult.
Everyone who's listening right now, I guarantee you,
has been through something difficult.
Maybe they lost a friend.
Maybe they've been through cancer.
Maybe they lost their job and had to rebuild.
Maybe they completely got destroyed during the pandemic
and had to figure everything out with their health.
The point is we've all done hard things and self-worth
and self-value comes from recognizing
the hardship you've been through and the growth that you've made during that time.
Now, if you are someone who's listening and saying, Jay, well,
I'm not sure I've been through anything that challenging.
Well, that's your challenge.
Go and figure out what it is that you want to do that's hard.
Is it developing a new skill?
Is it getting a qualification?
Is it starting that business or dream that you've always wanted to do?
What's that difficult thing you are gonna do on your own
with your friends, with the support of whoever's around you,
but not with the crutch or the handicap of a partner?
What are you gonna build as a skill, as a tool, as a value yourself
that's gonna make you say, I've done something.
And that's the beginning of it.
The beginning is I've done something and I did that, and I can do that.
And when you do that, yes, there's gonna be,
you're gonna validate the wrong things.
You're gonna, you're gonna give yourself praise for the wrong things.
You're gonna go through ego, you're gonna do all of that.
But there's still a belief if I can do hard things,
I can do hard things by myself.
And I know what value I bring to our relationship.
Persistence is self-discipline in action.
Your ability to persist in the face of all setbacks
and temporary failures is essential to success in life.
Napoleon Hill said,
persistence is to the character of man as carbon is to steal.
The primary reason for success is persistence,
and likewise, the primary reason for failure is lack of persistence.
Quitting too soon.
There is a direct link between and self-discipline and self-esteem.
Each time you discipline yourself to do what you should do, when you should do it,
whether you feel like it or not, your self-esteem increases.
Each time you persist and force yourself to continue on, even when you feel like quitting,
your self-esteem goes up.
Each act of self-discipline strengthens every other act of self-discipline.
Every act of persistence strengthens every other act of persistence.
When you discipline yourself to persist, over and over, you like and respect yourself more and more.
You become stronger and more confident.
Eventually, you become unstoppable.
Persistence is its own reward.
Every time you force yourself to persist on a task,
whether it is large or small, you feel happier and better about yourself.
When you go the extra mile and do more than you are paid for or more than is expected, your selfesteem goes up.
You feel more powerful and in greater control of your life.
In your career, when you go the extra mile you put yourself on the side of the angels.
The primary difference between winners and losers in life is simple:
Winners never quit, and quitters never win.
You can increase your ability to persist by talking to yourself positively.
Say these words: “I am unstoppable!”
Before you begin any major undertaking, preprogram yourself by telling yourself, “I never give up.”
Before you can achieve anything worthwhile in life, you have to pass “the persistence test.”
This is usually a “snap quiz” sprung on you unexpectedly with no warning.
You suddenly face a major setback, problem, temporary failure, or even a complete disaster.
When this happens, remind yourself that this is the “testing time.”
This is when you demonstrate what you are really made of.
This is when you show yourself and others the strength of your character
and your true determination to succeed.
Your ability to respond effectively to setbacks—your level of “response-ability”
—is the measure of your readiness to succeed.
When you experience a major setback or problem, you will feel temporarily stunned.
This feeling is very much like a punch in the emotional solar plexus.
You will be stopped for a few seconds or a few minutes.
During this period, you will often feel discouraged or experience self-pity.
You will say, “Why me?”
However, it is not how far you fall that counts, but rather how high you bounce.
Your aim is to bounce back as quickly as possible.
Resilience in the face of unexpected reversals is vital to long term success.
Remember the warrior’s creed:
“I will lay me down to bleed awhile, and then rise and fight again.”
Don’t be surprised, shocked, or set back when things go wrong.
Your best-laid plans will often fall apart.
Instead, expect disappointments and setbacks as a part of life.
Take a deep breath, pick up the pieces, and continue onward.
Our minds, our thinking controls, our destinies here on earth to a degree,
totally unsuspected by the great majority of people.
When you think about it a moment,
it becomes so obvious, so clear and simple.
Well then if we become what we think about
and if we can control our minds, we can pretty well tell our own future.
And that's the point I want to make.
That's what I meant when I said earlier that each one of us
is the architect of the structure fashioned by our years.
This means that if we're confused about what we wish to become or accomplish,
our lives, our environment will mirror that confusion.
It also means that if we know what it is we seek,
that it will, it must be accomplished.
Barring an act of God or a catastrophe over which we have no control,
we as individuals can call our own shots for the rest of our lives.
We can know what it means to go through life from one success to another,
to play life according to the rules and reap the rewards.
We can know what it means to have peace of mind
and live calm, cheerful, successful lives.
You are at this moment, the sum total of your thoughts to this point.
For there is nothing else you can be
and five years from now you can be and have anything you set your entire mind and heart upon.