Especially, when you are having to negotiate with them
or deal with them in any kind of adversarial situation.
I'm going to give you 10 by the end of this video,
so stay tuned and make sure you watch till the end.
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I'm going to give you 10 tactics to put a narcissist in their place.
So make sure you watch till the end so that you can get all 10.
I know, super hard, because believe me,
not only have I had to see how it is
to deal with narcissists in my law practice,
but I've had to deal with them in my life as well and
it's really, really hard because they give you plenty of bait,
they are constantly trying to trigger you,
That's their MO. Why? Why do they do that?
Because they get narcissistic supply from that.
Yeah, they actually get off on that.
They enjoy watching you squirm, they enjoy intimidating you,
that's part of their coal level supply, I call it coal level supply,
the Diamond level supply that feeds their ego,
is how they look to the world,
but like their underbelly, that dark underbelly of supply,
the supply that also feeds their ego
that they don't love to tell the world about,
they would never tell the world that this is something they enjoy,
but they do enjoy devaluing, debasing and
degrading people, controlling people,
so don't react to their bait, because when you do,
it also potentially gives them something they can use against you,
so be careful about that, okay?
So, you fluff up their ego a little bit to get something that you want;
you give something, to get something.
So, it looks like this, “Hey, can you do the QuickBooks today?
You're so much better at math than I am”.
You get them to do something,
so that you get something out of it,
they get something out of it.
What do they get out of it? They get that adulation,
which is something they love and desperately need,
narcissistic fluffing and bartering, that’s number two.
They love to talk about themselves and
then that tells you what's motivating them, super important,
especially when you are negotiating with them and
you are using my S.L.A.Y methodology,
of course, my S.L.A.Y framework,
strategy, leverage, anticipating and focusing on you.
You are slaying your negotiation.
So, when you are anticipating,
you're creating that strategy and you're creating that leverage,
you need to figure out what's motivating them.
So, keep them talking to find out what's motivating them.
They always lie and contradict themselves,
they can't help themselves, that's what they do,
That's how they are in the world, that's just their way of being,
those lies and contradictions turn into fantastic pieces of leverage.
When you respond though, be very careful,
because remember, everything that you do,
turns into a potential exhibit as well and
remember they're always trying to bait you,
so, be careful about that and
I do have an entire video on
“How to respond to narcissistic text messages”,
definitely check that out, really good video.
Now, be very careful about this,
especially if you're dealing with somebody who may be dangerous,
always have to give that caveat.
But if things aren't adding up, call them out,
say, “Hey, how come you're here at this picnic today?
Thought you said you were sick yesterday”, something like that.
Remember that gives them narcissistic supply.
So, if they're showing up places just to annoy you,
or doing things just to bother you, don't notice it,
you know that they're doing things to try to trigger you,
don't notice it, act like you don't care, right?
I know it's hard, so just breathe.
Take a breath, just breathe, you can do this.
I've helped thousands of people do this and
you can do this too, you can win.
So, just breathe.
Write that in the comments right now, “Just breathe”.
Don't allow them to do that.
They have conditioned you, you are conditioning them right back now
you're changing the dynamic here.
They have conditioned you to believe certain things and
acting in certain ways and being in a certain way
in your relationship with them,
so they think that you're going to be a certain way
when they act a certain way and you are changing it now.
No longer are you retreating and in fact,
you're now standing your ground and in fact,
you're actually going to start marching toward and
they're not going to like it, that's okay.
You're going to stand your ground and it's going to be okay,
I promise you.
In fact, it's going to be better than okay.
Please don't just act willy-nilly.
That’s the only way.
You’ve got to figure out a way to create leverage
that's actually going to motivate and squeeze them,
that's going to threaten a source of narcissistic supply,
that is more important for them to protect defend and maintain
than the supply that they get from jerking you around,
You're slaying this, you are putting these ten tactics into place and
these will put a narcissist in their place.
It works every single time and
if you are so ready to start slaying that narcissist,
grab my free “Crush my negotiation” prep worksheet,
at winmynegotiation.com,
go do it right now, don't wait.
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remember that today's a great day to start negotiating your best life.
I will definitely see you in the next video!