Have you ever received one of those text messages that makes you seriously wonder, "What does
this actually mean? Like, what does it mean? Is he blowing me off or just playing hard to get? Is
he super annoyed, or is he actually just super busy?" Ladies, text messages can be so cryptic,
which is why today, I'm breaking down 8 of the most common text messages that guys send.
And, I'm dishing the dirt on what these text messages actually mean. If you are new to Ask
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Text #1: "Cool."
So, if the term cool is being used in conjunction with the two of you actually meeting up and
going on a date, for example, you say, "Meet me at the boardwalk in 5." And he says, "Cool."
That's a really, really positive thing, and it means he's probably interested in you. But the
majority of the time guys actually use the term cool as a response is when you've reached out
with some kind of initiation to them and they've responded simply by saying, "Cool." So, say
you send him a funny picture, or video, and he simply responds with, "Cool." This is an
obligatory response designed to placate you and ultimately shut that conversation down.
Someone who says cool is being polite, but they're not necessarily interested in a romantic
relationship. Someone who likes you is not going to just respond with cool. They're going to
send you something funny back, or respond to the comment that you made with another question
designed to keep the conversation going.
#2: "I'm so sorry, I just got this text message right now."
I really don't want to upset anybody here, but ladies, I think I'm going to actually have to call BS
on this one. Because, there is nobody, nobody left in 2016 who is not constantly checking their
phone. Like, I think this is actually such a bad excuse. I think it's totally acceptable to say, "You
know what, I saw your message, but I was in a place where I couldn't get back to you. So, I'm
just texting you back now," Or like, "I saw it and I totally forgot about it. I'm so sorry." But to
say that they actually haven't seen your text, I think, is a little bit of a fib. So, the real question
you have to ask yourself is why didn't they respond to my text? And the truth is, if they had to lie
to cover up what they were doing during that time, they were probably doing something that they
didn't want you to know about. I'm sorry guys, but I don't think this guy is dating material.
#3 is any text that comes during odd hours, like the middle of the night, or during the day when
he should be at school or work. So, this is a really unexpected one. A guy who texts during odd
hours can actually fall into one of two categories. One, he sees you as a booty call, which is why
he's texting you at night. It's like, he's bored, he's lonely, he's looking for a little love. But, this
guy doesn't have the respect of the planning skills to ask it at a time that's right for you. The guy
who wants a booty call is only thinking about his own needs. Option number two, the guy who
texts during odd hours may actually have something else going on. Evenings and weekends are
usually the time when you're hanging out with your significant other, so there's not a lot of room
for texting with someone else. So, if he's totally avoiding you during those peak hours and then
texting you a lot in those kind of off hours, you're likely his person that he has on the side.
#4 is if he sends you a link or a picture of something totally random and you're like, "What is
this? What is this supposed to be? I have no idea." Well, ladies, I have some good news for you.
If he sent you a link or a picture, even if it's totally random, it's another way of saying, "I'm
thinking of you." So, it doesn't actually matter what the content is. It could be a picture of an
emu, for all I care. If you're in this situation, it is all good news. It means he likely has a crush on
you.
Text #5 is "Good morning," or "Good night". This text message is actually pretty simple. Like,
it's just a couple of words. And you may even interpret it as, "He's just a friend. Like, he's just
being friendly with me." But chances are, if he's actually thinking of about you at the start of the
day and then possibly again at the end of the day, chances are he's quite enamored with you. If
you actually like this guy, you should definitely take the opportunity to say good morning or
good night back to him and let this grow into a bigger conversation. Because chances are, by
saying good morning or good night, he's trying to start up a bit of a conversation with you.
#6 is no response 24 hours or more after you've sent him a text. I have seen so many girls, and
women, agonizing over guys, being like, "Why hasn't he texted me back? Has he gotten so
busy? Maybe he had a really rough week at work. He's just studying. He's busy." Like we create
every excuse in the book as to why somebody will not text us back. And in every case that I've
ever seen of someone going through this situation, it's because the person just genuinely didn't
like them enough to send them a text message back. If he doesn't like you enough to send you
back a text within a reasonable period of time, he's likely just not worth pursuing.
#7 is "Send me a sexy picture." What you need to know is that the motivation behind asking
someone for a sexy picture is actually not what you think. Someone asks us for a sexy picture,
we usually think, "Oh my God, it's because he likes me so much and he thinks I'm sexy. He
wants me to express that." But actually, it's usually coming out of the need for validation for
himself. If he's feeling ugly, or if he's feeling down, or if like his friends don't pay enough
attention to him, all he has to do is pull out the sexy picture of you and all of a sudden, he's the
man. And this all happens at your expense. So, if a guy sends you a text message for a sexy
picture, think about what his motivation might be. Why is he feeling so insecure that he actually
needs you to prove how much you like him with a picture. And if he really, truly cared about you
and your well-being, would he even be asking you for this at all? The answer's no.
#8 is a text message of an article or a video relating to something that you've talked about at a
previous time. When a guy sends a text message that references something that you've talked
about earlier, it means that he's had a chance to think about what you've talked about. He
obviously enjoyed what you talked about. He's thought about it further, and now he's trying to
reignite that discussion with you. That shows that he's totally thinking about you and he wants to
impress you. If you even remotely like this guy, don't hesitate, because he's all yours.
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