have you ever gone on a first date and just instantly clicked with a man and decided right
then and there that he is Mr right for you and then you literally married him on a beach in the
Bahamas in your head before he'd even finish dessert look it's really easy to stay calm
and cool and collected on a date when you're just not that into a guy but when your dream
man appears all of this just seems to vanish you just lose your girl game and you turn to Mush and
then before you know it you've leaned in way too much and then he starts to pull away and you're
wondering what the heck happened was it my breath nope was it my outfit nope was it because I told
him I canned tuna for breakfast possibly was it because I'm so awesome that I intimidated him
definitely not the problem is that you just gave too much too soon you over invested in him before
he started investing in you you literally closed the doors to all the other potential guys before
you even really knew who this guy was so repeat after me in the comments below never give a man
unearned affection don't put him on the pedestal and if this is a dating pattern that you continue
to repeat here are five tips to break that cycle over investing in one guy
number one have such a busy social life that it's impossible for you to over invest look women who
have lots of passions Hobbies interests and Friends very rarely over invest in a guy
because honestly they just don't have time for it whereas women who literally live on their phone
and sit at home every single Friday and Saturday night hoping that he will call or text you those
tend to be the needy nancies of the World by the way sorry if your name is Nancy it just works so
don't forget this core principle that we teach at love strategies no man will want a life with you
unless you have an amazing life without him oh and by the way vice versa we also want him to have an
amazing life without you I mean when you have an exciting and thrilling life I mean you're just too
busy to get hung up on one guy waiting for him to just text you back my name is Adam Littleton the
founder of this company called lovestrategy.com where we do help successful single women get
out there and track long lasting love but let me tell you 20 years ago before I was a dating coach
before I helped all of you women attract love I used to be a chronic over investor I mean I would
wear my heart on my sleeve and what I really liked a girl it was just all over that was it she's all
I could think of and it wasn't until I made this shift where things started to really change once
I started feeling all that emotional energy kind of flare up and just focus on one woman get that
one itis instead of putting it into that woman I actually put it into meeting other women or other
people and focusing on my social life and in fact that like kind of emotional energy that one itis
that I would get that excitement it would actually catapult me when I would go out and meet other
people and it made me even more effective and by the way by doing that and shifting my emotional
energy guess what this woman would actually notice that and then come back to me and by the way our
clients don't do this to play weird mind games or anything like that in fact they do this to date
authentically because we want to be authentic when we're getting out and meeting people and
by giving too much of our energy too quickly that's actually putting a guy on a pedestal
no more doing that number two is dating with an abundance mindset I had a client other day we're
talking to in one of my masterminds and she says Adam I've met this guy he is absolutely perfect
everything I've ever wanted everything I've ever dreamed of since I was a little girl and now I can
actually feel him starting to pull away what do I do so I told her openly honestly and that's kind
of our style here love strategies the reason why this dude is pulling away is because you believe
that he's perfect and you don't even know him yet by the way she'd only gone on two dates with this
guy okay perfect for all we know this guy's dating 12 other women in town and he's really
into hooking up in like furry costumes by the way if you don't know what I mean about hooking up in
furry costumes whatever you do don't Google it all right [ __ ] gets really weird all you gotta
know is it's not something you're probably into so I simply just reminded her that he is still
a stranger there are plenty of amazing single men out there and you've got lots of options we
found this guy there's other guys out there and she was dating with a scarcity mindset which is
like there there's only one guy and this man is going to fulfill all my dreams and once we fall
into that trap now obviously once you're married to someone yes we can start thinking more like
that but not after two dates and she had a very scarcity mindset and when we try to hold on too
much to that one person try to control everything that's the moment that they start to pull away
because they sense that you're over investing they sense that you're giving them too much and so what
we need to do is once again remind ourselves he's still a stranger there are other men out there
and oh by the way go start talking to other guys out there so you can really internalize this idea
that yeah other guys exist so if you're ready to find love with an abundance mindset comment below
abundance next I want you to move slower than even he wants to move now when we help our clients go
from feeling single alone and frustrated in their love life to finally attracting that long-lasting
relationship with the man that they deeply desire we walk them through this process that we call
the seven little love steps and there's one little love step that really trips a lot of women up it's
called little of Step number five where we Pace the progression of your connections essentially
what this means is that we intentionally move slower than the guy even wants to move maybe
the story sounds familiar let's say a guy really likes a woman and the woman's still not sure if
he's right for her and then finally he tries so hard and so hard to see her and so he kind of wins
her over and then finally she's like you know what I'm going to give in I like this guy and then they
start to see each other all of the time she kind of goes with the flow and she starts to really
like him maybe you fall in love with him and then anywhere from three weeks to three months he kind
of pumps the brakes and he says whoa whoa whoa we need to slow things down here a little bit
and she's like wait what sometimes guys will move really fast and then when a woman goes along with
that pace they actually start pumping the brakes we don't want that crash and burn whereas when
we follow our pacing strategy this is where we intentionally move slower than the guy and we are
in the driver's seat when you Pace you are in the driver's seat Pace the progression and you paste
the direction of the relationship alternatively if you move way too fast and go with his pace
you're gonna lose in the end so if you do find yourself just moving too fast be sure to pause
take a breath and like kind of just slow things down even more this in turn actually makes men
pursue you even harder and this isn't about playing games you don't need to play hard to
get you actually are hard to get because now you have options that's the power of the little love
steps and when you do this correctly this actually gives you enough time to decide whether or not a
man is worth exclusivity you gotta recognize that your feminine power throughout the dating process
that exists when space exists allow that space to exist and if he's not filling that Gap that
he say that magical four-letter word which is next and you move on to the next and if you
want to learn all the seven little love steps I recommend going to lovestrategies.com we have a
free interactive coaching session that you can check out I'm going to show you everything you
need to know from feeling frustrated with your love life to attracting that man that relationship
you deeply deserve check it out lovestrategies.com number four don't allow yourself to start liking a
guy just because he doesn't like you I mean have you ever noticed this weird psychological effect
which is the more that a guy actually starts to pull away the more you start to feel attraction
for him it's kind of [ __ ] up if you think about it and the more hot and cold tea is the more you
actually want to chase here's the sad reality our Primal brain naturally raises a person's
value when they start to show less interest in US I mean subconsciously it kind of makes
sense we're thinking I mean if he's not into me then he must be a super high value guy so the
big shift that we make with our clients when we work with them is if a guy is not a heck yes he's
not all in with you then it is a no and when you really level up through this process it actually
becomes unattractive when a guy doesn't show up in his fullest energy for you you are the prize
don't forget it and if he's not pursuing you he doesn't deserve you and finally until you
have that DTR conversation which is Define the relationship conversation with a guy keep
dating multiple guys this is something I find myself repeating pretty much on a daily basis
with our clients and that is that until you are explicitly exclusive with one another you
need to realize that you are still single until you've had the talk then you have to assume he
is still talking to other women I don't care if he tells you how much he likes you that he wants
to spend all his time with you I don't care if he tells you that he loves you until you have
explicitly had a conversation that you're not dating or talking to other people then you my
beautiful lady are still single and are free and encouraged to continue meeting other guys
so remember when you date with this strategy you are in the power seat of your love life