Unknown Speaker 0:07 So we recently asked our Instagram community, if
there was just one thing that your partner could do this year to make your relationship better,
what would it be? And a ton of people responded to speak my love language. Yeah. So if you haven't
heard of it, the love languages basically refers to the ways that we each like to give
and receive love. And oftentimes in relationships, we have different languages. And that can lead to
a little bit of miscommunication or just not understanding like not feeling that love that
your partner is actually sending to you because you guys are speaking different love languages.
So we have been doing an entire series about each of the five different love languages. And today,
gifts are the language that we are talking about. So gifts is probably the most misunderstood love
language. We're going to talk about that in a second. So we wanted to make sure we really
got into like, what is this love language all about? Is it just materialistic, like,
all you want is gifts. And we are going to talk especially about how to love your partner in the
love language of gifts, especially if that is not your love language and you're just thinking like,
okay, so I have to give you a gift. Like every frickin day.
Unknown Speaker 1:16 It seems weird. It feels
hard. But listen to this video, watch this video. Don't listen to it, watch it, but don't
Unknown Speaker 1:22 listen to it. Listen and watch and
Unknown Speaker 1:26 listen to and watch
this video. And you will see that it is not as hard as it feels right now.
Unknown Speaker 1:32 Before we get into that though,
we want to know do you know what your love language is? So
drop us a note in the comments and let us know what your love languages.
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Unknown Speaker 2:10 Alright, so let's talk about what
receiving gifts as a love language really means. Now let's just assume that your partner is a
receiving gifts person, which I'm going to assume because you're probably watching this wondering,
alright, how do I deal with my partner? How do I do this? So what does it mean your partner
probably feels the most loved when they are being given gifts. And it's really easy to jump to this
conclusion that, you know, this person is maybe materialistic. But the reality is,
it is not about receiving elaborate or expensive gifts, like it is all about the
effort and surprise, it's really the thought that counts. So it could really be as small
as like you're at the grocery store, you see their favorite chocolate bar, and you're like,
you know what, I'm gonna grab that, bring that home for my partner, and give it to
them when you get home. And that's gonna feel so meaningful. Alright, so let's give you some
Unknown Speaker 2:59 tips for how to love your partner,
if their love language is gifts. So like Sandra was just saying, it's really so much more about
the thought involved, like your partner wants to know you're thinking of them, you're,
you know, kind of throughout the day seeing things that you think that they might enjoy.
So again, it's like the intention behind it is so much more meaningful than the actual gift. So
that's what you kind of want to go throughout your day, like kind of thinking about your partner,
and what are things that you you know, that they might enjoy. Not that you have to be thinking
about this, you know, every single minute of every single day or anything like that, but
sort of looking at the world through this lens of like, what would your partner appreciate about it?
Unknown Speaker 3:36 Yeah, and along with
that surprises can be so meaningful if your partners are receiving gifts
person. So really try to think outside of the typical times that you give gifts like
holidays, or birthdays or Valentine's Day, you know, it's just like that day to day
stuff like Vanessa was talking about, is there something cool that I can do to surprise them,
you know, something that they're really going to appreciate just like on a random day?
Unknown Speaker 4:00 Yeah, the random aspect of
it is so meaningful because I think sometimes even gifts love language people they're like
they know to expect the gift on Christmas. But it's it's like a random Tuesday and you brought
something home like that feels really exciting. So with this love language, it's really all about
like the small but mighty gestures, so little tiny gifts that you give your partner for no
reason whatsoever, not because it's their birthday, or it's unexpected time of the year.
Even little love notes could be a gift. So I think a lot of times we think about gifts,
we think expensive material things but a gift could be like just a little love note that you've
written to your partner. It could be flowers, maybe even a framed photo of the two of you.
So definitely focus on those little gifts that you could give more frequently things that don't
cost very much or don't cost anything at all. But of course it's also nice to think about the
larger gifts too. So maybe put a little bit of extra thought and effort into those as well. And
Unknown Speaker 4:55 if that is feeling really scary to
you right now, here's the pro tip keep a list on Your phone of all the things that your partner has
mentioned that they really like or that maybe they want. If your partner's love language is good,
I promise they will definitely be dropping plenty of hints, you may just need to learn
or train yourself to start picking up those hints. So you know, if you keep this list,
you're always going to have some inspiration when it comes time to get a gift. Or you know,
you might just notice something out in your day to day life that you're like,
oh, that's something that they were talking about, like four months ago, that's going
to be so meaningful, because it's going to be such a nice surprise. Yeah, keeping that note
Unknown Speaker 5:35 on your phone is just such a great way
to train your brain to pay more attention to this because again, if this is not your love language,
it's not going to come naturally to you, so it's going to take more effort.
Alright, so one of the unique things that we've been doing with this love language
series is to talk about ways to bring love languages into the bedroom. So fortunately,
this is one of the easiest ones to bring into the bedroom. Because there are so many different sex
related gifts that you can give to your partner. Could be lingerie, sex toys, lube, books, videos,
one of our courses are our guides and so we will put a link in the description box down below
to some of our favorite stuff that you can check out to gift to your partner. Alright,
so that wraps up our video on what to do if your partner's love language is gifts.
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