there are three habits if you know them and if you take action on it people will
take you seriously if however you miss out on any one of these you'll find life
becomes a struggle because people didn't give you the credibility of the
authority that you deserve and that's why I want you to pay close attention but
most importantly take action on this today insider
let's go straight on to the first habit that you got to utilize for people to
take you seriously which is an analogy that I share with my mentees there are
two character personality types and you'll find you either fit into one or
the other if right now you're lacking credibility and authority what you find
is you are not being a cat instead you're being a dog dog is character
personality types is very likable nobody can really hate a dog let's say all
right everybody likes a dog but the problem with dogs is they are just like
all bubbly just jumping around you know those people you can probably think of
celebrities top of your mind who seems like a dog but the problem with dogs is
they lack that credibility element people can't really take a dog seriously
now on the flip side a cat is somebody who naturally is in a leadership
position people respect the cat leaders tend to come from this authoritative
stance called a cat problem with cats though is cats are not very likable
people take them seriously but they're not very likable so what you want to do
is you wanna master both you want to be a cat but also a dog at the same time so
that way you've got authority but also you've got that likeability this is
called charisma right now my prediction is if you're lacking credibility and if
people are not taking you seriously you're being a dog and dogs trait tend
to be like hey how are you I hope you were they're very like animated they
sometimes say some words as they sometimes aren't the most smooth
communicators they sometimes speak very very fast you know dogs are wagging
their tail be like this oh my god how you doing today oh my god I'm so excited
right but then cats you'll find they speak with authority cats you can spot
them from millions of miles away they've got a very confident stance they speak
with certainty and people listen to every single thing that they're saying
so what you want to begin to do is model those who are cats out there you can
find a lot of celebrities who come from a natural cat stance go watch videos of
even presidential campaigns watch presidents talking and you always
notice they are cats and watch how they paced their speech watch their body
language and begin to model their processes this is the fastest way to
success instead of reinventing the wheel go figure out somebody who's got the
cats stance and go adopt the same body language tonality speak from the
diaphragm for example and this is what I began to do because I used to have a
very weak speaking voice because speaking with one of my biggest biggest
fears but then I began to look at the people who were naturally authoritative
and I began to think like then began to speak like them and before long people
are like wooh Tim you're so amazing at speaking but that's because I learned
from the very best and I model their processes so be a cat now the second one
is very powerful this is called authority by association it's about
understanding the fact that who you're seeing with subconsciously makes others
feel like you're one of them as well and I wanna give you this analogy because
this is basically what happens on a stage this is how we tend to rub off the
authority from the main leader of the event and you can think about how you
can actually do this in your own life okay so on the stage what I tend to do
is this if there is a leader who's hosted this event in front of hundreds
of people and I'm a guest speaker what I ensure is the person who announces my
name is that leader and that way naturally people can see how the leaders
announcing me and normally the emcee card by the way is all pre scripted to
mention about my social proof qualities for example being to meet the president being
invited TEDx speaking around the world meeting world renowned leaders reaching
over 30 million people and they can see how the leader that they
respect already they see how this leaders talk about me very favorably now
the next thing I do is when I jump onto the stage I look at the leaders in his
eyes like I already know him as a friend like really really close friend so I
will look at him like really warm smile and I'll just focus on him and what I'll
do is I'll go for a hug okay or if for example they're really formal is a real
business event I'll give him a handshake but more like a friend shake and that
way everybody who's in the audience can see oh I can see it Tim must know this
guy now instantly I've got authority by association isn't
it's pretty powerful by the way this is subconscious influence strategies happy
to share more by the way those of you who are into influence I know so many
different strategies because I've been in this field for over a decade now do let me
know in the comments box below but this is one of the strategies we rub off the
authority from somebody else by showing others that we're with this person ok
it's all very very powerful but what I found is as soon as I do that when I
begin to speak everybody's listening because they can see how the person that
they really really admire with which is the leader of the event guess what this leader
of event knows this guy and that's me and that way I'm not rubbing off all of
the influence and so think about how you can do this in your life how can you be
seen in a boardroom meeting how can you be seen giving a speech or whoever may
be with a person with authority and how can you make that make it seem like
you're your about same level as them or you've got a close connection or
relationship with them better yet actually build a great connection with
them and guess what the more you begin to become friends with a person with
authority everybody else will begin to respect you as well this is called
Authority by association the third thing is very important sounds obvious but
very important because despite all of this if you like this guess what
eventually people will find out your BS build trust that is a habit that will
give you the respect why because you could be a cat you could be the best
speaker in the world people that oh my god I respect this person then you could
share with them your project your vision you could be for example rubbing off all
authority and people really love it yes I'm going to jump on board your project
but then imagine you fail on the trust element what is trust trust comes from
promises that you followed upon so imagine you sell the vision but then you
don't follow up on the promise what happens then well you've now lost the
trust as a great saying goes trusts can take 10 plus years to basically build
but then it can be gone in couple seconds so realize this follow through
on your commitments anytime you tell yourself you're going
to do something show up make it happen and it's the little things that matters
well remember if you're going to say somebody you're going to show up at 2:00
p.m. and that's the time for the meeting show up at 2:00 p.m. don't be somebody
who keeps on falling back on promises because people remember people don't
forget so if you want to build trust follow through on the commitment Jim
Rohn once said this commitment and staying loyal to what you said you would
do long after the mood you set it in has left you you've got to make sure you
show up every single day you got to make sure whatever you say you do you got to
make sure you actually even over deliver and people began to see how this person
you you're like somebody who can just make things happen you sell big but guess
what you also deliver big that's how you build trust that's how you build authority
that's how you build credibility and that's how you make people take you
seriously I hope you found today's video helpful insider
these are the three things the habits that you can try out today let me know
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and as always insider go forward today strong maybe practice being a cat
or whatever maybe and as always follow your heart and take action and go live the
life you're truly born to live I'll see you on the next video soon take care