hello swedish potatoes
welcome back to the sixth installment of
our seven mindset habits series
for as much as the digital sphere
focuses on morning routines and
developing healthy habits like sleeping
early
meditating and journaling i think all of
these things are great
i also wholeheartedly believe that
developing healthy mental habits
are just as if not even more important
as learning how to live harmoniously
with our inner voices
and how to live outside of our heads can
help us
live lighter and be more present with
the world around us
so here we are if you guys have missed
any of the previous videos i'll link
them down below as well as
right here okay without further ado
let's get started with the first point
the size of your world is proportionate
to what you choose to fixate on if you
guys have watched any of my previous
how i journal or journal flip through
flip flip flip
through videos you would have seen this
pie chart where i drew what i spent my
thoughts on
stupid things important things so at
this time in my life i would say
98 of my thoughts were fixated
on my relationship at that time and
because all my
energy and time and mental capacity was
dedicated to thinking about my
relationship
that was my world my world was as
objectively small as what i was thinking
of it's like that saying
what you feed grows whatever thoughts we
indulge in whether it's by choice or not
whether it's conscious or unconscious
is shaping us to become the person we
are
right now i realized that most of us
spend most of our time inside our heads
or the world that's most immediately
around us be it social media be it
friends be it people you follow
that's like our immediate world and then
there's the world world
which is not in here not around us but
like
outside of us if you think of earth i
think this is the real world
and i think there's a step beyond that
which is the spiritual world
however you want to define that to me
spiritual world
helps give me context to
how i fit into the world around me to
how the world around me fits into the
real world and how the real world
fits into the spiritual world so a kind
of
you know knowing the spiritual realm
helps make sense of
myself and the world around me and why
things are the way they are and
et cetera et cetera so
as with anything the first step really
is self-awareness
as you continue to grow and evolve your
thoughts will grow and evolve with you
all that to say don't be too hard on
yourselves things take time and that's
okay
so long as you're trying that's what's
most important
okay moving on people are in your life
for a reason season or a lifetime the
pain comes when we put them
in the wrong category this is something
that
belle saw on her instagram and shared on
beauty within recently and when she
said these words i grabbed a bottle of
skincare
and dropped it on the floor because i'm
like
it perfectly summarized
my 20s especially my early 20s where
you know you're navigating how to be a
person
still am you're navigating friendships
how to be a good friend
communication these days to live
lighter i just
don't make any friends just kidding
i what do i do
i just try to go with the flow yeah
there's actually an
art to living going with the flow lee
which is you need to really be okay with
going with the flow
if you're going with the flow for the
sake of fear or not wanting to hurt
yourself which is what i did for
i don't know the past five years i don't
want friends they just make your life
difficult and they bring you pain and
suffering
that's awfully extreme now i'm trying to
come back to all right like what does
really going with the flow mean what
does
being a good friend mean what is being
present as a friend me
and really reshifting my
focus and my world view that
relationships are important
people are important and no matter
what you want to do in life it's better
when there's people around you
and that you can share happiness sorrow
the highs and the lows with someone or
with people
the third mindset habits is you're never
to
fill in the blank for anything just like
how you're never too old too
young too experienced to start something
you're also not too cool too good
or too the first part
is more of the negative self-talk
thinking you're not good enough so that
you can do x y and z
the second part i think is rooted more
so in judgement for most of my life
i've lived in the second part where i
just judge people
hard like really hard and this quote
perfectly summarizes
my state we notice a lot of dislikable
people but we never
seem to notice our disliking mind so
yes for most of my life i was like i
don't like that
you aren't xyz enough the content that
you're creating on youtube
is useless it's not adding anything to
the world how come there's millions of
views
you know things like that so if you want
to use youtube videos as an example
i never grew up watching youtube just
videos here and there especially
back in the day when youtube first
started all those asian mother
content ryan higa all of that but then
when i started
creating videos i was looking at other
channels to
scope out the competitive landscape of
what exists on youtube
who are the people who are popping off
who have been popping off
and i was just
why why do people like watching these
things there's no depth there's no
meaning they're not really adding
much value to people's lives and it
wasn't
until recently when i took many many
steps back i was like well yeah
different people consume different
content and different people want to
fill their time with different things
and who am i to be the judge to be like
i'm better than you
on the outside is being judgmental right
but inside
it could be jealousy it could be
insecurities it could be projecting
insecurities
it could be it could be anything on the
outside we're judging
but the inside we're hurting that's why
we're judging right it's like hurt
people hurt people
so what i've learned over time is that
judging someone
doesn't make me a better person and it
won't make me closer to people
and it just it doesn't add any value to
my life
so going from thinking i'm too cool to
consume this content or i'm to whatever
to consume this content
i dove deep
into the rabbit hole of lore diy and
emma chamberlain over the past
week like i watched so many videos and
they inspired me in ways that i
wouldn't have been able to be inspired
by had i
a non-watch their content and be
continued to judge so
i think it's really we've talked about
this before
we have many many many layers of lenses
in front of us if we're able to remove
them
or at least remove a couple of them it
will help us
see the world through a different lens
or through no lenses
the fourth mindset habit is don't wait
for something bad to happen before you
start living the life you want to live
as humans one of our greatest flaws i
feel like is
we need to experience something
turbulent something that jolts our
system
whether loss whether health issues
whether you know someone in your family
has health issues or just something bad
needs to happen for us to be like
oh wait what am i doing with my life
and i think that's a very
reactive way to live but
again going back to the judgment thing
right like i think before
especially with my exes i'd be like bro
hello stop living like that stop
waiting for something to happen
before you do the things you want to do
and with my closest friends as well
i used to judge hard of
commando why don't you do the things you
want to do why don't you live life you
want to live
and when i talk about doing the things
you want to do living the life you want
to live it's
subjective right to all of us it's
different things what we value is
different our priorities are different
and that's totally fine
but i think the baseline is
it's like that mine's the habit of when
you're 80 you're sitting on a rocking
chair looking at nature
you look back on your life what is the
type of life you want to live and
are you living that life now if not what
can you do
to help inching you closer and closer to
that life that you want to live
the fifth mindset habit was submitted by
one of you i asked you guys on instagram
what is your best mindset habit or one
of the most high key low-key
mind-blowing things you came across
lately and one of you said while
watching a youtube video
no one's gonna move my legs but me what
this quote means to me
is that we are responsible for ourselves
and
responsible for our own lives and we
know ourselves best
to know what we need to do or what we
don't need to do so that we can start
putting one foot in front of the other
this also reminds me of one of my
favorite quotes from
charlie munger who talks about how
success
is waking up every morning putting one
foot in front of the other and
eventually you'll get what you deserve
looking at it from
another perspective this also reminds me
of
when i was younger i used to believe
that someone will come into my life and
help me feel better
to help me not be as depressed to help
me not be as anxious to help me with all
of these things
and while i do believe that people can
come into your life
and help to a certain degree the person
that's going to help you the most and
the person that you've been waiting for
your whole life
is actually yourself that's
where most of the beauty happens where
when you consciously
choose yourself when you consciously
choose to do something when you
consciously choose to be with someone
when you consciously choose to do a job
to pursue a career
okay the six mindset habit is something
we've talked about
a lot in the past and maybe even within
one of these mindset habits videos which
is short-term satisfaction versus
long-term fulfillment but this time it's
going to be through the lens of
the times you're living in which is the
time of counseling which is cancel
culture i have so much to say about this
but i'll save it for a future video
where it'll be dedicated about talking
about things like this but for today one
of you reached out and asked for my
thoughts on cancel culture and i believe
it was for a magazine
that the student was working on and
it got me thinking i was like okay if i
were to break down
my thoughts on cancel culture what would
i say so my personal view on this
is that cancel culture is actually very
reflective of
our generation where we're constantly
choosing instant gratification over
long-term fulfillment
in so so so many areas of our lives if
what we want is true everlasting change
which is delayed gratification which is
something i
wholeheartedly hold wholeheartedly
wholeheartedly english is hard
wholeheartedly believe this is what the
majority wants
canceling each other which is instant
gratification
i don't think it's going to get us to
where we want to be making each other
feel small
making each other feel less than making
each other feel like we're not doing
this or that enough i don't think
it will be a catalyst for true
everlasting change of anything
it's making people even more
divided and fearful it feels good in the
moment it feels like you're doing
something in the moment
but that's not going to
change the bigger
problem it's easy to be triggered and do
something
it's hard to be triggered and take a
step back and ask yourself why
you feel the way you feel
this brings us beautifully to the last
point of only we
know where our hearts truly lie and
that's what's most important
we can do things on the surface we can
do things that we think people want us
to do
but where is our heart really so within
my spiritual practice phallandopha
the three main tenets of the practice is
truthfulness compassion and tolerance of
forbearance
different translations for the word
that's why tolerance forbearance
and it is taught in the spiritual text
that within
truthfulness there's truthfulness
compassion
and tolerance within compassion there's
truthfulness compassion
and tolerance and within forbearance
there's truthfulness compassion and
forbearance i don't know why i just
switched tolerance and forbearance
example if i am truthful without being
compassionate
it is not true truthfulness if
i'm compassionate without being truthful
it's not true compassion and when i
forebear
without being truthful without being
compassionate either to other people or
to myself
then that's also not true forbearance
and
for me personally as a cultivator or
practitioner of philandoff
these are the three main principles i
try to live my life
through i really do believe that the
heart is
what is most important and having
shifted my mind to
seeing people's intentions rather than
execution or delivery of what they're
saying has actually
helped me it's freed me a lot before the
thing i used to say to my mom all the
time is like mom
i know you have good intentions but your
delivery sucks
because i think she's very truthful and
not as compassionate
now when she says things to me and i'm
like oh dagger in the heart but like
it's coming from a good place noted
mother i will not fight you
and from another perspective it's also
helped me
realize as someone who used to
fear other people's judgment
and who would have crumbled if i ever
got canceled
because i now have these frameworks to
think through
and i realized the only person whose
judgment
matters in my existence is
my creator or the creator of the
universe it helps me
reframe and not allow what others think
of me get to me
as much as it used to as long as you're
being true to yourself
as long as you're being true to your
faith as long as you know your heart is
in the right place
that's all that matters you don't owe an
explanation to anyone
you don't need to please anyone if
people misinterpret you
if they misunderstand you it's on them
right but at the same time if you want
to kindly point things out or kindly
explain to them like oh hey this is
where i'm coming from i think that's
perfectly fine and with that
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