Today, we're discussing why men cheat so that you can understand it and maybe you've been
prevented in the future. Hi, I'm Mark from Make Him Yours.
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Hey guys, it's Mark here again. Today, we're discussing why do men cheat?So why the guys
do it? It's a question that I get from so many girls cause they just don't understand
what's happened. Why did he go out and do this. Today, coming from a guy, I want to
give you girls the reason guys cheat, this is from talking to them. This is from knowing
them. It's from understanding being a guy. Let me give you the six main reasons that
guys cheat and explain to you how you can maybe help prevent it in the future. But how
a lot of the time, look, it isn't your fault. And ultimately when a guy cheats, it's never,
there's never an excuse for it. There's reasons, but they're not excuses. But we're at least
going to go through the reasons, so you understand. So number one reason that a guy cheats is
he doesn't feel like he deserves you.
So the best way to explain this is if you've ever heard the metaphor or the story rather
of the princess and the slum boy, and what happens is the princess comes down from the
castle on that and she makes a slum boy and they fall in love. And long story short, he
is set to become a prince. Incredible life for him. And then what happens? He goes and
cheats on the princess with another slum girl. Why did he do that? Because he ultimately
felt deep down like a slum boy and like that was all he deserved. So he skipped ahead before
he got rejected by her and did it himself. Now, this is a metaphor for real life and
a lot of guys cheat in real life for the same reason they don't feel like they deserve you
or have the self esteem to feel like they're worth dating you.
If this is the case, look, there's not a lot you could've done about it. It's just something
you've got to move on from and you can look to date guys in the future who are gonna value
themselves more, and be more on your level. Number two, he doesn't feel sexually validated
by the relationship. So what this means is women often find, they underestimate just
how much guys care about our sexual validation, just how much we need to feel like we can
please you. Like we're attractive, like where sexual people who can do it for a woman. Never
underestimate how much a guy cares about that. When he's single, it's easy. He can find girls,
he can text, he can sext, he can date lots of different girls, but when he's in a relationship,
you're the only one that can give it to him. You are like the keeper of his masculinity.
So if he can't please you, if you don't want him, if you're rejecting him a lot, slowly
but surely, that guy's going to become less and less confident and validated sexually.
And unfortunately, one of the ways guys deal with that is to cheat. There's otherwise,
I mean, he could talk to you about it. He could just break up with you first, and that's
the more noble ways. It's a reason, it's not an excuse, but it's why a lot of guys do cheat.
Number three, he's more validated by men than he is from women. So in this case, he wants
the guys' validation. So this is the guy that's pretty insecure and he just, you know, he
has sex with a girl and then his first thought is, I can't wait to tell the boys about this.
It's all about getting the guys' approval, getting the guy's attention.
And so in this case, there's not a lot you could have done because you're not a guy.
If he wants to tell the boys about his conquest, then he probably wasn't the guy to be in a
relationship right now. You know that now. A lot of guys will grow out of this, but it
does take time and hopefully that's not time spent wise around cheating on you. Some guys
never grow out of it. Move on. The guy's just insecure. Find a guy that's more secure within
himself that he doesn't need the validation from the boys when he's with you. Number four
he no longer feels for you, but he's scared to leave. So this is the guy that unfortunately
has copped out of the relationship months and months ago. Mentally, he's not really
in a relationship with you. He's not in love with you anymore, but he's sticking with you
because you've been a pussy and he's scared to leave.
Hopefully you realize this point now and you've broken up and if this is the reason the guys
cheated on you, hopefully things have come good and you've solved it now. Number five,
he has a need for variety that isn't being met or that feels trapped in a relationship.
So you know all of us need variety in our lives and excitement. You do, I do, we all
do. You can get this variety though in lots of different ways and that's where people
differ. For example, some people just need to watch TV or sit outside and watch the birds
to get some variety in their life. Others have to jump off cliffs, have to climb mountains,
have to get on jet skis in foreign countries and have sex in crazy locations. The way you
get the excitement in your life can vary, but we all need it. This isn't to say that
a guy that needs lots of variety in his life can't be in a stable relationship.
He certainly can, but he's going to have to be with a girl who needs similar amounts of
variety as he. They're going to need to do crazy things together, maybe go on holidays,
sex in crazy places. They're going to have lots of outward fun together. But if you're
more of a secure type girl who doesn't need that much variety and a guy is strongly variety
driven, unfortunately, one of the obvious places that a guy will go to get that variety
if he feels trapped or bored is sexual. And number six, he's not emotionally stable, so
no guy in the world has ever said and there such great time with my girlfriend. I love
us so much. We're going so well. I can't wait to cheat on her. No guy said that ever. Guys
cheat when there's emotional low points. So when there's massive fight, when you guys
are bickering, when something's gone wrong, that's when he goes out and does stuff with
other girls and a guy that's not in check with his emotions is going to do that far
more often and it's going to be way more vulnerable to doing that.
If you've been cheated on for this reason, just take solace in the fact there's not much
you could have done about it. The guy wasn't emotionally mature enough to date you. Hopefully
you can move on to guys who are, and every time you have a fight you're not going to
have to worry about whether he's out doing stuff with other girls because he can't control
his emotion.
Girls, it's a bit of a sad topic, but I really hope that that gives you some understanding
as to guys, why they cheat and that there are reasons. There's not excuses. Nothing's
an excuse. He could always talk to you about it or in your relationship, but there are
at least reasons and hopefully you understand them in particular. You can play a role. If
you make sure that your guys sexually validated by you and that he's always feeling good and
like he can please you and that you're attracted to him. Girls, thanks very much. Do you agree,
disagree with these, let me know. Are they sort of in congruence with your experiences?
Have you had something similar or different? Posts in the comments? I'd love to hear from
me so we can share it and make girls more aware of this stuff. Make sure you check out
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And if this is the reason the guys cheat on it and if this is the guy.