Mat Boggs: Hey, this is Mat.
Today, we are going to be talking about how to make a man chase you long term.
This is an important topic.
There's lots of advice out there on this, but I think you're going to find this video
a little bit different.
To help me kick off this video and to teach this video, I want to bring you someone who's
got expert advice in this and bring over Mark.
Get over here, man.
Get out of the fridge.
Mark Rosenfeld: I'm hungry, bro.
Mat Boggs: Dude, I have already looked in there.
There's nothing in there.
Mark Rosenfeld: Are you serious?
Mat Boggs: Get over here.
Mark Rosenfeld: Hey.
Mat Boggs: Let me bring you Mark Rosenfeld.
This man, you probably already know.
If you don't know this man, he has an amazing YouTube channel.
Absolutely check it out.
Today, we're going to be talking about how to make a man chase you long term.
Now, as Mark and I were masterminding this, we wanted to bring you something cutting edge
that would absolutely make a difference in your love life, and the challenge is there's
a lot of videos on YouTube about this and a lot of bad advice on this.
Mark Rosenfeld: Exactly.
There's some good videos around this, some great advice, and then there's some not so
good advice, but we found there was two really big problems with the advice out there.
The first is that a lot of it's manipulative.
Frankly, it's game playing.
It's trying to create this desire using these weird games.
If the guy catches on to you doing that, which he will, it makes you seem incredibly low
value, and he's not going to chase you at all.
Mat Boggs: It doesn't feel authentic.
It's not you.
It doesn't feel good to use those strategies.
The other challenge is, let's say you use good strategies.
They're usually built for a short-term solution, which means after you are now in a relationship,
so you've been dating a few months, and you say, "Hey, I want to commit to you.
You want to commit to me.
Let's be together," now those strategies no longer work for creating a tension in the
relationship and keeping him chasing you.
So what is it that actually creates that chase in a man, creates that feeling of being drawn
to you long term?
Mark Rosenfeld: That's right.
Exactly, because what if you're living with him.
How do you keep a guy chasing when you're stuck together?
Speaker 3: Woo.
Mat Boggs: Or you're married to him.
Mark Rosenfeld: It's really important to know that.
Or you're married or you're in the same space all the time.
What is chasing, really?
Understand that human psychology, if you're wanting a guy to chase you, is about desire,
and when you're wanting your guy to chase you, what you're really doing, even if you
apply those short-term, good tactics, what you're actually doing is you're creating these
waves of desire.
It's like he goes on a great date with you, gets a great experience, and then you have
healthy priorities.
So he gets this space and he misses it, and then he gets another great experience with
you, and then he has another bit more space to appreciate it, but those troughs aren't
so easy to make when you're literally in the same place all the time.
This man sitting next to me has been married for eight, eight years.
He's in a beautiful, happy relationship.
He's got three amazing kids, and his wife is doing things that are making you want to
chase her every single day.
Mat Boggs: Yeah, so- Mark Rosenfeld: Despite all of that, what's
the secret?
What does she do, and what can the high value women out there do to create this permanent
chasing bond?
Mat Boggs: I wanted to pull the curtain back on this a little bit and share with you what
my wife does and what also we see this as a pattern, amazing, high value women who are
in long-term relationships know how to do this.
Remember what Mark was saying about the waves of desire.
The top of the desire is the payoff, is the reward.
Well, the trough of that desire is anticipation, and anticipation is huge in terms of our human
experience in desire.
Think about this.
When are kids actually happier?
Christmas morning before they've opened their presence or Christmas afternoon?
I think we've all been at a Christmas party.
The kids are crying, and they're like, "Ah," because they've already opened their presents.
They're having anticipated the presents are the payoff, and now they're headed down.
Think about going on vacation for a moment.
When are we happier?
Going on vacation or coming home from vacation?
Vacation is the payoff.
Mark Rosenfeld: The whole thing and then the payoff.
Mat Boggs: It's that anticipation of the pay off having some sort of call to action, call
to adventure that ignites that desire.
So the trough in this, in what we're talking about right here, is challenge.
Challenge your man, challenge your man to rise up, challenge your man to provide for
you, challenge your man to help make you happy.
Now, if this is a foreign concept for you, I've actually created a free guide for you
to help you know exactly what to say to challenge him, not in a way that's insulting or critical
or in a way that pushes him away- Mark Rosenfeld: Or demanding or anything like
that.
Mat Boggs: Or needy or demanding, but in a way that actually invokes his masculine energy
because men, we love to step up.
We love to be challenged.
So I'm going to link that up here in the video, also in the description.
Click that link, a gift from me to you, and you can use it today when you read that.
So challenging him is you have an experience that you would love.
You would love for him to take you out.
You would love for him to make love to you.
You would love for him to fix the hole in the wall.
So when you challenge him in the right way, now he has this call to action.
I'm going to be, I'm going to deliver- Mark Rosenfeld: [crosstalk 00:05:20].
Mat Boggs: What my wife wants in this moment, and now he anticipates.
What is he anticipating?
He's not anticipating taking out the trash.
He's not anticipating fixing the hole.
What is he anticipating?
What's the payoff at the top?
Because here's the deal.
The stronger the payoff and the bigger that challenge or that call to action, you're creating
tension.
Mark Rosenfeld: Kids on Christmas morning, right?
The biggest payoff.
Mat Boggs: That's right.
The bigger the tension in that, the stronger his desire for you.
We're going to share with you right now how to create a AAA experience for a man.
What is a AAA payoff for a man?
Mark, what's number one?
Mark Rosenfeld: First A is affection.
One of the biggest payoffs you can possibly give a man is your affection.
Mat Boggs: Absolutely.
Mark Rosenfeld: So your touch, your love to him, a kiss on the cheek, incredible sex,
that vulnerable connection where you accept him.
Whatever it is, that affection that he gets, it stretches that curve, and the bigger the
gap between the challenge, whatever you want him to step up to, and the affection that
he gets as a reward is a huge, huge thing.
You might be in the same house, but how can I get her affection?
How can I feel her affection?
Massive payoff for a guy.
Mat Boggs: Oh, he's anticipating that, absolutely.
The second A in the AAA experience is appreciation.
See, why are we doing these things?
As men, one of our greatest needs, our greatest desires is to feel appreciated, is actually
to know that we made an impact for you, to know that we are providing for you, to know
that we are in part helping make you happy.
A lot of times, this step gets missed.
We fixed a hole in the wall, we take you to a great dinner, we make love to you, all of
that.
The way that you can actually help him ignite that payoff is through verbal appreciation,
letting him know, "Babe, you did an amazing job.
Thank you, babe.
That was awesome.
Thank you so much."
Actually verbally appreciating him is the core of what helps us feel that appreciation,
and a great line that you can use is, "Babe, thank you so much for doing that.
I appreciate you."
Actually speaking the words triggers us as a man.
Mark Rosenfeld: It creates this huge, huge gap, and if you don't do that, he just gets
this, and then it bounces along, and he doesn't have the motivation to chase because it's
a flat line.
Mat Boggs: That's exactly right.
Mark Rosenfeld: Right?
Mat Boggs: Exactly.
There's no payoff.
Took out the garbage.
Thanks.
No payoff.
Mark Rosenfeld: Whatever.
Don't care.
Kills his inspiration to actually do it.
The third A is admiration.
When he gets to feel that stretch, like she's going to admire me if I do this, she's going
to look up to me, and one of the best ways to do this, one of the little secrets, little
hacks, is do it in front of others.
Admire him in front of others, something he's said-
Mat Boggs: In front of your friends, in front of your family, in front of your dad.
Mark Rosenfeld: Friends and family.
Oh, Oh.
Mat Boggs: That's [crosstalk 00:08:20].
Mark Rosenfeld: Admire him in any way that you can, as much as you can, especially in
front of others, and it creates this huge high for him that he's going to continue to
chase.
You can be living in the same place, married long term, and he's still going to be chasing
this high of admiration that he can get from you.
Mat Boggs: We know this isn't just stuff you should do.
We know that men need to be doing this, as well.
Mark Rosenfeld: Absolutely.
Mat Boggs: Men need to be appreciating you.
Men need to be admiring you.
Men need to be showing you affection, as well, and so they have their side to do, but this
channel is all focused on empowering you, serving you, helping you increase love in
your life, one heart at a time, to massive levels.
So now you know the secret to that long-term desire, that long-term chase, is actually
to give him challenges, create that anticipation and a massive payoff, and you do that, that's
something that you can do when you're living together, that's something you can do when
you're married, and that's something that will stretch out, not just days, not just
weeks, not just months, but years and decades.
As you do that, you create that connection strong and that desire in him.
He will be chasing you forever.
My question for you is, what have you found are the things that make a man chase you,
and not just short term, but actually long term?
I would love to hear from you because you are the expert in this, as well.
Go ahead and post a comment below.
Thank you so much for watching this special video that we created for you.
We're looking forward to seeing you soon.
All right.
I'm going to challenge you right now.
Mark Rosenfeld: I'm going, oh, God.
Mat Boggs: Give you a job.
Give me your best Mark Rosenfeld opening, but in an American English accent.
Mark Rosenfeld: Okay.
What's up, you all?
It's Mark Rosenfeld here from Memphis, Tennessee, and I'm going to be telling how to make a
guy miss you.
We're going to be talking about all the secrets of what men want and how to create everlasting
desire in a man.
Mat Boggs: Man, we throw a cowboy hat on you, your sexiness factor just went up three notches
here.
Oh, my gosh.
Mark Rosenfeld: All right.
Come on, Mr. Mat, Aussie accent, your best Crocodile Dundee intro.
Mat Boggs: All right.
Good day, ladies.
This is Mat Boggs coming at you with three secrets for how to make a man miss you.
Crikey, this is amazing, amazing information.
Tune in next week when we're talking about kangaroo sex and the secret to having him
bounce all over your bedroom, bounce all over your bedroom, mate.
Mark Rosenfeld: Come on, mate.
There's no kangaroos here.
Where'd that come from, mate?
Mat Boggs: That was bad.
Mark Rosenfeld: I love it.
Mat Boggs: That's really bad.
I just want to take a moment and thank this man right here, Mark Rosenfeld.
You probably already know him, but if you don't know him, absolutely check out his channel.
Either way, check out his channel, subscribe to his channel.
This man is brilliant.
He's got amazing, deep advice.
I absolutely admire and respect the work that you do in the world, man, and thank you for
making this collaboration happen.
This man flew halfway around the world for these collaborations, and I appreciate you.
Mark Rosenfeld: Thank you, bro.
It's been an absolute pleasure.
Thank you for allowing me to serve you.
Mat Boggs: We'll post a link in the description below.
Make sure to subscribe and check out our stuff, and we will see you soon.