Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com.
I've done a few videos on pickup lines and there's one that you might have heard me say
before.
And I've actually evolved it.
I have changed it to something that works even better.
In fact, I have my coaching clients use it all the time.
If you're one of my clients and you're watching this, you're going to be smiling because you've
heard me say this before.
What is the line?
The old line was a Starbucks opener, just asking women hey, where's the nearest Starbucks
to get them talking.
This is even better, instead of asking the girl, instead of asking her where the nearest
Starbucks is, ask her where the nearest good coffee shop is.
Here's what you're going to do.
You go to a girl and you're going to say to her hey, excuse me, do you know where a good
coffee shop is?
Let me explain for a second.
A lot of guys are going to be saying, why would a girl answer that you can just use
your phone for that?
However, the thing is, you're not asking her directions somewhere, you're asking her opinion.
You're trying to get her opinion on a good coffee shop, a real person.
You can look that up on a Yelp and things like that.
But it's a normal thing to ask someone where a good coffee shop is.
This gets women talking because pretty much everyone drinks coffee.
And if she doesn't drink coffee, that's still going to get her talking too.
So imagine she says, no sorry I don't drink coffee.
You can say what, no way, that's crazy.
You don't drink coffee?
How do you get through your day?
Boom, now you guys are talking about that.
Or she's gonna say I'm not sure.
You're gonna say really?
Let me guess, you probably just go to Starbucks all the time.
Pretty plain, pretty average.
I mean, don't you like to go to somewhere good or do you actually think Starbucks is
the best one around here?
And then you can start talking about that.
Here's the trick.
It's not just about trying to have a 30 minute conversation about coffee.
The whole idea between getting an opener going or pickup line, whatever you want to call
it, is just to start the conversation.
It's not meant to attract them.
It's not meant to be clever or to be funny.
A lot of people use really cheesy pickup lines that just go nowhere or they'll use some very
obvious opinion opener.
There's this one floating around the internet that's been going on since the pickup days.
It's like who lies more men or women?
It's like, why are you asking me that?
And this is an opener that you'll be using during the day.
This is not going to be something that you can be using at night, obviously.
This is the best daytime opener that you can use.
My point here is that you just want to get in conversation to get them talking.
That's the point.
That's all it is.
No girl remembers how you started talking to them.
No girl cares.
The whole point is, let's get you two in conversation, then you can float the conversation to a new
level, and flirt with her and then make a connection.
And I recommend that you do this for about 15 minutes.
15 minutes in conversation and then you go and either ask her for an instant date.
You can say, hey, let's go grab that coffee or you know what, this is going to sound kind
of random but this is a good conversation.
Why don't you join me, let's go get that coffee.
Or if she's too busy or she has to go say, okay, no worries, well let me grab your number
and we can do this another time.
I talk about how to use this line and how to continue conversation and how to get it
to a flirtatious level, a level where she's sexually attracted to you in my program Hooked
and there's a section called Effortless Flirting where I teach you how to flirt and continue
the conversation.
If you want to take this further, check out www.getherhooked.com.
Before you even go and do that, what I want you to understand and there's one thing that's
really crucial to these lines is that you're probably going to be using this over and over
again.
And it's going to start to become seemingly manipulative or it's going to seem disingenuous.
But you just have to just use it for now.
This is an opener that you can use to just get things going.
It's a good opener to use when you're really nervous to start conversation.
And then once you get past the level of this is no problem anymore, I can use this line,
my fear of talking to women is over, this line has been used and done with then you
can go to a more direct opening, which I highly recommend.
My favorite direct opener is just going up to a girl and saying to her (because you're
being direct with her like you're just going over to talk to her to talk to her) is saying
to her, hey, I noticed you over here, you look nice.
I wanted to say hi are you from and then the city that you're in.
If you have the courage, I would use that line now and then continue conversation that
way.
Again, if you need help with continuing conversation, I talk about it in Effortless Flirting in
my program Hooked.
Again that's www.getherhooked.com.
The link is in the description.
But these are a few lines that you can use to get things going whether it's direct or
the first coffee one, the indirect one.
And the indirect one is nice because it gets conversation going.
And the second one, that direct one also gets conversation going because you're asking her
where she's from and then you can talk about that and then move from there.
And then again, after about 15 minutes of talking and hopefully you've been flirting
enough and getting her interested in you through conversation, that is when you can either
move to an instant date or get her number and then text her and then meet up another
time.
Try those out.
Let me know how it goes and I wish you success.
Remember very important, don't worry too much about the opener.
Use these, just get in there.
Start talking to her in any way possible so you can get into conversation.
Good luck.